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Thursday, July 17, 2008
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Brent Smith - FREE Dating Mastery Interview Call (FRIDAY!)
Current mood:  rockin
Category: Romance and Relationships
FREE "Dating" Interview
With Special Guest, BRENT SMITH
Friday, July 18, 2008 2pm Pacific / 5pm Eastern
For call in details, click here now:
http://www.attractionamplified.com/brent
Brent Smith, the mentor to the best.
Brent may be best known as being one of David DeAngelo's
mentors, and for his multiple appearances on the Double
Your Dating series.
He's also been featured in Vanity Fair, PLAYBOY, ABC News,
The Wall Street Journal, and blah blah blah. He's the real
deal.
Brent has agreed to let me GRILL HIM for One-Entire-Hour,
and you get to listen in live at no cost!
To Join Us, Click here:
http://www.attractionamplified.com/brent
Here's what we're going to cover on this call:
• "Indifference Is The Difference That Makes The Difference"
• The One Thing Guys Must Learn When It Comes To
Dating Beautiful Women
• The Psychology Behind Giving Out Your Number - And
Why Women Should Be Calling YOU
• Do Looks And Money Really Matter
• POWER - And Why It's So Important
• Thoughts On "Committed Relationships" and Guys
Being Promiscuous
• And so much more!
To Join Us, Click here right now:
http://www.attractionamplified.com/brent
Men AND Women are both welcome to jump on the call,
as Brent has a lot to say to women as well.
SPACE IS LIMITED - This will fill up FAST
Because our goal for the call is to provide you with
MASSIVE VALUE (instead of making it one of
those crappy calls you jump on that just tries to sell
you a bunch of junk the entire time) - we only have
200 lines available.
JUST THIS ALONE HERE is going out to over 13,000
people, and that's not including my dating newsletter
subscribers, or ANY of Brent's people!
This is a once in a life time event to soak up wisdom from
a Lifestyle / Dating Coach, Brent Smith, you don't want to
miss this, trust me.
To Join Us, Click here right now:
http://www.attractionamplified.com/brent
See you soon,
Jonathan Bass
AttractionAmplified.com
PS: Remember, there are only 200 lines available and I'm
completely serious. OVER 200 people have already signed
up for this call, so you'll want to call in 5 minutes early to
make sure you get on.
If you can't get through, just keep trying!
For more info, click here right now...
http://www.attractionamplified.com/brent
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Saturday, April 19, 2008
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Do you know the difference...
Current mood:  sleepy
Category: Romance and Relationships
between a Rock Star and most people?
Guess.
They don't give a f*ck!
That right there should be taught in every single school across the world.
There's so many people who go through life with doubts, they hold their selves back. They allow them self to become selfconscious and insecure.
Whenever you're feeling self conscious, it's ALWAYS for the dumbest reasons in the world.
Women: oh my god, there's an attractive guy, I should have worn make up. I shouldn't have worn this top. (or we could dig a little deeper, but I'm sure you can think of a few situations where you hold your self back from enjoyment and pleasure because you feel self conscious at times).
Same goes with guys: I don't know what to say, I haven't shaved in like a week, and I'm wearing the same clothes as last night.
YES you probably want to get those areas of your life under control... but if that's your situation IT DOESN'T MATTER.
NOTHING in life will EVER matter unless YOU make it matter. Remember that.
You are responsible. You control your responses. Not outside factors.
If everyone could remember to live their life this way, there would never be upset or disappointment - you'll be untouchable.
Bad traffic? It's not the traffic that pisses the guy off, it's HIM. It's his mindset. It's him not being responsible. It's him allowing hisself to get upset. You know for a fact that there's been a time when he's been in traffic (maybe on Wednesday) when he wasn't frustrated.
Stress, insecurity, and ALL negative emotions is not in the situation, it's in your response.
You know why I love teaching so much? It's because I've made every frickin' mistake in the book (is frickin' a swear word?).
I do something ignorant, I learn, I teach. Do something ignorant, I learn, I teach. It's a never ending cycle.
I'm walking into a small restaurant with a buddy tonight and I see 6 beautiful women sitting at a table. "damn - I was just going to the bank, post office, and Jewel Osco today. I don't think my socks even match!"
Whenever there's attractive women, it's inevitably that you'll get into a conversation.
I almost turn back - my buddy even knew what I was thinking lol
Then I remembered it doesn't matter. Nothing matters unless you make it matter!
