Tagged...Like I Stole Something
Current mood: anxious
Category: Games

Well, I’ve been "tagged" once again by the WONDERFUL Scotts Evil Twin to give you guys ten random things, facts, goals, or habits about myself. Wow! How boring this will be, but here goes!

1) I am rather "moody". Not in the sense that one minute I’m smiling and laughing and the next I’m crying, but in my decisions. If I am somewhere and I decide I don’t want to be there anymore, I just simply get up and leave. I can be headed to an outing and just change my mind for no good reason. I try extremely hard not to do this now that I’m older...I mean, it is kind of rude...but sometimes I just can’t help it. (*Just for the record - I am usually laughing and smiling like a retard all of the time.*)

2) I am not as bad as I seem; however, I am not as good as I seem either. I talk a LOT of shit. People who don’t really know me probably think I’m a cross between Ashley Dupre and Charles Manson. I’m really not. However, my innocent look does throw a few people off. I have been known to be involved in a few "bad girl" things. LOL

3) I LOVE college basketball! I haven’t had much time to really keep up with it in the last few years, but I LOVE it still! DUKE is my team of choice.

4) One of my places of employment has Casual Friday...every Friday (as the name implies). I cannot remember to wear jeans on Friday though. I’ve only remembered once. WTF is wrong with me????? (I didn’t remember today either!)

5) I LOVE to shoot pool. I RARELY ever get a chance to play now. My father taught me to play and he used to let me go play with him and my brother when I was a small child. I was actually very good at it at one point (I suck now). My brother and I used to hustle people. I was ten spanking 40 year old ass! LOL Suckers... Once again, don’t trust an innocent face....

6)  Age doesn’t bother me...it’s just a number; however, these freaking SMILE LINES are annoying the hell out of me!!! WHERE DID THEY COME FROM????

7) I feel EXTREMELY guilty for the time I DON’T get to spend with my youngest son. I work an average of 76 hours a week, so I am away from home quite a bit at times. Sometimes I sit at work and just miss him. I feel like a horrible parent on occasion, but I know I have to do what I have to do. And, HE  knows it, too. I still feel guilty though.

8) I’ve had a library book checked out for at least three months. If I opened my bedroom window and threw it really hard it would land in the library parking lot. Procrastination...it’s a terrible thing.

9) I use very little salt. I do cook with it; however, I can probably count on one hand the times I have added salt to foods after they have been prepared. (I’m running out of things to say...)

10) I have no talent when it comes to singing and/or dancing. I REALLY wish I could do both or at least one of the two.

Now it is my turn to tag ten people. Here goes:

Amber

Jeremiah, The Amish Caveman

No ID

Bass!HowLowCanYouGoJoe?!!

Boun

mary (CRONE) has hope

saraH!

Mike129

Sam I Still Am

Mid Eville

Currently listening : Glycerine By Bush Release date: 21 January, 1997

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Tolerance
Current mood: sick
Category: Life

Tolerance - A fair, objective, and permissive attitude toward those whose opinions, practices, race, religion, nationality, etc., differ from one's own; freedom from bigotry. 

A fair, objective, and permissive attitude toward opinions and practices that differ from one's own.

The world we live in could easily accomodate many more people who possess 'tolerance'. Tolerance in this world is lacking about as much as my bank account is missing those rectangular green pieces of paper. And, THAT, My Friends, is saying a LOT!

Tolerance confuses a lot of people. Many people believe that tolerating a person or tolerating a person's beliefs or opinions equates to agreeing with the person or the person's beliefs or opinions. They think it means adhering to the person's belief or choice. This cannot be more wrong.

Tolerating a person or his beliefs, choices, or opinions doesn't mean we agree or have to believe or behave in the same manner. It simply means we are respectful of each other as human beings and that we realize there is a possibility that there may be more than one 'correct' answer to the questions Life puts in front of us. It means we are mature enough to know that each of us deserve 'tolerance'.

Before I get any off-the-wall accusations that I am condoning any type of negative behavior, let me set the record straight. I'm not BY ANY STRETCH OF THE IMAGINATION saying anyone should be tolerant of violent, disrespectful, harmful actions, behaviors, or beliefs. William, I-Like-To-Kill-'em doesn't deserve any 'tolerance'. Chester the Child Molester doesn't deserve breathe on this Earth, let alone 'tolerance'. Hate groups need to be squashed and ejected from this planet as well. Get the picture? There is a definite difference between hateful, evil, abusive behavior and biogotry.

Sometimes I wonder why the human race in general is short in the 'tolerance' department. Exactly what is the cause? Is it the way we are raised? Is it because of life events/experiences? Is it because of our own insecurities? Is it habit? Ignorance? Or is it just simply human nature? I guess we all have different reasons why we aren't tolerate of people or opinions that differ from our own. Many times, we don't even know why we are...we just are.

