Having a vision for our future that differs from our current circumstances can be inspiring and exciting, but it can also keep us from fully committing to our present placement. We may become aware that this is happening when we notice our thoughts about the future distracting us from our participation in the moment. We may find upon searching our hearts that we are waiting for some future time or situation in order to self-actualize. This would be like a flower planted in North Dakota putting off blooming because it would prefer to do so in Illinois.
There are no guarantees in this life, so when we hold back we do so at the risk of never fully blossoming. This present moment always offers us the ground in which we can take root and open our hearts now. What this means is that we live fully, wherever we are, not hesitating because conditions are not perfect, or we might end up moving, or we haven't found our life partner. This can be scary, because we might feel that we are giving up our cherished dreams if we do not agree to wait for them. But this notion that we have to hold back our life force now in order to find happiness later doesn't really make sense. What might really be happening is that we are afraid to embrace this moment, and ourselves, just exactly as we are right now. This constitutes a tendency to hold back from fully loving ourselves, as we are, where we are.
We have a habit of presenting life with a set of conditions—ifs and whens that must be fulfilled before we will say yes to the gift of our lives. Now is the time for each of us to bloom where we are planted, overriding our tendency to hold back. Now is the time to say yes, to be brave and commit fully to ourselves, because until we do no one else will. Now is the time to be vulnerable, unfolding delicately yet fully into the space in which we find ourselves.
Many of us have a deep-seated belief that in order to do well in the world, we have to suffer and sacrifice. This commonly held idea stems from a certain mentality, inherited from ancestors who came before us who may have experienced this as true. Beliefs from our own past-life experiences can also make an appearance in this lifetime. This is often the way in which false beliefs take hold and don't let go, even though they are no longer relevant. We must all live our own lives, in our own time, and learn what is true for us, because very few truths prove valid for all people all the time.
Keeping our minds clear of false notions is not an easy task, as it requires us to first know our beliefs. Very often, these beliefs have settled deep in our unconscious minds where they simply sit unquestioned. Nevertheless, they have an effect on our hearts, our minds, and our reality. These beliefs act on us, creating situations and relationships that we regard as fate, when they are, in fact, simply our unconscious minds manifesting in the external world. As a result, we may not even be aware that we are carrying the burden of a poverty mentality, and we may wonder why we are not manifesting abundance, especially if we know we deserve it. If this is the case, it may be time to look deeper within to see if we can discover the obstacle inside ourselves.
In order to evolve, it is important that we examine the contents of our minds and hearts and get to the root of what we believe about reality. Generally, our concerns of the moment can be trusted to guide our inquiries. If we are not manifesting and maintaining the abundance we know we deserve, then this issue is calling us to look into the hidden corners of our psyches and root out any remaining beliefs that tell us we must suffer and sacrifice in order to do well. Our efforts will take us one more step away from this energy-sapping belief that we no longer need.
Philosophy: Turtles are known also for their remarkable longevity. Many can live to reach 100-130 years old. There is an old Chinese saying: "The tortoise is good at nurturing energy, so it can live a century without food." Early followers of the ancient Chinese philosophy of Taoism are said to have revered turtles because they knew when to withdraw into themselves to restore energy. This is how they were thought to live so long. A turtle, then, can be more than a fascinating pet; it can be a guide to inner peace and long life!
Evolution: Turtles are considered to be the oldest and most primitive of the modern reptiles. The fossil record has not yet revealed any turtle ancestors in the evolutionary chain. That is, turtles (as far as we know) have always been turtles. Fossil specimens of turtles have been found that date back over 220 million years ago!
Anatomy: The most distinctive trait of turtles is, of course, their shells. Adapting to life in a shell has made turtles highly specialized. For example, turtles are unique among the vertebrates in that their pectoral and pelvic girdles are situated inside the rib cage. Also, because of the shell, a turtle's limbs are fixed in a relatively primitive position. This gives turtles their unique "sprawling" walk, distinguishing them from the other vertebrates.
Behavior: Although turtle behavior varies among the 250+ species, some generalizations can be made. Most turtles have efficient senses of sight, smell, and touch. However, the sense of hearing is relatively weak. Also, turtles are generally not vocal. Turtles have managed to colonize every continent except Antarctica. Turtle species have adapted to become either totally terrestrial, semi-aquatic, or mainly aquatic. Also, turtles may be either mainly herbivorous (plant eating), omnivorous (plant and meat eating), or mostly carnivorous (meat eating). One can only wonder at the power of such a silent creature by human standards, that has managed to traverse practically the entire planet.
Turtles Carrying their home on their back, turtles teach us to be always at home in the world. They represent connection with the earth, patience, protection through non-violent means, and the ability to respect our own boundaries as well as that of others, and to have a thick emotional shell.
The classic tale of the tortoise and the hare reminds us that different people take life at different speeds and that one way is not necessarily superior to another. In fact, in the story it is the slower animal that ends up arriving at the destination first. In the same way, some of us seem to move very quickly through the issues and obstacles we all face in our lives. Others need long periods of time to process their feelings and move into new states of awareness. For those of us who perceive ourselves as moving quickly, it can be painful and exasperating to deal with someone else's slower pace. Yet, just like the tortoise and the hare, we all arrive at the same destination, together, eventually.
People who take their time with things are probably in the minority in most of the world today. We live in a time when speed and productivity are valued above almost anything else. Therefore, people who flow at a slower pace are out of sync with the world and are often pestered and prodded to go faster and do more. This can be not only frustrating but also counterproductive because the stress of being pushed to move faster than one is able to move actually slows progress. On the other hand, if a person's style is honored and supported, they will find their way in their own time and, just like the tortoise, they might just beat the speedier, more easily distracted person to the finish line.
It's important to remember that we are not actually in a race to get somewhere ahead of someone else, and it is difficult to judge by appearances whether one person has made more progress than another. Whether you count yourself among the fast movers or as one of the slower folks, we can all benefit from respecting the pace that those around us choose for themselves. This way, we can keep our eyes on our own journey, knowing that we will all end up together in the end.
Witnessing Nature Through Meditation
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Category: Religion and Philosophy
Bird Meditation
When the weather gets colder it can be more difficult to get in touch with the marvel of nature as it exists around us. Finding innovative ways to really connect with nature brings us closer to the wonders that envelop our lives. One way to do this is to perform a meditation with our feathered friends, the bird kingdom.
Just by taking a few moments each day to watch the bird activity that goes on in our backyards through our windows can bring a sense of calm and well-being to our lives. Watching and being with the birds that we share our garden space with us allows us to experience greater feelings of relaxation and gratitude for the diversity that is always present around us. Simply watching, without judgment or expectations, heightens our awareness of the beauty of nature. If you watch the birds for a long enough period of time you will begin to feel a great sense of deep joy within you knowing we are all truly divine. Doing this with our family members will in turn introduce a meditative practice that can easily be shared and appreciated by all, as well as create deeper bonds with each other through the joy of experiencing the healing power of nature.