That's not some Dr Phil self help junk either, it's how reality works.
A common problem a lot of guys have is that they feel they don't know what to say to a woman.
You can pay me $500 an hour (4 hour minimum) and I'll let you give me ANY topic and I'll demonstrate this truth for you.
But keep your money, I don't want it. Look. Go out and say THE WORST thing you can think of saying (that's appropriate and not disrespectful) when you're at a loss for words.
I don't care if you've read a book telling you what NOT to say (don't introduce yourself first, tell her you work at Taco Bell to be funny, etc). I think you'll be quite surprised with your results once you stop following half of the advice you're reading!
You can also say what you think women will find unattractive - lately there's been a lot of pickup artist stuff on TV.
Some women will tell you all day long that it's cheesy and you shouldn't do it. She'll say she'd never be attracted to guys who use it.
May I suggest to you that this makes it even MORE of a reason to try it out. Really.
What women say, and how women respond are two VERY different things.
In fact, I make sure to make friends with these guys every time I see them out -- you'll notice them in clubs, restaurants, side-walks, libraries, parks, EVERYWHERE in EVERY city across the world, it's insane.
Now I don't recommend that you go out and spend thousands of dollars on pick up artist seduction material, you don't need it. You need to create a lifestyle that's YOU, not becoming a clone of some former nerd... but I will suggest that any time you hear this stuff on the news, REMEMBER THE "TRICKS" AND ROUTINES THEY TELL.
One of the EASIEST approaches you'll ever have is when you find out something a woman does not like - and then do it.
I hear women talking about Neil Strauss and The Game and how they wouldn't be attracted to it, and I'll walk straight up and tell them I'm a pick up artist and tell them directly I'm going to run game on them.
You have to see it to believe it, it will SHATTER your reality.
Let's wrap this up, I have friends over who keep distracting me.
The last thing I want to leave you with is a belief I have that you should INTENTIONALLY not look your best when you're single.
When you look your best you run a chance of coming off as a player - or gay. It also creates a lot of jealousy from her male AND female friends when you "threaten them" by eventually becoming more interested in one of the women in the group.
This automatically triggers "cock blocking" responses.
Now let me tell you, attraction is a powerful and beautiful thing.
No amount of convincing, whining, and logic will change a woman's mind when she's attracted to a guy. Better yet, the MORE convincing her parents, friends, or the guy who's been madly in love with her since the 2nd grade but she's just not attracted to attempts to change her mind, the stronger her attraction becomes.
Sadly this is why you see a lot of attractive women dating guys who really aren't the best for them. Nothing anyone says or do will ever change it.
On the other hand, whenever you're single and don't really feel like dealing with a lot of "high quality problems" that may arise... you'll want to try what I call "Going Out Ugly."
Great name, I know.
There's a certain type of guy I've seen running around lately who is full of excuses. They think it's only because you have looks, or that you have money and on and on that attractive women are attracted to you.
Puh-lezzzz, I'm telling you that looking your best is NOT as productive as you may think.
Listen. If you're out and you see a 400 pound man, chances are him becoming your best friend is the farthest thing in your mind. However, what if he came up to you and asked you a question or started a conversation?
May I suggest you would definitely listen to him and at least give him a few seconds. May I also suggest that for a woman, the thought of this 400 pound man approaching her as a romantic interest is the FARTHEST thing from her mind.
When it comes to attraction, these few seconds you would give the guy is all that he needs. His 3 seconds will buy him 30 seconds, then 60 seconds, then 2 minutes, then 3, then 5, then 10, then 30, then 2 hrs, and it will just keep going.
It's the whole "I don't know! One thing just lead to another" experience you hear from women all the time.
If he has a GREAT belief system and view of the world ("inner game") and he wasn't negative, wasn't self conscious or weird, he was fun to be around, he had a great group of friends and overall he really had his life together... pretty quickly a woman will forget just how unattractive the guy is.
In fact, she'll even start to convince herself that he's cute!
Is your social life REALLY together?
Most guys will never have attractive female friends. They'll always try to sleep with the attractive ones or for whatever reason just don't know how to truly JUST be a friend to a woman.
Once you've made friends with attractive women, you'll notice over the years that they don't always date the most attractive guys. You'll wonder what she's doing, if she's drunk or gone crazy, and she'll try to tell you that she thinks this guy is cute! It's insane.