Is it wrong to be this way? Or, is it wrong to simply accept we are this way?

Personally, I believe it is a tragedy to sit around and not attempt to learn about others and their opinions, ideas, and beliefs. After all, we all need the same basic elements to survive. There is something to be learned from each individual occupying this great universe of ours...good or bad. Why miss out on the opportunity?

Currently listening : Yes Jesus Loves Me Guitar Hymns By John Fahey Release date: 30 October, 2007

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Who Do You Need In Your Life?
Current mood: contemplative
Category: Life

"The only people you need in your life are the ones that prove they need you in theirs."

My oldest son has this posted on his Myspace page. I always pay close attention to quotes others display on their pages, blogs, desks, refrigerators, etc. I think there is something that can be learned about the person by the quotes they deem meaningful. Sure, some quotes are merely for S&Gs, but others can very well reflect what one believes or feels inside...or at the very least what the person is striving to believe, feel, or achieve inside.

Currently listening : 5150 By Van Halen Release date: 25 October, 1990

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How Old Would You Be If You Didn’t Know Your Real Age? Why?
Current mood: mischievous
Category: Blogging

  Mary Mary Quite Contrary is "hosting" a blog orgy. I've never participated in a blog orgy...or actually an orgy of any kind...so I thought I would participate. Sounds like fun.

The topic is:

Currently listening : Pyromania By Def Leppard Release date: 25 October, 1990

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Playing Me For A Fool Isn't Very Nice
Current mood: disappointed
Category: Romance and Relationships

Sometimes in life we do really stupid things. I'm no exception. I have been known to allow myself to get involved in situations that I know aren't "right"; situations that I feel may not be as they are presented. It isn't admirable, but it's the truth. I'd like to say at times I just don't think, but this is not always the case. Sometimes I think and I obviously let my emotions get the best of me. It's not something I'm very proud of on any level. As usual, when this happens, I end up not only hurting others, but myself as well.

As many of you know, I shy away from relationships. It's just me. I have my reasons for this. I guess, like many others, I have been hurt in the past. However, I will be the first to admit, I have hurt others as well. Neither is any fun. Sure, being the one NOT on the receiving end of lying, cheating, abusing, or any other negative -ing action is not as painful, but it sure isn't behavior that makes a decent person proud of himself. 

I'm all about fun. I really am. Of course, the last few years haven't been too much fun for me considering I work too many hours, but hopefully in a few months I can change all of that. I just have a few things I need to accomplish first...like paying off some of these bills I've managed to accumulate over the years.

Once, twice, or maybe even three times, I have managed to run across someone who grabs my attention. Someone who "fascinates" me. That's all well and good. Sometimes it's nice to be "fascinated" with another person ... until you find out that person has been telling blatant lies to you the entire time.I don't know about any of you, but another person playing with my emotions or my trust is high on my "I'll Fuck You Over If You Do This To Me" list.

As I have said many times before, I'm a LOT better than I was when I was younger. I blow so much stuff off now that would have really pissed me off years ago. Either I have realized that it just isn't worth the energy it takes to get upset or I'm too tired from life to care. Dunno.

One thing that hasn't changed much though is my contempt for a person who plays me for a fool. I guess a lot of us are guilty of doing this at some point in our lives. Once again, I'm no exception. Sometimes people "play another for a fool" for reasons that are understandable to a certain degree. It's wrong; but we are all human and make mistakes. I try to remember that when dealing with others. I try to remember I've definitely done my fair share of shitty things...and I don't consider myself a horrible person.

So, when I find myself in this type of situation with someone who I actually care about, I try to give the person a chance to tell me the truth and why he felt he needed to lie to me in the first place. I'm one of those people that just has to know why for almost everything. Drives me crazy not to know. Even when I do know deep down inside, it just makes me feel better to hear it from the other person. The liar owes you that much at least. Just my opinion...

Well, unfortunately, I have found myself in a situation where I developed an emotional attachment to a person only to find out the person has been lying to me. I would like to say there was some "good" reason for it, but I cannot honestly say that. I mean, I can see how the whole situation could possibly be forgiveable, but that's hard to do when the person won't come clean about it in the first place. That's the sad part. I've offered this person many chances to come clean, but he simply refuses to do so. THAT is truly the unacceptable part.

WTF?!? It's like I tell my kids. If you choose to lie and you get caught, you have to know when to admit your guilt. It's usually obvious when the lie has been found out. Don't make it worse by adding more lies to it. Yes, you may hurt the person by telling the truth, but not nearly as much as you will by telling more lies. Sometimes you have to suck it up and acknowledge when you have not been the best person you can be. It's that simple. Although, it's hard as hell to do at times.