Looking through our windows and placing a feeder and bird bath in our gardens to attract the birds is a way to call forth beauty into our lives. As we consciously connect with our outer world—even when the weather inhibits us from physically being in it—we see that the splendor we view outside of our windows is simply a reflection of what lies within us.
Meditating with Kuan Yin Goddess of Compassion
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Category: Religion and Philosophy
"With mercy and compassion, Beloved Kuan Yin Melt away this anger, and let me love again Melt away this fear, and let us love again... Om Namo Bhagavate Vasu Devaya" (From the song, "Prayer for the Warriors" by Sophia, on the CD, Prayer: A Multi-Cultural Journey of Spirit)
Kuan Yin is known as the Great Celestial Bodhisattva* of Compassion. Many believe that her purpose is to help people, and that by attuning to her, she will grace you with her compassion. If you call upon her in prayer or meditation, chant her name, make offerings and open your heart to her, she will ease your pain, suffering and ignorance; protect you against illness, disease and disaster; and manifest wonderful and noble things in your life. Some pray to her for help in conceiving children, creating and sustaining harmony in their lives or helping others in need.
Originating in India and brought to China in the fifth century, Kuan Yin was first worshiped as an androgynous figure known as Avalokitesvara. Due to the heavy influence of female deity worship in many Chinese provinces, by the late eighth century, Avalokitesvara had transformed into a feminine deity known as Guan Shih Yin. She is now known by many names (with various spellings) including: Quan Yin, Kwan Yin, The Thousand-Armed Kwan Yin, Royal Ease Kwan Yin and Water Moon Kuan Yin, and is depicted in statuary, paintings, drawings and writings, both East and West.
Quan Yin Meditation:
Find a comfortable position and close your eyes. Allow your breathing to deepen and your mind and body to relax. Imagine that it is nighttime and that you are on top of a hill looking out over the ocean. The full moon has just risen and the moonlight shimmers on the water. You gaze at the moon for a long time; the moonlight is powerful but soft, and looking at it makes you feel calm and happy.
The moon now begins to get brighter and brighter, so bright you can barely look at it. Gradually, it becomes Quan Yin herself, her whole body surrounded by a glowing aureole. She stands on a lotus that floats on the waves. At the sight of you she smiles a beautiful smile, and tears of happiness shine in her eyes. Imagine her radiance filling you, her strength, her peace and her compassion becoming a part of you. If you repeat her name, your mind will be calm, and she will stay with you.
Finally, it is time for her to leave, and she becomes smaller and smaller. At last the sea and sky vanish too, and you rest in contemplation of the beautiful, empty space that is left. Let yourself become space. When you are ready, come back into your body and slowly stretch. Open your eyes and look at the world about you.
The Truth About Animals
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Category: Friends
The Big Fat Wicked Lie People Tell About Animals
Vernon Coleman
Vivisectors, hunters, butchers and farmers excuse the cruel way they treat animals by claiming (falsely) that animals don't have feelings..
This is a lie!A big fat wicked lie which excuses a thousand cruelties..
The truth, as anyone who is capable of reading and observing will know, is that animals are sentient and exhibit many of those qualities which racists like to think of as being the preserve of the human race.. (I think it is perfectly fair to describe those who claim that all ..good' qualities are the exclusive property of the human species as ..racist')..
One of the absurdities of the argument about hunting which has raged for recent years in Britain has been the sight of apparently intelligent people arguing about whether or not animals which are hunted suffer physical pain and/or mental anguish when they are being pursued.. How can there possibly be any doubt about this? Those who do express doubt about this are telling us a great deal about their own innate lack of understanding and compassion and their inability to learn from simple observation.. If observation is not enough there is more than enough scientific evidence to show that birds, mammals, fish, reptiles and crustaceans all have nervous systems and all suffer pain..
Darwin showed that fear produces similar responses in both humans and animals.. The eyes and mouth open, the heart beats rapidly, teeth chatter, muscles tremble, hairs stand on end and so on.. Parrots, like human beings, turn away and cover their eyes when confronted with a sight which overwhelms them.. Young elephants who have seen their families killed by poachers wake up screaming in the night.. Elephants who are suddenly separated from their social group may die suddenly of ..broken heart syndrome'.. Apes may fall down and faint when suddenly coming across a snake.. If a man shouts at a dog he will cower and back away in fear..
Animals Can Communicate
Animal abusers sometimes assume that it is only humans who can communicate with one another.. And yet bees can communicate the direction, distance and value of pollen sources quite a distance away.. Animal abusers generally dismiss animal noises as simply that (noises) but scientists who have taken the time and trouble to listen carefully to the extraordinary variety of noises made by whales have found that there are patterns of what can only be described as speech which are repeated from one year to another..
It is generally assumed that parrots merely repeat words they have heard without understanding what they mean.. This is not true.. Masson and McCarthy report how when psychologist Irene Pepperberg left her parrot at the vet's surgery for an operation the parrot, whose name was Alex, called out: ..Come here.. I love you.. I'm sorry.. I want to go back..' The parrot clearly thought that he was being punished for some crime he had committed.. Another parrot, in New Jersey, US saved the life of its owner by calling for help.. ..Murder! Help! Come quick!' cried the parrot.. When neighbours ran to the scene of the crime they found the parrot's owner lying on the floor, unconscious, bleeding from a gash in his neck.. The doctor who treated the man said that without the parrot's cries he would have died.. The same parrot woke his owner and neighbours when a fire started in the house next door..
How arrogant the animal abusers are to assume that human beings are the only species capable of communicating with one another, and of formulating a formal system of language.. Vivisectors frequently laugh at the animals they torture and abuse.. The concentration camp guards in the Second World War laughed at their victims and called them lice and rats.. The vivisectors talk about ..sending a mouse to college' when they want to raise funds for experiments..
We have the power to do what we will with creatures of other species.. But no one has given us the right..
Animals feel complex emotions.. But the animal abusers claim that because animals do not satisfy our human criteria for intelligence then animals do not deserve any sympathy or understanding.. It is but one step from this to arguing that unintelligent humans can be used for experiments..
Human beings who have taken the time to do so have found that they have been able to communicate well with chimpanzees and numerous other animals.. Primates will often strive to make the peace after a hostile encounter.. And uninvolved primates may help begin and cement the reconciliation.. And yet vivisectors are given legal licences allowing them to do horrific things to these animals.. Who gave human beings the right to hand out licences to torture?
Capable Of Love
Animals, like people, are capable of loving their partner, their families, their children, their leaders, their teachers, their friends and others who are important to them.. An ape will show exactly the same signs of love and affection when dealing with her baby as a human mother will when dealing with her baby.. Both will look longingly, tickle and play with their baby.. Both feed their young, wash them, risk their lives for them and put up with their noise and unruly behaviour..