What it comes down to is this: Go out, have fun, and just don't give a f_ck. Nothing's bad, you can never do anything unattractive unless YOU think it's unattractive in YOUR mind first. You almost project your beliefs to the world and tell other people how they should respond to you, literally.
Also remember that the more "unattractive" you can make yourself, the easier it is when meeting women. You are truly blessed if this is easy for you, as you "fly in under the radar." She would never expect that you're approaching her romantically - so she has zero negative responses ready to use on you. ...and before she knows it.....!
And last, I LOVE women who are open and honest, so I love to throw in little statements that will offend some people.
Women do NOT know what they want, they respond completely different in reality then how they think or say they would.
For the girls who twist this statement into some odd variation based on TEXT they are reading, that's great. Just go ahead and remove yourself and we'll go our separate ways!
BUT IF YOU'RE a real woman and are open and honest with yourself, you know that there's been times when you were attracted to a man and then found yourself doing things that you told yourself you would never do. True?
Talk to you soon,
Jonathan B.
PS: I haven't been posting as many blogs lately, and have removed many of the previous ones. I want to hear from you, what is it that YOU are interested in?
Pick two subjects and hit reply to send me a message right now. All the best.
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Monday, March 24, 2008
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My Thoughs On Pictures
I was just talking to one of my friends, Lisa...
...and I felt I’d elaborate on why I don’t have
pictures on this profile.
Originally the idea was to keep the profile(s)
separate from the rest of my activities (keep
them personal).
Being inquisitive, I found it pretty fascinating
that what was happening was counter intuitive.
Hate to sound like an asshole (well!), being
honest, if a woman were to talk to me without
pictures, it’s very unlikely that I’ll respond. In
fact, I don’t believe I ever have.
Beauty in a woman is QUITE important for a
man, and definitely a quality I desire. Deal.
For me, I have thoughts of, "oh, she’s probably
500 lbs or repulsive if she doesn’t have pictures."
That’s my logical mind taking over.
Most of the time this is probably true, but even
in the case where it’s not, beauty IS one of the
qualities I desire, and require. I surround myself
with successful, high integrity, ATTRACTIVE people.
And therefore, to an extent, it’s "worth the risk" of
not building a lasting relationship with someone
who I can’t see their pictures.
I rarely ask for phone numbers now a days, and
I usually find that when I do the woman already
sent her number ages ago on this thing. I’m
constantly meeting new people all over America,
as well as a few Canadians from meeting through
Myspace. Women who I’ve never even talked to
on the phone will come over. It’s fascinating.
Now that 2 years has passed, I personally think
it’s kind of ridiculous that I haven’t loaded this
profile up with picture.
But what’s the point. A picture says 1,000 words.
I could put up a candid picture where I’m sitting at
the computer and a woman takes a picture of me
with my shirt off - yet it’s only the "upper portion"
and completely candid so it doesn’t have that
weird "he’s showing off his body" vibe.
I could have pictures with attractive women - "oh
he’s desirable."
I could have pictures with some of my guy friends,
or my family - "oh nice, he’s well rounded. he’s not
a player, etc etc."
But does it really matter. No. It sure as heck hasn’t
so far!
If I can still build relationships with women I find
desirable, and build other business relationships
without pictures, why not.
It’s interesting because there ARE pictures of me
you can locate, in several places! Just not on this
particular profile.
This is getting longer than anticipated, but I’ll bring
up a couple more interesting points:
There’s something called:
"The Six Degrees of Separation."
According to this idea, someone you know, who
knows someone, knows someone, who knows
someone and at the 6th level it’s going to be ANY
person in the world that you wanted to meet.
Want to meet someone you admire? Start calling.
One of your friend’s friend’s knows that person
personally.
That being said, I don’t like that idea.
It’s too time consuming.
The reason I bring this up is because being
introduced to someone is generally one of the
best ways to meet people. You have instant
credibility, you’re "vouched for."
However, sometimes you have to take different
routes, as the easiest path is not always available.
When you’re personally contacting someone, or a
"gate keeper"... you’re GOING to be "investigated."
Whether it’s the famous real estate guru, the
billionaire entrepreneur, even the New York
Times Best Selling author or simply "regular"
women (attractive, desirable ones - specifically
with fame), you’re "investigated."
