Happy Valentines Day Dorks...
Current mood: adventurous

In the midst of a quarter life crisis I just want to say Happy Valentines Day to all my friends, bestfriends, gay lover, normal friends, weird friends, cyber friends and imaginary friends... Hope you're all happy and celebating... I mean celebrating this joyous day of the hearts...

Random inspiring quote:
"Let go and let God...God knows your worth! Seek Him and everything will fall into place" - V.T.

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Mid Life Crisis vs. Quarter Life Crisis
Current mood: grateful
Category: Life

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Why I love Jason Mraz...
Category: Blogging

Aside from his music... I just love his randomness and humor. He's such a goofball.This pic of him never fail to crack me up 

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Haunted Peanut Butter
Current mood: indescribable
Category: Blogging

I've been out of tuna and ham for the past week and I couldn't find time (or just being lazy) to go to the grocery. I can't cook and thats the only staple food I can eat for breakfast. Since going out of the house without breakfast will give me a very bad mood, One hungry morning, I just grabbed some of my landlady's peanut butter and spread it to my toasted wheat bread. YUMMM.... I know I'm semi-allergic to peanut but i didn't care. I had to eat something.

After I finished my landlady's peanut butter I decided to buy one for myself. A "Skippy" peanut butter with crunchy pieces of ungrounded peanuts. You can't cheat a peanut butter. Now it's haunting me everywhere I go... I just can't stop thinking about the Peanut Butter. I think about it when I take a shower, I think about it before I  go to sleep, I think about it when I work. I still think about it when I eat lunch.

Peanut Butter stealing is bad. I know now to never cheat a peanut butter. It'll make you weird. hahaha *coughs*

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Travelling alone...

My first time to travelling alone... ahh.. it is a nice experience for me. I would say it's blessing's in disguise that I dont have a place to crash when I decided to go to Singapore...

As soon as my plane landed last sunday, I was having butterflies... Where the hell will I stay when I have limited budget??? and so i decided to stay in a hostel....

The room... oops i mean the "bed" cost 20SGD per night. I was assigned to the basement room with no window. At first I thought... they're racist, for letting me.. an Asian.. stay in a small basement room. But when my roommates came, They're all blue eyed blondes from Europe. haha I guess i was thinking too much.

I was soooooooooooo lonely the first few hours that i came. I have no one to talk to, I have my laptop with me with no internet connection, I was a loner. Not until I get to hang out with the indian receptionist.. Livin.. (thats his name btw). And then after that I met a South American backpacker Pablo (the friendliest person I know!?!?! with scary hair hahah i'm kidin).

Met a lot of backpackers and it's hard to say goodbye after you've get to know them. It's the first time for me to meet backpackers ( i really didnt know how it works before haha)... some travelled alone for months!?! I was surprised but thats sumthing i would wanna try. Just to see places with no limits, meet people along the way. Forget the hostel movie. hahaha!

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Compulsive Liars Part 2
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Compulsive liar?

When dealing with a compulsive liar, how do you make them realize just how much anger, frustration, and pain their lies are causing?

When someone is a compulsive liar, is it likely that they are a cheater too?

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the problem is with a compulsive liar is that they actually believe in their own lies.. they are so use to lying that their view of reality is clouded, with all their lies ... So to try and get them to realize anything is extremely hard to do.. its like if u look at a red rose, and u see just that a red rose, and someone comes up to u and says thats not red thats yellow, u'd argue till u were blue in the face that it was red cause thats what u see.. same with them, their "version" of the truth, they actually believe, and to try and convience them of anything else would be just a waste of energy..

With a compulsive liar, i would say they would hold the same characteristics of a cheater..

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Thanks to you...
Current mood: grateful
Category: Blogging

Once in a while, when everything seems to be a clutter, when everything is so fast paced and you're caught up with work and stuff, You just cant help but stand still and look around you. For me, there will always be my Mom, supporting me in whatever I do.

From crazy showbiz ambitions, business ventures or interior design career, She's always there, guiding me and telling me... It's possible..

I hate being cheesy... but I wanna let my Mom know how much I love her and I thank God for having a supportive Mom like her.

Mom, if you ever get through my myspace page haha... This blog entry is for you :D I love you...

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Dishonesty...
Current mood: peaceful
Category: Blogging

When you've been hurt by dishonesty, it takes time to heal

What's frightening about that statistic is that with that large a percentage, many of those students have to be practicing Christians.

I doubt that the honesty level is any higher in adults.

Lying, cheating and stealing are rampant in the workplace. People lie to cover their mistakes, lie about absenteeism, and lie on their resumes to get hired in the first place.

With so much deception going on, how can a single person avoid being hurt by dishonesty--and just as important--avoid rationalizing that since everybody else is doing it, I might as well too?