Anyone who doubts that animals love their young should stand outside a farm yard when a calf has been taken away from a cow and listen to the heart breaking cries of anguish which result.. Who knows what inner anguish accompanies those cries from a creature who does not normally vocalise in the same way that other animals do..
Even fish will risk their lives to protect their young.. In his seminal work ..The Universal Kinship' (first published in 1906 and now largely forgotten) J.. Howard Moore described how he put his hand into a pond near the nest of a perch.. The courageous fish guarding the nest chased Moore's hand away several times and when Moore's hand was not removed quickly enough would nip it vigorously several times..
Lewis Gompertz, who lived from 1779 to 1861 and was a potent champion of the rights of blacks, women and the poor (and, indeed, all oppressed human beings) was also a powerful champion of animals and was a founder of the Royal Society for the Prevention of Cruelty to Animals.. (His credibility is, I feel, dramatically enhanced by the knowledge that quite early on he was forced out of the society).. In his book ..Moral Inquiries On the Situation Of Man And Of Brutes' Gompertz wrote: ..From some birds we may learn real constancy in conjugal affection, though in most instances their contracts only last for one season, but how strict do they keep this.. They have no laws, no parchments, no parsons, no fear to injuring their characters, not even their own words to break in being untrue to each other: but their virtue is their laws, their parchments, their parsons, and the reputation; their deeds are their acts, their acts - their deeds: and from their own breasts do they honestly tear down to line the beds of their legitimate offspring..'
Gompertz described an incident illustrating the wisdom of blackbirds.. ..I observed a male blackbird flying about in an extreme state of agitation,' he wrote.. ..And on my going to discover the cause of it, the bird retreated from me as I followed it, till it stopped at a nest containing a female bird sitting upon her eggs, near which there was a cat: in consequence of this I removed the cat, and the bird became quiet.. After that, whenever the cat was about the place, the blackbird would come near my window, and would in the same manner direct me to some sport where the cat happened to be stationed..'
Gompertz also wrote about a male blackbird which had attacked a cat which had caught its female partner and wrote about three true incidents which illustrated animal kindness and wisdom.. The first concerned two goats which had met one another on a narrow path between two precipices.. There was no room for the two goats to turn or pass and so one of the goats lay down, allowing the other to walk over it.. The second incident involved a horse who had been hurt by a nail when he had been shod.. Finding it painful to walk he had gone back to the farrier and shown him his hoof.. The third incident involved a sheep dog who jumped into freezing cold water and successfully rescued another dog which had been floating on a lump of ice.. ..I would now fain ask,' wrote Gompertz, ..if all this does not show reason and virtue?'
J.. Howard Moore described how monkeys may adopt the orphans of deceased members of their tribe and how two crows fed a third crow which was wounded.. The wound was several weeks old and the two crows had clearly been playing ..good Samaritans' for that time..
Darwin wrote about a blind pelican which was fed with fish which were brought to it by pelican friends who normally lived thirty miles away.. Strong males in a herd of vicunas will lag behind to protect the weaker and slower members of their herd from possible predators..
Powerful Memories
Many creatures have memories which humans might envy.. Ants retrace their steps after long journeys and can recognise friends after months of separation.. When a limpet has finished roaming it will return to the exact spot on the same rock where it had been settled previously.. Birds fly back year after year to the same nesting spots - to within the inch.. Fish, too, return to the same stretch of water to hatch their young.. Horses used in delivery routes frequently know exactly where and when to stop - and for how long.. Squirrels who have buried nuts months before can find them without hesitating..
J.. Howard Moore reported that an elephant obeyed all his old words of command on being recaptured after fifteen years of freedom in the jungle and a lion recognised its keeper after seven years of separation.. A snake which was carried a hundred miles away from home managed to find its way back..
There is plenty of evidence, too, to show that many creatures other than human beings have powerful imaginations.. Spiders will hold down the edges of their webs with stones to steady them during gales which have not yet started.. Does this show an ability to predict the weather or imagination? Cats, dogs and horses and many other creatures dream.. Parrots talk in their sleep..
Horses frequently stampede because they are frightened by objects (such as large rocks or posts) which are no threat to them.. This must show a sense of imagination because the horse, like a child, has created a terror out of nothing..
A cat playing with a ball of wool is imagining that it is playing with its prey..
We always tend to think the worst of animals (and other creatures).. We assume that they are stupid and our interpretation of their behaviour is based upon that ill-founded prejudice.. It is, for example, generally assumed that the ostrich sticks its head in the sand in the assumption that when it cannot see the rest of the world, the rest of the world cannot see it.. But where is the evidence for this theory? Could it not be equally possible that the ostrich sticks its head in the sand because it cannot bear what there is to view in the world around it? When a human being covers his or her eyes to avoid looking at a horrific accident we do not say that they believe that they can't be seen..
Love
Before slavery was abolished black people who fell in love were regarded as enjoying simple ..animal lust' as a result of ..animal attraction'.. Who on earth (or, indeed, in heaven) gave us the right to make such judgements about black people or animals? When black people formed life long pairs this was dismissed as nothing more than an a response to an ..instinct'.. The same thing is said about animals (with just as little evidence to support it).. Who gives humans the right to argue that animals do not show emotions? Animal abusers sneer and say that animals which seem to show love are merely acting according instinct.. But who says? Where is the evidence for this claim? Why do animal abusers have the right to make statements with no evidence whatsoever in support? Why don't the animal abusers follow a consistent line and argue that human mothers who show love for their human babies are merely following their instincts? (Of course, people change their views when it suits them.. Even vivisectors and hunters, who claim that animals have no feelings, will often claim to be loved by their companion dogs and cats..)
There are numerous well authenticated stories of animals risking their lives to save their loved ones.. And animals will put their own safety second to protect their friends.. One herd of elephants was seen always to travel unusually slowly.. Observers noted that the herd travelled slowly so as not to leave behind an elephant who had not fully recovered from a broken leg.. Another herd travelled slowly to accommodate a mother who was carrying her dead calf with her.. When the herd stopped to eat or drink the mother would put her dead calf down.. When they started travelling she would pick up the dead calf.. The rest of the herd were accommodating her in her time of grief.. Gorillas too have been seen to travel slowly if one of their number is injured and unable to move quickly.. Remember this unquestioning generosity next time you are trapped in the midst of a crowd of humans travelling by car, train or aeroplane..
Altruistic Behaviour
Animals don't just show love; they frequently exhibit behaviour that can only be described as altruistic.. Old lionesses who have lost their teeth and can no longer bear young are, theoretically, of no value to the rest of the pride.. But the younger lions will share their kills with them.. Young, agile chimpanzees will climb trees to fetch fruit for their older relatives.. Foxes have been observed bringing food to adult, injured foxes.. When one fox was injured by a mowing machine and taken to a vet by a human observer the fox's sister took food to the spot where the injured fox had lain.. The good Samaritan sister fox made the whimpering sound that foxes use when summoning cubs to eat (even though she had no cubs)..