Simply put, I’m not that interested in having
someone like Robert Kiyosaki or an attractive
female author who teaches women about
sensuality, sex and the like find my Myspace
page and read a bulletin about me visiting
the penis doc. lol
If you missed that one, I won’t go into it here,
but it was a false alarm and he’s doing great,
(which is all that really matters)
Talk to you soon,
Jonathan
PS: This doesn’t mean that every guy should
take off his pictures. It certainly won’t work for
most guys. It’s just like your financial situation.
Investing isn’t the secret. You can lose your
money in investing, even in real money and
limited commodities like gold. It’s not gold,
the asset, that is valuable. It’s the information
relative to the asset that ultimately makes a
person rich or poor. (In other words, it’s not
real estate, stocks, mutual funds, business,
or money that makes a person rich. It’s the
information, knowledge, wisdom, and know-
how, a.k.a. financial intelligence that makes
one wealthy.)
It fascinates me when guys remove their
pictures thinking it’s some kind of "oh he’s
being a mystery" technique and that’s why
he "has women throwing their selfs at him
to meet him."
It’s NOT not having pictures that creates my
success. It’s what I’ll call my "relationship
intelligence," and the fact that I don’t have
anything to hide!
Look.
If you want to be Myspace friends just to run
up your friend count, great. Just make sure
you add me to your top 8.
If you want to know more, send me your
number and REAL name. I’m not going
to call you "Sunshine Barbie."
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Thursday, December 07, 2006
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Random Facts About Me (by me)...
Always writing.
I can't sleep for like an hour or two after laying down
b/c I'm always writing stuff down (random thoughts +
goals for tomorrow and so forth).
Anyways, was just out in Aurora (the hood!) and was
writing random facts as I drove.
Let's get started!
I'll take one Ferrari over a dozen Lambos ANY day.
I'm a perfect driver.
..unless I'm flirting with an attractive woman.
I LOVE driving long distance and seeing the world (18+ hr
drives in one night).
I'll jump out of a plane anyday, yet will probably never bungee
jump.
Sometimes I LOVE country music.
Take away all the money and phones, and I'm okay.
But I can't go anywhere without:
* Something to write on
* Something to write with
* and chapstick.
I LOVE houses without TV's
I could go forever w/o watching TV
I read 100-120+ books a year.
I took an "extended absence" from high school.
If a book is worth reading (/something worth learning), it's
worth reading AT LEAST 4-6 times.
I LOVE simplicity.
...yet occassionally enjoy the drama with making things
complicated and complex.
I am 100% confident in saying that I believe everyone
can have or do anything they desire in life.
I believe fighting should always be the last resort (and
RARELY - if ever - used).
...even though I could kick your ass :)
I LOVE beautiful women.
My highest goals always come before women.
I enjoy working for a boss for a week every year, as it
builds character.
I wish the best for everyone in life.
I have unconditional love for my ex-girlfriends.
I believe most people need to smile and laugh A LOT
more often!
I try to constantly learn as much as possible...
Yet I never take a "I'm right, you're wrong." standpoint,
as I'm intelligent enough to know I may be wrong half of the
time.
The American schooling system is drastically flawed.
...YET perfect and will not be changed.
My drug of choice is accomplishment.
I always have to keep moving forward and accomplishing
my goals.
I believe that no matter what situation you're in, you're always
the one with the most power - and that no one has anymore
power than you give them.
I do not judge a woman based on anything that I
hear from others, and only judge women based on time
we spend 1-on-1.
I do not find it wrong for women to "cheat" on their bf or
husband - if done with a "high value man" - as a woman
is hard-wired to do so. It's natural.
I believe nothing is EVER anyone else's fault, but my
own. There is ALWAYS something that could have been
done different on your part.
I don't mind if you ever feel something I've done or said
is wrong.
...as it might be!
I LOVE learning.
I will fall in love with a person who is honest with me,
even if they're telling me a hundred "negatives", before
ever respecting a perrson who lies to me (even if they're
with good intentions).
I aim to be exceptionally well rounded and love ALL
experiences in life.
I wouldn't change anything about me for the world.
I love myself.
And I love the sound of a woman's voice, the way
a woman walks in the room, the way a woman smiles,
the way she smells.. the way she tastes...
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Thursday, October 12, 2006
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Moan-making, sheet-ripping, mind-blowing sex...
Category: Romance and Relationships
As you may know, I'm always talking about weird stuff here,
and this issue is no different.
