LEGAL DIVA ON TALK WITH BAILY

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Talk with Baily on KCAA Thu, Jul 17, 2008 - CLICK TO HEAR LEGAL DIVA INTERVIEW

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COMPASSION

Compassion means "to suffer with"...

I don't believe in suffering.

Figure it out.

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Relationship stamina

Relationships end when you can't "see yourself" in the other person anymore.  In other words, you go in different directions, become different people when at one time you were either in the same place and held similar beliefs and ideals or both. 

Therefore the goal of every relationship should be to go in the same direction and/or continue having as many things in common as possible.  Seeing that this is nearly an impossible goal, it is clear that the most tightly held together relationships are the ones that are flexible.

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FEELINGS

Blessed are those who just don't give a fuck because their peace is never disturbed.

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Vanity - GO FRENCH YOURSELF!!!

One of my favorite joys in life is being in awe of other people.  I love seeing "God" in others.  If you look closely enough, you can see God even in the people who annoy you.  Those annoying people are there to teach us to love this world unconditionally even though it can annoy us sometimes; and they are here to help us practice still loving the world even when it doesn’t give us what we desire.

So thank you my ANNOYING friends!!!  You are challenging the fuck out of me!  ...and thank you WORLD for still being such a beautiful place to live in!  Your beauty still inspires me even though you are shallow.  Because I can still see how shallow you are, this must mean that I am still shallow myself.  I pray there comes a time when I will see and just not care.

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I do not believe in apologies so save your breath.

APOLOGY:

1 a: a formal justification : defense b: excuse 2a2: an admission of error or discourtesy accompanied by an expression of regret apology>3: a poor substitute : makeshift

SORRY:

1 : feeling sorrow, regret, or penitence 2 : mournful, sad 3 : inspiring sorrow, pity, scorn, or ridicule : pitiful sorry state>

Since we are all "tools" here on this earth even errors and omissions are perfect in that they serve the errant and they serve the object of the error perhaps on one level and more than likely on a universal dimension. Therefore, apologies are not necessary. Apologies and sorries serve the ego and that is quite superficial.  If we all know that errors and omissions are a part of life much like death is, then we should just save our breath and not take stuff personally.   

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FEAR
Category: Life

Life is too short.  Don’t be a coward.

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What your Top Friends say about YOU
Category: Friends

Last week I was re-arranging the order of my top friends and as I was doing it, I paused to think about why I was re-ordering the ranks of my friends.  I sat back and looked at the faces who made my top 40 and realized that those persons all represented a quality that I also possess and then I realized that the persons were really qualities and that in re-arranging the faces, I was telling the world what qualities I value more than others.

My number one friend is Skye Blue.  She is at the number one spot for many reasons.  She is an independent woman who was not born with a silver spoon in her mouth and neither was her family a source of support for her.  If anything, her family was caustic to her very being.  The odds against her were no match for her inner strength and she prevailed.  People who only know her by her industry, the adult film industry, are missing out on the qualities she possesses which make her a woman of honor and dignity.  She is a very powerful woman and I love her because of who she is.  She is my sister.

My number two friend is Leslie.  She is like Skye in character.  Another kick ass woman whose presence is a bit stand-offish.  She intimidates anyone who meets her at first and until she decides to like you, you'd better be on your best behavior because she will not tolerate anyone's idiosychratic bullshit!

Number three friend is Angelica.  Angelica is another reflection of me.  She is an attorney, grew up without much parental help or guidance and on her own decided what she wanted to do with her life and achieved it.  She is loyal, protective of her family and friends and if you mess with her, I promise you that you will regret it.

I could go on and on about all of the persons who made my top 40, and if you are in my top 40, if you'd like to know what you represent to me, shoot me an email and I will tell you.

I am basically writing this so that you can examine your own top friends and see what you learn about yourself and what you value in life.  Let me know ... especially if I am in your top friends list...what do I represent to you and where does that quality fall on your list?