Animals have been known to give food to hungry humans.. Koko, the gorilla who learned to communicate with humans through sign language, gave medical advice to a human woman who complained of indigestion.. Koko told the woman to drink orange juice.. When the human revisited ten days later and offered Koko a drink of orange juice Koko would not accept the drink until assured that the woman felt better.. Whales have been observed to ask for and receive help from other whales.. J.. Howard Moore describes how crabs struggled for some time to turn over another crustacean which had fallen onto its back.. When the crabs couldn't manage by themselves they went and fetched two other crabs to help them.. A gander who acted as a guardian to his blind partner would take her neck gently in his mouth and lead her to the water when she wanted to swim.. Afterwards he would lead her home in the same manner.. When goslings were hatched the gander, realising that the mother would not be able to cope, looked after them himself.. Pigs will rush to defend one of their number who is being attacked.. When wild geese are feeding one will act as sentinel - never taking a grain of corn while on duty.. When the sentinel geese has been on watch for a while it pecks at a nearby goose and hands over the responsibility for guarding the group.. When swans dive there is usually one which stays above the water to watch out for danger.. Time and time again dogs have pined and died on being separated from their masters or mistresses.. Animals can suffer, they can communicate and they can care..
A Border collie woke a young mother from a deep sleep and led her to her baby's cot.. The baby was choking on mucus and had stopped breathing.. What is any of this but compassion? How can animal abusers regard themselves as sentient when they mistreat animals who can feel this way?
Konrad Lorenz described the behaviour of a gander called Ado when his mate Susanne-Elisabeth was killed by a fox.. Ado stood by Susanne-Elisabeth's body in mourning.. He hung his head and his body was hunched.. He didn't bother to defend himself when attacked by strange geese.. How would the animal abusers describe such behaviour other than as sorrow born of love? There is no survival value in mourning.. It can only be a manifestation of a clear emotional response - love..
A badger was seen to drag another badger which had been killed by a car off the road, along a hedge, through a gap and into a burial spot in nearby woods..
Coyotes form pairs before they become sexually active - and then stay together.. One observer watched a female coyote licking her partner's face after they had made love.. They then curled up and went to sleep.. Geese, swans and mandarin ducks have all been described as enjoying long-term relationships..
Vanity And Self Consciousness
Animals have also been known to show vanity, self-consciousness, embarrassment and other allegedly exclusively human emotions.. Masson and McCarthy reported that chimpanzees have been observed using a TV video monitor to watch themselves make faces - the chimpanzees were able to distinguish between a live image and taped image by testing to see if their actions were duplicated on the screen.. Chimpanzees have even managed to use a video monitor to apply make-up to themselves (this is a difficult trick to learn for humans).. One chimpanzee has been reported to have used a video camera and monitor to look down his throat - using a flashlight to help the process..
As for vanity: .....males (baboons) with worn or broken teeth yawn less than male baboons with teeth in good condition - unless there are no other males around in which case they yawn just as often,' wrote Masson and McCarthy..
One gorilla who had a number of toy dolls used sign language to send kisses to her favourite puppets and dolls.. But every time she realised that she was being watched she stopped playing..
When a bottlenose porpoise accidentally bit her trainer's hand she became ..hideously embarrassed', went to the bottom of her tank, with her snout in a corner, and wouldn't come out until the trainer made it clear that she wasn't cross..
Jane Goodall has reported that wild chimpanzees can show embarrassment and shame and may, also, show off to other animals whom they want to impress.. (One chimpanzee who fell while showing off was clearly embarrassed)..
Many people who live with cats will have noticed that if the cat falls off a piece of furniture it will appear embarrassed - often beginning to wash itself as though making it clear that the embarrassing incident didn't really happen at all.. Elephant keepers report that when elephants are laughed at they will respond by filling their trunks with water and spraying the mockers.. And many dog owners have reported that their animals have made it clear that they know that they have done wrong.. For example a dog which feels it has done something wrong may go into a submissive position before the owner knows that the animal has done something ..bad'..
Artistic Animals
There are many myths about animals and the animal abusers tell many lies in an attempt to belittle the skills that animals have.. It is, for example, sometimes said by animal abusers that animals cannot see in colour.. This is a nonsense.. Four sheep who lived with me, who were accustomed to being fed from an orange bucket would come running across a field if they saw the orange bucket.. When I tried using a blue bucket they showed absolutely no interest.. The colour was the only significant difference between the buckets.. A chimpanzee has been observed staring at a beautiful sunset for fifteen minutes.. Monkeys prefer looking at pictures of monkeys to pictures of people and prefer looking at animated cartoons rather than at still pictures..
Gerald Durrell wrote about a pigeon who listened quietly to most music but who would stamp backwards and forwards when marches were being played and would twist and bow, cooing softly, when waltzes were played.. Dogs will alter their howling according to the other sounds they hear.. One gorilla enjoyed the singing of Luciano Pavarotti so much that he would refuse to go out of doors when a Pavarotti concert was being shown on television.. Animal abusers have for years dismissed bird song as merely mating calls.. Who can say that birds do not sing to give themselves and others pleasure?
An Indian elephant in a zoo used to split an apple into two and then rub the two halves onto the hay to flavour it..
Numerous apes have painted or drawn identifiable objects while in captivity.. And when a young Indian elephant was reported to have made numerous drawings (which were highly commended by artists who did not know that the artist was an animal) other zoo keepers reported that their elephants often scribbled on the ground with sticks or stones.. When one Asian elephant got extra attention because of her paintings nearby African elephants used the ends of logs to draw on the walls of their enclosure..
The animal abusers invariably try to think the worst when considering animal behaviour.. When a bird takes bright objects to decorate its nest the animal abusers will claim that the bird doesn't really know what it is doing.. When a human being collects bird feathers to decorate a room they are said to be showing artistic tendencies..
Vivisectors, and others who abuse animals, are blind to all this because they want to be blind to it.. Animal abuse is driven by economic need and there is no place for sentiment and compassion when money is at stake.. Vivisectors tear animals away from their partners, their friends and their relatives with no regard for their feelings - or for the feelings of the animals they have left behind..
When animals are born in zoos the keepers and jailers claim that this is evidence that the animals are happy.. Would they also claim that the fact that babies were born in concentration camps is evidence that concentration camp inmates were happy?
What trickery the animal abusers use in their sordid attempts to excuse their brutality.. Animals in captivity often die far younger than they would die if they were allowed to roam free.. At one oceanarium a famous pilot whale was actually thirteen different pilot whales..
Smarter, Kinder, Better
Many other species - from families as varied as ants and dolphins - are smarter, kinder and better at creating societies which work than are human beings..
A survey showed that almost half of all the women in one US city had been raped or subjected to attempted rape at least once in their lives.. Just think of the torture performed by humans on other humans..