One of the things that I'm fascinated by is dental hygeine and
all things related to it. I've even gone so far as to incorporate
a conversation starter known as "The Dental Floss Opener".
It goes like this:
"Hey guys, settle an argument for us real quick. Now, think
long and hard about this, because your answer will determine
the course of our entire friendship."
"Flossing: BEFORE or AFTER you brush?"
Then I sit back and watch the hilarity ensue. Or at least the
mild amusement.
Actually, how that really came about was one time while I
was out in Austin a guy asked me what the heck I was saying
to women. I told him, "you can say ANYTHING and it'll work."
He pointed to a group of women and told me to talk about
flossing and tiolet paper. I actually ended up dating one of the
girls in the group for quite some time.. but the point is.. later on
when I asked how he came up with those topics he discussed
the advent of a magical new product on the supermarket shelves
which might interest me.
It's a little device like a toothbrush, but with dental floss
on the end. He said it would "change my life."
So I found myself at the supermarket a few days later, getting
chicken and vitamins, and lo and behold, I saw the device in
question. It was roughly 4 bucks, and came with extra floss
heads.
Needless to say, I snapped it right up. Now, I'm flossin' like
a multi-platinum rapper.
My life is changed. Thank you, unnamed friend!
Till I collapse, I'm spillin deez raps, you know this... now let's
take some questions.
"If girls are made of sugar and spice, why do they taste
like tuna fish?"
Genitals have a naturally pungent odor and taste. Some love it,
others don't. If it's a concern for you, take a bath or shower
with your partner, instead of pretending to be comfortable going
down if you're not.
If you go ahead anyway, your partner will sense your repressed
discomfort, and the effort to conceal your true feelings will
take the zest out of your performance. Barring a bath, you should
be aware that a vagina will taste and smell very differently after
it is stimulated enough to create the body's natural lubricants,
which have an addictively delicious flavor.
A little foreplay and hand action can change the menu entirely.
Okay, next caller!
"Something funny happened on the way to orgasm."
Normally I'd never take a question like this, as there's no info
here.. but I'm in a great mood so let's roll with it...
What's the matter? Labia got yer tongue? Whether it's that funny
slurping noise, your penis veers to the right like it's catching
a curve ball, or a pubic hair in your eye, unexpected things will
happen. No one can say what they'll be.
Heck, one girl I know was just telling me the other day how she
started laughing while her guy was coming in her mouth, and it
ended up dribbing out of her nose.
Things like this are a natural part of an active sex life, no matter
how weird they may be!
You might as well expect them and make sure to bring a sense of
humor with you in the bedroom. Taking sex seriously is a surefire
passion-killer.
God Bless America!
Next caller please.
"That was great. Really, it was . . ."
Okay, so I had to include this topic in this newsletter/blog.
Most likely, no one's told you the truth about your sexual skills.
The fact is, women fake orgasms pretty regularly, and it's a rare
lover who openly communicates what they do or don't like, because
they're trying to be nice.
Withholding feedback is extremely counterproductive with regards
to sex.
Since most guys haven't built up the strength and precision of
their lips and tongue through a history of feedback and refinement,
they develop a repertoire based on second-rate skills that every
sexual partner is subjected to.
Everyone -- and I mean EVERYONE -- thinks they have great sexual
skills. Meanwhile, most people will report more than a few instances of
less-than-satisfying sex every year.
You do the math.
You don't have to pass out a Comments and Suggestions card
afterward, but you do need to elicit your partners feedback.
A whispered, "Do you like that?" during will produce more honest
feedback than a "Was that good for you?" after she's already
decided that she just wants to be friends.
That's right baby.
All right, Daddy-O it's time for Magnetic to go floss his teeth
with his newfangled flossing device until they bleed. Then I'll
take a nap and hit the gym.
See you next time.
Sincerely,
Dr. Magnetic
The Sexpert
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Thursday, September 21, 2006
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"Women REALLY Want Assholes"
Category: Romance and Relationships
Hey There Top Gun,
Today I had the misfortune of listening to a self-entitled
"master of women", one of those lovely know-it-alls.
I won't give his name, but his initials are Adam Buckler.
Anyway, this stud was going on and on about how women are
all "dumb-assess", how what they all REALLY want is a man who
treats them like crap. He says that you have to ignore them
and play on all of their insecurities.