Consider the reason

Most of the time, that's not the case. More frequently, that person lied to cover their own mistake or misdeed. Now that doesn't make it right, nor does it make your hurt any easier to take, but it does shed a new light on the situation.

Some people are routinely dishonest because they have low self-esteem. If they're worried about being perceived as incompetent, they may lie because they're scared.

It's hard to be compassionate and forgiving to such a person, especially when you've been hurt by dishonesty, but it does remind you that it probably wasn't personal. That's just the way that person operates.

Does that excuse it? No, of course not. But when we understand a situation, we're better equipped to deal with it.

Consider the fallout

When the situation comes down to the other person's word against yours, you can tell your side of the story to the supervisor or whoever the third party is. Don't accuse the other person of dishonesty. Don't say they're a liar. Just tell the truth yourself, and let the third person make their own decision.

Being hurt by dishonesty is a bitter pill to swallow, but it's one of the hazards of living in a fallen world.

Consider your attitude

There's only one effective solution: Turn it over to God and ask him to heal you.

Many people, Christians included, fall into the trap of becoming cynical because they've been wounded so often.

Jesus gave us good advice on how to protect ourselves in this fallen world:

That means we shouldn't stoop to the level of sin and wickedness, but we shouldn't let ourselves become doormats, either.

We can maintain our own personal integrity. We can avoid hurting others. We can resolve to move on with our lives. With God's help, we can be bigger than whatever happens to us. That's the only way to thrive.

Currently listening : What Goes Around Pt.1 By Justin Timberlake Release date: 08 March, 2007

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Compulsive liars Part 1
Current mood: indescribable
Category: Blogging

Answer

I'm no doctor but I'll tell you my observations anyway. I have watched that the compulsive liar will ban with other liars and that even though they are both aware that they are lying – it's as though they are comfortable with learning better lies off each other and also comfortable with the way they both feel about each other. The compulsive liar seems as they would be the first to call another a liar. And usually possess traits of fear of abandonment and jealousy. The compulsive liar will also feel superior over other people's lies, almost as if they can see everyone else's lies but they are too smart for anyone to see theirs, therefore a new part of this lie sickness forms. They feel they are almost invincible when they lie, as though they are knife sharp diplomats cutting their way to the top and deceiving everyone with such calm and awe. The bottom line is most will see through this choice of lie (and it is a choice –more later) and turn cold towards them. Compassion is something no one ever gives a liar. And in the beginning of this problem the liar does not notice. But the more they lie the more they alienate themselves from their surroundings further pushing them to either lie more – or make a change. Some even swing from telling the truth to lying, as though it can be forgiven so a new lie can begin, This cycle is painful and hurts the liar, however completely coming clean seems almost impossible. Any compulsive liar who reads this – or who knows a liar who is going down these paths will understand that it takes more than alienation to stop them. Confrontation does not work. Like any problem psychologically, the liar has to be willing to admit and commit and be consciously aware that there are BIG changes that need to be made and small steps in order to release the shell that is no longer useful in their day to day life. The stripping of lies is a VERY painful experience some don't even get all the way through. But remember, at the end of this journey your outlook on love, your surroundings, nature and even life itself will change forever! and For the good. Those who have gone so far that they will never admit to lying and deny every step of the way. I wish you luck in your solace.-- from: http://wiki.answers.com/Q/Why_do_compulsive_liars_lie

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Something to think about...
Current mood: aggravated
Category: Blogging

Compulsive Lying: Overview

There are a number of reasons that people lie. The first is fear. This is the most common reason that people may lie, and they are taking shelter from a perceived punishment. It may be because they know they have done something wrong a single time, in which case it is not compulsive lying. But if they are always in fear of being punished, it may become a habit, which is a second reason for lying. In this case, it may become compulsive lying, which is lying by reflex. Even when confronted by the truth, they insist the lie is the truth in this case. A third case is learning to lie through modeling. When a people see others lie, especially when they get away with it, they may become more prone to lying. Finally, people lie because they feel if they tell the truth they won't get what they want. Thus, out of the main reasons for lying, only lying by habit can truly be called "compulsive lying."

Increased lying has been seen with a number of psychiatric diagnoses such as ADHD and Bipolar Disorder. With ADHD people will often say "I don't know why I did that", and when confronted about why they lied, their answer will be the same. ADHD children also display impulsivity, and they may lie implusively. Bipolar Disorder can be associated with low serotonin levels, which has been implicated in impulsivity, which, as indicated before, makes a person more prone to lie.

Pathological lying, though, can be thought of as being associated with a select few psychiatric diagnoses, which normally have their onset during adolescence. Namely, these are Conduct Disorder and Antisocial Personality Disorder. In conduct disorder, it is common to seelying, conning people and other forms of deceit. In Antisocial Personality Disorder, there is a pervasive pattern of disregard or the rights of others, and with this, the person with this disorder will often lie to get what they wish – usually money, sex or power.

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