Animal abusers will leap on every example they can find of apparent ..bad behaviour' by animals and use that example to draw far reaching conclusions about all animals.. They ignore the fact that the ..bad behaviour' to which they refer may well have been triggered by human aggression..
Do the animal abusers who leap upon one example of bad animal behaviour as significant also suggest that because one human murders, tortures or rapes we must all be judged by that individual? Are all human beings to be judged to be as barbaric and evil as vivisectors?
As I have described in my book Why Animal Experiments Must Stop experimenters have deliberately planned and executed experiments designed to make animals feel depressed.. When they have succeeded in making animals depressed they have written up their experiments as though proud of themselves for having succeeded in their evil aims.. What possible purpose can there be in creating depression when there is already so much of it in the world? (And, incidentally, does not the ability of the experimental scientists to ..make' animals feel depressed provide yet more proof that animals are sentient creatures?)
Enjoying The Suffering
No animal, other than the human animal, has ever deliberately performed experiments on another.. No one animal, other than the human animal, has ever deliberately tortured another being..
Human beings are the only species who abuse one another (and members of other species) for pleasure.. Human beings are the only species who torture.. Only human beings chase and attack living creatures for fun - and for the pleasure of watching the suffering..
Contrary to myth, cats do not ..play' with animals for fun - it is part of their learning and training process.. Cats like to chase, to catch and then to kill.. They kill so that they can eat and they need to practise their chasing skills.. It is, however, important to remember that a cat or a kitten will be just as happy chasing a ball of paper or a piece of string (particularly if it is manipulated in an effective and lifelike manner).. This shows that the cat doesn't chase and catch because it enjoys the suffering which is produced - how much ..fun' could there possibly be in ..torturing' a ball of paper or a piece of string?
Foxes are often criticised (by those who hunt them) on the grounds that they sometimes kill large numbers of hens.. The implication is that the fox kills for pleasure.. The truth, however, is that, like other predators who may kill more than they can eat when they have the opportunity, foxes store the food they have killed..
Animals As Carers
In their excellent book When Elephants Weep Jeffrey Masson and Susan McCarthy report how a man called John Teal, who was working with endangered musk oxen, was at first alarmed when some dogs approached and the musk oxen snorted, stamped and thundered towards him.. Before Mr Teal could move to escape, the oxen formed a defensive ring around him and lowered their horns at the dogs.. It turned out that the musk oxen were protecting their new human friend in exactly the same way that they would protect their calves from predators..
Animals have even been reported to have pets of their own.. A chimpanzee who was thought to be lonely was given a kitten as a companion.. The chimpanzee groomed the kitten, carried it about with her and protected it from harm.. A gorilla called Koko had a kitten companion which she herself named All Ball.. An elephant was seen to routinely put aside some grain for a mouse to eat.. Race horses who have had goat companions have failed to run as expected when separated from their friends..
A Sense Of Fun
Human beings are not the only animals to have a sense of humour and fun and to enjoy playing..
Masson and McCarthy, in When Elephants Weep, report that foxes will tease hyenas by going close to them and then running away.. Ravens tease peregrine falcons by flying close and closer to them.. Grebes tweak the tails of dignified swans and then dive to escape.. I have watched lambs play their own version of ..King of the Castle' (and many other games customarily played by children).. A monkey has been seen to pass his hand behind a second monkey so that he could tweak the tail of a third monkey.. When the third monkey remonstrated with the second monkey the first monkey - the practical joker - was clearly enjoying himself..
When scientists examined the dung of lions the lions dug up the latrine the humans had been using - and inspected the contents.. Ants, fish, birds, cats, dogs, sheep, horses, monkeys, porpoises and many other creatures play..
The Barbaric Abuse Of Sensitive Creatures
Animals frequently make friends across the species barriers.. There is much evidence showing that animals have helped animals belonging to a different species.. Why do we have to be the only species to abuse all other creatures? Is our cruelty to other creatures really to be regarded as a sign of our wisdom, superiority and civilisation? What arrogance we show in the way we treat animals.. Where is our humility and sense of respect? Animals have passionate relationships with one another, they exhibit clear signs of love, they develop social lives which are every bit as complex as our own.. By what right do we treat them with such contempt? Those who torture and kill animals have to claim that animals have no feelings - otherwise they would be admitting that they themselves have acted cruelly..
But how they can continue to do this when there is so much scientific evidence to prove that they are utterly wrong? Those who torture and kill insist on being allowed to continue to torture and kill because they know that if they stop they will have to admit that they have spent their lives in the barbaric abuse of sensitive creatures..
No one with any intelligence or sensitivity of their own can possibly doubt that animals are capable of suffering.. Animal experimenters and abattoir workers degrade us all and diminish our worth as a species..
Better Than Animals?
The animal abusers will frequently argue that since human beings can speak foreign languages and do algebraic equations they are inevitably ..better' than animals.. What nonsense this is.. Does this mean that humans who cannot speak foreign languages or do algebraic equations are not entitled to be treated with respect? And who decides which are the skills deserving of respect? If we decide that the ability to fly, run at 30 mph, see in the dark or swim under water for long distances are the skills worthy of respect there wouldn't be many human beings qualifying for respect..
Cats can find their way home - without map or compass - when abandoned hundreds of miles away in strange territory.. How many human beings could do the same? How many humans could spin a web or build a honeycomb?
We owe it to animals to treat them with respect and, at the very least, to leave them alone to live their lives on this earth free from our harm.. Darwin wrote that ..there is no fundamental difference between man and the higher mammals in their mental faculties'.. He also argued that ..the senses and intuition, the various emotions and faculties, such as love, memory, attention, curiosity, imitation, reason etc of which man boasts, may be found in an incipient, or sometimes even well-developed condition in the ..lower' animals..'
Turtles have been observed learning a route from one place to another.. To begin with they make lots of mistakes, go down cul de sacs and miss short cuts.. But after a while they can reduce their journey time dramatically.. Birds, which might normally be alarmed by the slightest noise, learn to ignore the noise of trains and cars when they build their nests near to railway lines or busy roads.. Even oysters are capable of learning.. Oysters which live in the deep sea know that they can open and shut their shells at any time without risk.. But oysters which live in a tidal area learn to keep their shells closed when the tide is out - so that they don't dry out and die.. This might not quite rank alongside writing a classic novel but how many human beings can write classic novels?
Animals use reason and experience to help them survive and they exhibit all of the skills which the animal abusers like to think of as being exclusively human..
All animals accumulate information which helps them to survive and live more comfortably.. Moreover, they do it just as man does - by discriminating between useful and useless information and by memorising information which is of value.. A puppy who has been burnt on a hot stove will keep away from it just as surely as a child who has suffered a similarly unpleasant experience.. Older fish learn to be wary of lures - and become far more difficult to catch than young ones.. Rats learn how to avoid traps, and birds learn where telephone wires are strung (so that they don't fly into them).. Arctic seals used to live on inner ice floes to avoid the polar bears but after man arrived and proved to be a worse enemy they started living on the outer ice floes.. Many animals know that they can be followed by their scent and act accordingly.. A hunted deer or hare will run round in circles, double back on its own tracks, go through water and leap into the air in order to lose its pursuers..