Being present means looking within and looking around you, your likes and dislikes shows you who you are and what you value most...and sometimes we need to re-prioritize...speaking for myself, I need a whole village to keep my shit in check at times....LOL...

Well, I'd love to write more but I have legal pleadings to deal with....

Many blessings be upon you.

LD

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The Teacher Doesn’t Care!
Category: Life

The following story has been told to me by my father thousands of times over the course of my lifetime and in fact I still hear it every now and then. I actually have recounted this story to many of my friends and clients when I thought it appropriate....and now I am sharing it with my friends on myspace to be conjured up in their minds by the appropriate situation.

The story goes something like this:

There was a boy who was sitting in his class half-listening to his teacher giving his class instructions to read certain pages in a history book. The boy was annoyed that he was even in school and all he wanted to do was go outside and play with his girlfriend. The boy had just entered his teen years and his hormones had caused the little logic he had to disappear. Not only had his grades begun to suffer by his inability to save any mental energy for his studies but he also had been treating his family and friends poorly because he had given his entire attention to this one girl.

As the teacher was instructing the class to read chapters 1 through 3 for class discussion, the boy picked up his book and pretended to read.  All the while he was muttering to himself, "the teacher thinks I read, but I'm not reading; the teacher thinks I read, but I'm not reading."  Well, the teacher overheard the little boy muttering, calmly got up, walked over to his desk, looked him dead in the eyes and said, "You think the teacher cares? The teacher doesn't care. You think the teacher cares? The teacher doesn't care."

The boy was perplexed and in his delusional ignorance was overjoyed that he could continue to daydream about being with his girlfriend without having to worry about being disciplined by his teacher.

In fact, the boy's friends found other friends to learn from and have fun with and his parents focused on their other children because they could just not inspire the boy to do for himself.

When it came time to graduate, the boy was last in his class.  On graduation day, the valedictorian of the class spoke to the graduates and her speech moved everyone to tears.  She spoke about how important it was for her to have led and lead a balanced life and if it weren't for the unrelenting application of her self-disciplinary practices, she would never have gotten admitted to the university of her dreams.  She thanked her teachers, her family and her friends.  As the boy listened to her speech, he wept silently. 

After the graduation, everyone was going to a graduation party that the boy was not invited to.  Everyone was so excited about entering new schools and moving up in their lives and the boy was stressed out about finding a job and an apartment because his parents just gave him notice that he had to move out of their house.  But it wasn't any of those things that had caused the boy to weep.  You see, the valedictorian was the boy's girlfriend and just before the graduation ceremony began, she thanked the boy for the fun times but now it was time for her to move on.  The boy's heart was crushed even harder when the girl thanked everyone else but him in her speech and later when he asked her why, she said that all of her academic achievements were facilitated only by the people she had mentioned.  She saw him begin to grimace so she tried to console him by saying "Look, you've always showed me a good time."

The morals of the story are these: 

First, relationships are supposed to make us better people. Do not get your panties in a bunch when your family, friends or co-workers are telling you something that you might not like to hear.  Those that love you are supposed to point out areas in your life that need correction and if you are so immature that you choose to ignore the criticism, you could be ignoring important messages that the universe is trying to give you in order for you to prosper in your life.  If you have chosen people in your life who just tell you how great you are, you are a wimp and will never be more than what you are.  Get out there and surround yourself with people who will get in your face! (I'm not talking abusive people, just people who will call you on your shit when you are being a jackass or a dipshit.)

Secondly, your loved ones were not born into this world to follow your ass and pick you up because you failed to listen to them in the first place.  The person who is most going to suffer from your acts and/or omissions is YOU!  Everyone has their own shit to worry about.  If you do, you do for YOU.  If you don't do, YOU won't gain. BE RESPONSIBLE FOR YOURSELF!! DO THE UNIVERSE A FAVOR!!