He does this, because "that's what women really want. That's
what gets them" - or so he claims.
Life Is Not Always What It Seems
Life is not a fixed thing out in front of us that we simply
adapt and respond to.
Often, life is what comes to you based on what you are looking
for and how you observe it.
If you go around holding a beleif that all women are bitches,
and that they all respond to being treated like shit (by being
ignored and invalidated), then that is what you are observing,
and that is what you'll inevitably attract!
That being said, do I believe that all women are goddesses of
sweetness and light sent from heaven?
Of course not.
Guys Have Been Mislead
Women are human, and being human they are complex, contradictory
and chaotic, whether male female or anything in between!
Society, religion, and the American culture has lied to men,
from the cradle to the grave.
This, as well as a lot of guys being raised by single mothers is
why we have a bunch of girlymen running around (also known as
beta, chump, little bitches, and wussies - oh, and if you have
any other names for them, let me know!).
Guys have been mislead about what they need to do and how they
need to be to have power, choice, and selection with women.
Culture teaches guys, in MANY ways, both directly and very
convertly and hidden, that guys must either bully women (as
that idiot Adam does) or beg for their attention (the old
dating advice and probably Dr Phil, too). Or BUY them with
gifts and dinners (probably Dr Phil here as well).
Thankfully There's a Better Way!
I'm here to tell guys that they do NOT have to do either of
these things. You don't have to be an asshole, and you certainly
don't have to beg or buy a woman's attention.
INSTEAD, you can capture and lead a woman's imagination and
her emotions. This is incredible because this means that you're
listening to her and seeing where she is AND then leading her,
strongly and gently, to where you want her to go.
It's being a gentle-MAN.
And guess what!
Even former bullies can change their ways, as there are plenty
of ways to attract beautiful women -within minutes- without all
the absuive, alpha-Pick Up Artist crap.
It's too bad I seem to be the only one teaching this!
Well, that does it for today. Time to go running.
See you soon.
Sincerely,
Jonathan
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Wednesday, September 20, 2006
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A Secret Window Into A Guy's Inner Workings......
Category: Romance and Relationships
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Initially this was wrote from a "you and I just met in-person" perspective. Later I was told this has a "dating guru" vibe to it, and from the way it was wrote, it threw things off.
I wrote "It's not his fault" and I was completely on the boyfriend's side originally. This is not manipulative, it's simply the laws of social dynamics if we just met. If I were to directly tell you what I think of the guy, it would do neither of us any good.
Whereas siding with the guy would have allowed you to draw your own conclusion (seeing the direct comparison of him and I)...
Let's begin...
A Secret Window Into A Guy's Inner Workings
So here it is. The day has come where I have A TON of
free time on my hands - as I'm suppose to be relaxing
for the next month.
However, this is something I can't do, as I always feel
I should be doing SOMETHING.
So here we go.
I'm going to tell you a secret. Actually, it's your fiance',
your husband, your boyfriend's secrets. You're one
step away from understanding him so well.. even more
than he knows himself!
This, will give you a solid view into how your future with
him will be, as you'll fully understand how he treats and
behaves around you (and other women).
Almost invariably, relationships have certain problems,
here's a list of the most common ones:
* Jealousy related spats (KEY)
* Neediness
* Failure to commit or being too distant
* Abusive behavior (be it physical or mental)
* Psychological withdrawl, to gain certainty in the relationship
i.e. one of you withdraws to see if the other will pursue periodically,
to assure themselves that the relationship is solid. this is dimestore
psychology, and easily observable in MOST relationships
* Being irresponsible (not holding up share of chores, etc.)
* Not being assertive in bed (KEY)
* Being into S&M and other stuff in bed, that you think is too far out
* Getting angry / frustrated when he initiates sex, and you're not in
the mood (KEY)
* Being too predictable, not passionate
The above are some of the basic childish behaviors a lot of guys
bring into relationships. I'll roughly run through these complaints
right now...
Jealousy:
You have to understand that this guy really appreciates you,
because you're probably the best girl that he ever had, or will
ever get. I know that.. you care about this guy.. but there's
just a certain equilibrium where if you've done this guy a
favor by being with him, and he's not equipped to handle it,
since he knows that he'll never get a girl like you again if he
walks out, that he's just constantly frustrated and panicked
that you'll leave.