Flocks of parrots will send an advance scouting party ahead to check out that all is well..
Animals As Teachers
There is no doubt, too, that animals actively teach their young in order to pass on skills which the animal abusers generally regard as being ..nothing more than instinct'.. I have watched an adult cat giving lessons to orphan kittens for which he had taken responsibility.. The adult cat, teaching the art of stalking, would edge forwards and then stop and look over his shoulder to see if the kittens were following in the correct style.. After the lesson had gone on for some time the kittens started playing behind the adult cat's back.. They got away with it for a couple of times but on the third occasion the adult cat saw them.. He reached back and gave them both a clip with an outstretched paw.. The kittens weren't hurt but they paid attention again..
We tend to ignore the actions of other creatures because we don't have the time to watch what they do.. But even the seemingly lowly ant has a complex and sophisticated life style.. Ants can communicate with one another and recognise their friends.. They will clean one another, they play, they bury their dead, they store grain, they even clear land, manure it, sow grain and harvest the grass which they have grown..
When animal abusers hear about this sort of behaviour they dismiss it as nothing more than instinct.. But is it? If a Martian looked down on earth and watched us rushing about on our routine daily work would he perhaps be tempted to describe us as incapable of original thought and responding only to instinct? We may not like it but many races of non human beings have a much greater influence on their environment than we have.. There are still tribes of men who live almost naked in very crude huts and whose social structures are relatively primitive when compared to, say, the beavers who cut down trees, transport them long distances, dam rivers, construct substantial homes and dig artificial waterways.. Ants plant crops and build roads and tunnels.. Birds build astonishingly beautiful nests from the simplest of materials..
Animal abusers claim that man is the only animal to use tools.. But this simply isn't true.. Even insects use tools - using small stones to pack the dirt firmly over and around their nests.. Spiders use stones to keep their webs steady when the weather is stormy.. Orangutans and baboons use sticks and stones as weapons.. Monkeys use stones to help them crack nuts.. In one zoo a monkey who had poor teeth kept (and guarded) a stone hidden in its straw for nut cracking.. That monkey had a tool which it regarded as its own property.. Chimpanzees drum on hollow logs with sticks.. Monkeys know how to use sticks as levers.. The Indian elephant will break off a leafy branch and use it to sweep away the flies.. Ants know how to keep grain in a warm, moist atmosphere without the grain sprouting.. The honeycomb and the bird's nest are wonders of architecture.. Insect communities practise true and decent socialism..
The wonders are unending..
Animals are often curious and determined and hard working; loving and loyal and faithful.. (But they do not harm themselves with tobacco and alcohol..)
We do not understand how a cat which has been taken a hundred miles away from its home (in a closed bag) can find its way back again..
But animal abusers will sew up the cat's eyes, plant electrodes into its head and subject it to unimaginable pain and suffering in their search for personal glory..
The eagle and the vulture have eyes as powerful as a telescope.. The swallow will travel thousands of miles every spring - only to be trapped and shot by a Maltese hunter when it dares to land for water..
Many animals, birds and insects can predict the coming of storms far more effectively than our allegedly scientific weather forecasters..
Weight for weight the tomtit has more brain capacity than a human being..
The animal abusers claim that animals cannot reason.. But it is clear that it is the animal abusers who find reason a difficult concept..
The facts are abundantly clear: animals are sentient creatures.. As J..Howard Moore put it: ..The human species constitutes but one branch in the gigantic arbour of life..'
How cruel and vicious a species we must look to lobsters who are boiled alive, to donkeys who are beaten beyond their endurance and to all farm animals.. Not all men are humane..
Man is the most drunken, selfish, bloodthirsty, miserly, greedy, hypocritical being on the planet.. And yet we think ourselves so damned superior.. Man is the only being on the planet to kill for the sake of killing; to dress up and turn killing into a social pastime..
The animal abusers sneer at hyenas but they do not kill for fun..
Only man gloats over the accumulation of material goods which he does not truly need..
No creature is as immoral as the animal abuser.. Only man needs an army of lawyers to fight over what is right and wrong.. Only man has forgotten the meaning of natural justice..
We have created a hell on this earth for other creatures.. Our abuse of animals is the final savagery, the final outrage of mankind in a long history of savagery and outrage.. We have colonised other species in the same way that White Northern Europeans colonised other parts of the world.. Instead of learning from other animals, instead of attempting to communicate with them, we simply thrash around wickedly, abusing, torturing, tormenting and killing.. We destroy the relationships of animals with one another, with their environment and with our own race.. We diminish ourselves in a hundred different ways through our cruelty and our ignorance and our thoughtlessness.. ..Man's inhumanity to man makes countless thousands mourn and his inhumanity to not-men makes the planet a ball of pain and terror,' wrote J..Howard Moore..
If man was truly the master of the universe he would use his wisdom and his power to increase the comfort and happiness of all other sentient creatures.. Sadly, tragically, man has used his wisdom and his power to increase the misery of other sentient creatures.. Animal abusers imprison millions of animals in cruel and heartbreaking conditions and ignore their cries of pain and distress on the grounds that animals are not ..sentient creatures'.. What self-delusional nonsense this is..
Sheep and cattle are left out in huge fields in cold, wet weather.. They shiver and search in vain for shelter because all the trees and hedgerows have been removed to make the farm more efficient.. The animal abusing farmer cares not one jot for animals: he cares only for his profits..
It is quite simply just as immoral to regard animals as existing for the glorification of man as it is to regard black men or women as existing to serve white men..
..Until he extends the circle of his compassion to all living things,' wrote Albert Schweizer, ..man will not himself find peace..'
The merciful man is kind to all creatures..
Taken from Animal Rights Human Wrongs by Vernon Coleman
The Secret Life of the Unborn Child
Current mood: focused
by Thomas Verny, M.D. with John Kelly
The fetus can see, hear, experience, taste, and, on a primitive level, even learn in utero (that is, in the uterus -- before birth). Most profoundly, he can feel --- not with an adult's sophistication, but feel nonetheless.
A corollary to this discovery is that what a child feels and perceives begins shaping his attitudes and expectations about himself. Whether he ultimately sees himself and, hence, acts as a happy or sad, aggressive or meek, secure or anxiety-ridden person depends, in part, on the messages he gets about himself in the womb.
The chief source of those shaping messages is the child's mother.This does not mean every fleeting worry, doubt or anxiety a woman has rebounds on her child. What matters are deep persistent patterns of feeling. Chronic anxiety or a wrenching ambivalence about motherhood can leave a deep scar on an unborn child's personality. On the other hand, such life-enhancing emotions as joy, elation and anticipation can contribute significantly to the emotional development of a healthy child.