Third, romantic love can get you higher than any natural or synthetic drug on this planet.  In the beginning, that person who is the cause of your addiction ignites and fuels passions in you that you thought could never be possible.  However, as fast and furious as that fire burns, the highly flammable substance burning will soon be all ashes causing the fire to be out as quick as it came. Look at how quick paper burns; seconds later, the fire is out.  If anyone is to blame for the puffery of your emotions toward an object of your passions, it is you.  If you are so consumed by your relationship with anyone that you have nothing left over for yourself and the other people in your life that care about you, then you had better re-examine the reason for your falling so hard in the first place. We've all been there and back.  It's always fun being in that delusional state until you come back to your senses and you are like, "What the fuck was I thinking??" Hopefully at that point you didn't ignore your life so bad that you can recover quickly.  At times we all too soon attach emotions to people who are not worthy of them and we don't even know it because we've prematurely convinced ourselves that this person is the moon and the stars.  Our emotions change moment to moment.  Do not commit your lifetime away when you don't even know the course of your own life for the next week let alone your whole life! GET REAL!

Fourth, even if the relationship is a stable one, keep true to yourself.  The other person could always leave you and if you've been dependent on that person for more than you should have been, you might find yourself in a very vulnerable place and scavengers are always preying for people in those situations.

Fifth, be mindful of your actions in your romantic frenzy.  Don't do things you might later regret.  Relationships teach us how to love and if you are in a relationship that is causing you to do things which hurt other people, then you need to examine that relationship.  If the fruit that falls from the tree is poisonous, then you need to eat of another tree lest you'll die.

That's all for now.  Treat yourself well!

Let's keep praying for one another!!

All my love,

LD

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Decisions

Decisions, decisions, decisions....

Everyday we are compelled to make a decision.  Some decisions we've made only once so we don't have to think about those anymore because those are now our habits, like brushing and flossing, exercising, grooming, etc.  Some decisions we make are the basis of good habits and others are the basis of bad habits.  So it is important to examine our habits to decide whether to keep on keeping on with them or make a new decision.  Smoking is never a good choice and therefore, never a good habit.

Every decision is important and others more important than others.  Every decision impacts other people.  If you decide not to bathe, that would certainly affect your social life.  This is why it is important to think before you act upon an impulse, desire, urge or provocation.  We all have "gut" feelings, instincts or intuition which influence how we'd like to decide; however, because reason is impacted by hormones and passions at times, it is still a very good idea to test all of our instincts and intuitions.  If we keep our own well-being in mind as our guide in making a decision, then more likely than not, the decision will be grounded in doing good for ourselves, which ultimately is a good for the universe.  Being self-centered is not a bad thing. It promotes honesty and the decisions made from a self-centered person will reveal a lot about the person's character. 

I was inspired to write this particular blog because I myself have been taking a long, hard look at some of the decisions I have made in my life.  Some I am happy about and others, well, let's just say that I have learned some valuable lessons this year because I have made the "wrong" decisions and hopefully I've not destroyed my whole life from them...so this year do yourself a favor and think before you choose.  Do what is best for you and what will least hurt the others who might be impacted from your choice.

Some tips on decision-making:

1. Know  the facts.  If you are receiving information from third-party, then verify the representations as best as you can.  People will give you information that would influence your decision to benefit them and not you.  Verify all the information you have is accurate.

2. Weigh the benefits against the risks.  If there are risks, can  you minimize them at little cost to you?

3. If the decision you are making involves love, please be advised that any and all decisions you make involving a matter of the heart is usually illogical because love is founded upon hormones and emotions.  If you are getting a high from someone, that's great but just remember that love is extremely ephemeral.  The most that you can do to protect yourself in your relationship is to use condoms. Otherwise just enjoy each moment with your significant other because even if the relationship doesn't last, no one can take away the sweet memories that you once shared.

Treat yourself well and you are in my prayers....and please keep me in yours!

LD

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