Neediness:
You've got to understand that for this guy you are his entire
world. He cares about you so much, that everything else in
the world is meaningless to him. You are his only source of
pleasure, and without you he knows that...he's nothing. You
can't blame him, he just doesn't have anything else going for
him, so he needs you.
Failure to commit:
It's not that this guy doesn't love you. He does. Its just
that deep down he has a fear that... you're too good for
him... and that you'll realize it and be like, you know....you
just have to dump this guy.... and then he'll be left
emotionally destroyed because he made himself vulnerable.
Of course I know that you wouldn't do that to him, but it's
just that considering x, y, z (the specifics of your situation),
he knows that you could get other guys... like me...
Abusive behavior:
It's not that this guy doesn't love you. Its that he loves you
too much, and just can't handle it. He's not emotionally
available, and because he knows that you're the best he's
ever had, he can't handle all of these things that he's going
through emotionally.
All his life he probably wasn't very good with women, and
women weren't interested in him.. So now that he's got this
girl, he doesn't know how to handle it.
Periodic Psychological Withdrawal:
This is another sign of insecurity that is typically displayed
when nice guys who can't get girls end up in a relationship
with a girl that is too good for them.
Being Irresponsible:
Its not that this guy doesn't -want- to do these things. Its
just that he's so overwhelmed by all of the things that are
going on, that he just can't keep up these responsibilities.
Of course -what you're asking- isn't that much, but he's
not in an emotionally healthy place right now, and he just
can't handle it.
Not being assertive in bed (VERY COMMON)
It's not that he doesn't want to excite you. It's just that
he's so overwhelmed being with a girl like you, that he's not
equipped to handle your sexual needs.
It's like the typical case of the rich daughter who marries
the laborer. At first the laborer is so exstatic to have
this gorgeous girl (you) wanting him...
But in the end, he cheats on you with some white trash mullet
haired girl, because he knows that that's who he really belongs
with, and that's who makes him feel good about himself.
His lack of assertiveness in bed is a reflection of his insecurity.
With the right girl, any guy can be a stud in the sack ... its
not hard, you just have to take CONTROL.
He's into weird stuff in bed (S&M etc) when you hate it:
It's not that this guy doesn't love you.. Its just that he
uses these things to objectify you, because he knows that he's
never had a girl like you, and probably never will once you're
gone.. so he doesn't want to "make love", because he doesn't
want to make himself emotionally vulnerable to you..
But he still wants sex, so he has to turn it into a perverse
game, to keep his insecurities from overwhelming him.
He gets angry when he initiates sex and you're not
interested (VERY COMMON):
The thing is, that this guy loves you, and he's just exasperated
that.... he's completely impotent to turn you on.. he just can't turn
you on, and he knows that, so he gets frustrated.. Its like when
you want to have sex...with me...
It's like, I know that its your job to get the girl turned on.
Girls need a man who knows what they want, and how to get it.
When a girl says 'no', but at the same time she loves this
guy, it often means please turn me on more.. please, I want
you to be more attentive to me.
[Chemically women are addicted to OXITOCINS which are
released by touch, and most women will hate sex once it
degrades to a lack of foreplay. However, most relationships
have this problem.]
Being too predictable, not passionate:
Its not that this guy doesn't love you. He does. It's just
that he's so comfortable with you now.. and feels so close to
you, that you're more like a sister to him..
Like a special sister, but someone who he doesn't feel that he
has to do all these things for anymore, because your relationship
is so secure and so predictable..
There's no need for all that excitement, because he knows that
nothing will change.. Some guys deal with true love that way..
I dunno, for me, I think that if you really love someone, you
have to keep the excitement alive and be spontaneous and
romantic to keep it fresh.
Like if you are really a real man who loves his woman, you have
to keep the sparks alive at all times to always keep it fresh. But
really, its not that he doesn't love you, its just that he loves you
so much that he doesn't see the need.
In Conclusion
GUYS: If ANY of the above behaviors describe you.. change them.. FAST.
GIRLS: Technically, I feel that it's best that you draw your own conclusions.
I mean, getting shot by your jealous boyfriend "because I made you
break up with him" is not exactly something to look forward to!
Simply put: Determine what you are willing to tolerate and accept in
your relationship.. and then figure out exactly how you want your
man to treat you - then compare that to your current relationship.
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A Match to You -- Or Better
Category: Romance and Relationships
A Match to You -- Or Better
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