New research is also beginning to focus much more on the father's feelings. Until recently his emotions were disregarded. Our latest studies indicate that this view is dangerously wrong. They show that how a man feels about his wife and unborn child is one of the single most important factors in determining the success of a pregnancy.
With this new knowledge at their disposal, mothers and fathers have an unparalleled opportunity to help shape the personality of their unborn child. They can actively contribute to his happiness and well-being, and not just in utero, nor in the years immediately following birth, but for the rest of his life.
Providing the newborn with a warm, reassuring, humane environment does make a difference because the child is very aware of how he is born. He senses gentleness, softness and a caring touch, and he responds in a quite different way to the bright lights, electrical beeps, and cold impersonal atmosphere that are so often associated with a medical birth. ...
... he is conscious or aware though his consciousness is not as deep or complex as an adult's. He is incapable of understanding the shades of meaning an adult can put into a simple word or gesture; but, ... he is sensitive to remarkably subtle emotional nuances. He can sense and react not only to large, undifferentiated emotions such as love and hate, but also to more shaded complex feeling states like ambivalence and ambiguity. ... something like consciousness exists from the very first moments of conception ....
... the child from the sixth month in utero onward ... can already remember, hear, even learn. The unborn child is, in fact, a very quick study, as a group of investigators demonstrated in what has come to be regarded as a classic report.
They taught sixteen unborn babies to respond to a vibrating sensation by kicking (creating) ... a conditioned or learned response in their subjects by first exposing them several times to something that would make them kick naturally -- a loud noise (it was made a few feet from each mother ...) The vibration became their cue and their kicking in response to it a learned behavior.
Our likes and dislikes, fears and phobias ... are in part, also the product of conditioned learning. ... the sensation of anxiety ... his mother's smoking ... an unborn child grows emotionally agitated (as measured by the quickening of his heartbeat) each time his mother thinks of having a cigarette. She doesn't even have to put it to her lips or light a match; just her idea of having a cigarette is enough to upset him. ... drop in oxygen supply (in the maternal blood passing the placenta) ... psychological effects ... thrusts him into a chronic state of uncertainty and fear.
A four- or five-month-old fetus definitely responds to sound and melody (and voice) ... Soft, soothing talk makes him feel loved and wanted [suggesting that angry, nervous talk makes him feel unloved and unwanted].
Life is not static. What happens at twenty, at forty, even at sixty certainly influences and alters us. But it is important to point out that events affect us quite differently in the first stages of life. An adult, and to a lesser degree a child, has had time to develop defences and responses. He can soften or deflect the impact of the experience. An unborn child cannot. What affects him does so directly. That's why maternal emotions etch themselves so deeply on his psyche and why their tug remains so powerful later in life. ...
The babies who moved around the most in utero grew into the most anxious children. They were not simply a bit more fretful than normal. They were bursting, bubbling over with anxiety. These two- and three-year-olds felt an almost heartbreaking discomfort in even the most common social situations. ...
... most of those frightened youngsters will still be scurrying into corners to avoid encounters at thirty [unless they release their energy blocks]. The difference is that they will be trying to avoid husbands, wives and their own children instead of teachers and playmates. The cycle will repeat itself. ...
What is forming are broader, more deeply rooted tendencies -- such as a sense of security or self-esteem. From these, specific character traits develop later in childhood -- as in those youngsters I mentioned earlier. They were not born shy. They were born anxious. Painful shyness may grow out of that anxiety. ...
... a woman is her baby's conduit to the world. Everything that affects her, affects him. And nothing affects her as deeply or hits with such lacerating impact as worries about her husband (or partner). Because of that, few things are more dangerous to a child, emotionally and physically, than a father who abuses or neglects his pregnant wife. ...
An equally vital factor in the child's emotional well-being is his father's commitment to the marriage. Any number of things can influence a man's ability to relate to his partner, from the way he feels about his wife or his own father to his job pressures or his own insecurities. (Ideally, of course, the time to work out these problems is before conceiving, not during a pregnancy.)
... A child hears his father's voice in utero, and there is solid evidence that hearing that voice makes a big emotional difference. In cases where a man talked to his child in utero using short soothing words, the newborn was able to pick out his father's voice in a room even in the first hour or two of life. More than pick out, he responds to it emotionally. If he is crying, for instance, he'll stop. That familiar, soothing sound tells him he is safe.
In the eighteenth century man began his long, torturous love affair with the machine and the effects were felt everywhere, including medicine. Doctors looked at the human body pretty much the way children look at Erector sets. Illness was simply a matter of finding out what went where and figuring out why what was supposed to go there didn't. What mattered was what could be immediately seen, touched and verified. ... Feelings and emotions were too shadowy, too elusive and quite irrelevant to this rational view of the world of precision medicine. ...
... This concern with comfort may explain why some newborn children are so active at night. In utero, night was the busiest time of the day. Lying in bed, his mother was anything but relaxed and restful. With her heartburn, upset stomach and leg cramps, she was forever moving this way, then that way, and invariably there were at least two or three trips to the bathroom. So I do not think it is too surprising that some infants come into the world with an inverted sleep rhythm. ...
Recent studies also show that from the twenty-fourth week on, the unborn child listens all the time.
How ... can a child decode maternal messages that say "love" and "comfort" when he has absolutely no way of knowing what these feeling states mean? ... in 1925, when American biologist and psychologist W.B. Cannon demonstrated that fear and anxiety can be biochemically induced by the injection of a group of chemicals called catecholamines (epinephrine, norepinephrine, dopamine), which appear naturally in the blood of fearful animals and humans. ... extracted from already frightened animals were injected into a second group of relaxed animals. Within seconds and without provocation, all the calm animals also began acting terrified. ...
... in the fetus's case (the mother) is the source of these substances ... when she is upset. As soon as they pass the placental barrier, they upset him as well. ... each wave of maternal hormones jots him out of the blankness that is his normal state in the womb, and into a kind of receptivity. Something unusual -- perhaps unsettling -- has happened and (he) begins trying to make sense out of that event. ...
(The mother's) thoughts and feelings are the material out of which the unborn child fashions himself. When they are positive and nurturing, the child can ... withstand shocks from almost any quarter. But the fetus cannot be misled either. If he is good at sensing what is on his mother's mind generally, he is even better at sensing her attitude towards him, ....
Dr. Gerhard Rottmann ... placed (mothers) in four emotional categories based on their attitudes towards pregnancy. ..
... Ideal Mothers ... wanted their unborn children ... had the easiest pregnancies, the most trouble-free births, and the healthiest offspring --- physically and emotionally.
... Catastrophic Mothers ... with the negative attitudes ... had the most devastating medical problems during pregnancy, and bore the highest rate of premature, low-weight, and emotionally disturbed infants.
... Ambivalent Mothers were outwardly quite happy ... their unborn children ... picked up the same unconscious ambivalence Dr. Rottmann's psychological tests had. At birth, an unusually large number of them had both behavioral and gastrointestinal problems.
... The unborn children of Cool Mothers also appeared to be deeply confused about the mixed messages they were picking up. ...many reasons for not wanting children (yet) .... At birth, an unusually large number of them were apathetic and lethargic.
(Dr. Dennis Stott) rates a bad marriage or relationship as among the greatest causes of emotional and physical damage in the womb. ... He found unhappy marriages produced children who as babies were five times more fearful and jumpy than the offspring of happy relationships ... found them to be undersized, timid and emotionally dependent on their mothers to an inordinate degree.
... low reactors (fetuses) ... were upset very little by the noise ... Fifteen years later ... rarely upset by the unexpected ... remained in control of their emotions and behavior. ...
(When) high-reacting adolescents was shown a picture by the investigators, he was much more likely to provide an emotional, creative interpretation of it, describing not just what was in the picture, but how he thought [projection] the people in it felt -- whether they were sad or happy, concerned or carefree. The low reactors, on the other hand, tended to offer very concrete descriptions. What they described was what they saw immediately in front of them. There was little or no imagination or flair in their interpretations.
Dr. Lester W. Sontag .. found that war had transformed what in peacetime were occasional fears of danger into a daily reality for hundreds of thousands of pregnant women with soldier husbands, ... (served to) heighten a child's biological susceptibility to emotional distress. ... Dr. Sontag named this phenomenon somatopsychics and defined it as the way "basic physiological processes affect the personality structure, perception and performance of an individual," ... the person's body machinery predisposes him toward such psychological disorders as anxiety or depression . ... neurohormonal loops that link the mother to unborn child ....
The rates of psychiatric disorders, particularly schizophrenia, were markedly higher among those whose fathers had died before the children were born. ...
"Because the child's irritability involves the control of his gastrointestinal tract he empties his bowels at unusually frequent intervals, spits up his feedings, and generally makes a nuisance of himself."
While this set of conditions may or may not produce feeding problems, it frequently does produce behavioral ones. A child with an irritable, overcharged ANS (autonomic nervous system) tends to be high-strung: restless, fidgety, overactive. In the womb, the precursor of such behavior is excessive movement ....
Anxiety within limits, is beneficial to the fetus. It disturbs his sense of oneness with his surroundings and makes him aware of his own separateness and distinctness. It also pushes him into action. Being excited, upset or confused by noisy messages is an uncomfortable experience, so he kicks, he squirms, he gradually begins devising ways of getting out of the way of anxiety -- in short, he starts erecting a set of primitive defence mechanisms. ... forces him to conjure up ways of dealing with those intentions (of his mother).
The foundations of anger ... one of the things that produces it is restraining his movements. Hold his arm or his leg and he screams furiously. Almost certainly, blocking his behavior has the same effect before birth as it does afterward. If his mother happens to sit or lie in an uncomfortable position, he becomes annoyed.
Unpleasant sounds --- such as his father's yelling --- also make him react this way. As with anxiety, however, anger in small doses actually benefits fetal development since it hastens the development of rudimentary intellectual connections. In the case of restraint, for example, the child learns something about cause and effect --- the way his mother sits or lies causes cramps and, hence, angers him -- and that is a precursor of human thought.
Some forms of depression can also originate in utero. Usually, these are produced by a major loss. For whatever reason --- illness or a distraction --- a mother withdraws her love and support from her unborn child; that loss plunges him into a depression. ...
If loving, nurturing mothers bear more self-confident, secure children, it is because the self-aware "I" of each infant is carved out of warmth and love. Similarly, if unhappy, depressed or ambivalent mothers bear a higher rate of neurotic children, it is because their offsprings' egos were molded in moments of dread and anguish. ...
... the link between subjective womb feelings and adult sexual behavior. We found that people who recalled being terrified in utero were markedly more unsure of themselves sexually and also more prone to sexual problems, while those who remembered the womb as a good and peaceful place were sexually better adjusted.
[A parent's inability to express feelings fully and constructively, as well as a parent who experiences abuse through lack of assertiveness and self-esteem may have these tendencies mirrored in the infant through energy block induced behavioral pattern imprinting as well as shared energy block formation during pregnancy. Releasing the blocks later does not afford the individual with the communication and awareness skills denied, avoided, and frustrated by the block-induced and imprinted behaviors. The person still must make the effort to develop these skills, or, risk rebuilding blocks as a means of coping with a deficit.]
Caesarian ... The caressing and massaging the baby receives as it passes down the birth canal represent a first encounter with sensuality and, however diffuse or unfocused, the quality of that feeling leaves a permanent mark. It is, in a very real sense, a forerunner of adult sexuality; so, in a different way, is the total absence of it. That is why Caesarians often have sharply different sexual (and even physical) attitudes.
Surgical delivery deprives a child of the physical and psychological pleasures a vaginally born infant experiences. Removed from his mother's uterus in an operating room, he gets no massaging or caressing. ... has trouble with the concept of space ... prone to be clumsy. Sexually, the effects are manifested in a hunger for body contact. The Caesarean demands, indeed requires continual stroking and hugging. Given the way he was born, it is not hard to see where his cuddle-hunger comes from. ...
Sexually, these contrasts leave a mark in the form of ambivalence. Men express this ambivalence differently than women, and some of us feel the ambivalence more acutely than others, since the ratio of pain to pleasure in the birth balance varies from one person to the next. At its root lies a subconscious desire to re-experience the joy and tranquility, the safe place we once possessed in the womb. In men this longing often expresses itself in mindless promiscuity. Endless sexual conquests are really veiled attempts to re-enter and recapture the serenity of the womb. But since by its nature this is an unrealizable goal, inevitably each compulsively repeated sexual encounter ends in disappointment.
Though superficially similar to promiscuity, in women the desire to enter the womb takes the quite different form of hugging and cuddling. Since both are usually available only as part of sex, many women -- especially single ones -- become promiscuous to get the holding they want. ...
... primal anger ... A danger arises only when that residue is large and unexpressed. ... an unusually painful birth --- sensing in utero --- that his mother is rejecting or ambivalent ... lacking an acceptable outlet, very frequently turn the anger inward against themselves ... unexpressed anger accounts for a number of emotional problems ... ulcers ... depression.
infants learn best when what is being taught taps their natural abilities, ... Anything more complicated will not only elude him, but may harm him, particularly if it is pressed on him insistently by an overly ambitious parent. ...
A child needs instant encouragement --- meaning within five or six seconds ---or he will not associate it with his behavior --- which, in this case, means he will not feel encouraged to (take the action desired by others). ... there is an almost geometric progression between the amount of meaningful time spent with a child and that child's intellectual and emotional growth, ....
insensitivity towards the newborn in the first weeks of life can transform what was then only a tendency into a fixed trait (compulsion) that may seriously handicap a child just as he prepares for the next great leap in emotional and intellectual development, which occurs between the end of the second and the seventh month. ...
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