At any rate, I'm hurt and I'm a little perturbed at one particular person. I haven't decided how to handle this. I want to know the truth and I have two options. One would be easier on the liar; the other probably not so easy.

Currently listening : Buckcherry By Buckcherry Release date: 06 April, 1999

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Does Everything REALLY Happen For A Reason?
Current mood: inquisitive
Category: Life

"Everything happens for a reason."

How many times have you guys heard that? If I had a quarter for each time I have heard someone quote that little phrase, I would surely have enough money to pay off a few bills. After all, I've heard this phrase practically all of my life.

"Everything happens for a reason."

I wonder who coined this little remark. I wonder if the person truly believed it or if it was just something he said to comfort another human being. Did he just say it to get the other person to stop whining or to shut up?  I mean, does everything really happen for a reason? Or does some crap just happen? I just don't know.

It is extremely easy to think "everything happens for a reason" when the event ends with marvelous results.

"Oh, I never stopped at the 7-Eleven, but I did that one night twenty years ago and that's how I met Frank. We've been together and extremely happy ever since. I can't tell  you why I stopped that night; it was outside of my norm. I guess it's true,"Everything happens for a reason!"

Did she really make that one-time stop at 7-Eleven just because it was inevitable that she meet Frank? Does God or the stars or whoever/whatever really work that way? Or can it truly just be coincidence? Do we just have to find a way to explain the unexplainable? I wonder.

We not only use this phrase for events that end with joyous results. It is frequently used when events happen that have tragic results.

When my brother died in 2002 in a single vehicular car accident I can still remember my mother repeatedly wondering aloud why he had to die at the age of 36. Of course, I heard more than one well-meaning friend or family member say, "Everything happens for a reason." I never heard what that reason was from any of them. No hypothesis, no theory, nothing. Just, "Everything happens for a reason."

I'll be honest. There were a few times I felt like asking, "WTF was the reason?" I didn't though. I knew they all meant well and were trying to comfort someone who could not be comforted. What do you say to a grieving mother anyway?

Most of us would feel compelled to say something even when we know there is nothing that we could really say to make anything any better. So, oftentimes, out comes the "Everything happens for a reason." It is consoling; until you stop to try to figure out the reason. However, I do think those five commonly used words actually save some people from falling into the abyss of insanity. If we accept it at face value and don't question it, those words can help us continue living after unexplainable events happen.

I believe we humans have a hard time accepting the fact that things happen in this world - this universe - that we may never understand and that we may never have a right to understand. I think we have a hard time believing that freak things happen for no apparent reason at all. And, it's virtually impossible to comprehend evil and its acts. Yet, we are human and we all want an explanation. "Everything happens for a reason" is better than nothing in certain situations, isn't it?

Personally, I believe there are reasons behind most of the things that happen in life, but I do believe that some things just happen. There may very well be a reason for everything in life. I just believe there are many we will neither know nor understand in this lifetime.

I have often asked myself if my brother died because his brakes failed on his vehicle or did his brakes fail on his vehicle so he could die? I guess it could be either way. I don't know. All I know is I have to deal with his death in a way that I can continue to live and be productive.

Currently reading : Everything Happens for a Reason: Finding the True Meaning of the Events in Our Lives By Mira Kirshenbaum Release date: 26 April, 2005

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I’ve Been Tagged....TWICE!
Current mood: lethargic
Category: Games

I was tagged by RicanStruction a while back with a "Ten Things I Must Do Before I Die" blog. (Thanks, Buddy!) Well, I have tried to come up with ten things for a while now. It's harder than one imagines! Anyway, here goes....in no particular order.

1) I'd like to visit Hawaii. It seems like such a beautiful state.

2) I'd like to be debt free. I'm really tired of owing all these faceless people money!

3) I'd like to find someone I actually have some "chemistry" with that is not a liar, cheater, sociopath, etc. Now, I'm not saying I want to get married....THAT scares the shit out of me. So, I'll settle for some "chemistry". :0)

4) I'd like to FINALLY go to college.

5) I'd like to be a better person...emotionally, mentally, physically. I don't think I have lived up to my potential.

6) I'd like to help others who are less fortunate or who are having a hard time dealing with life. It's a great feeling to know you have made a difference in someone's life and/or assisted someone when times were hard. It's what being human is really all about...although we all forget it most of the time.

7) I'd like to have ONE job versus three. I guess this one kind of goes hand-in-hand with numbers 2 and 4. Dunno, but all this working is beginning to depress me.

8) I'd like to be able to continue to laugh. A life without laughter is a prison sentence. I don't wish to live that way.

9) I'd like to sit down and write letters to my children to express to them how much they are loved, what they mean to me, to apologize for the mistakes I have made along the way, to explain a few things, and to leave that last bit of "advice" that mothers tend to think they know. Trouble is....I think I'm going to live to 100, so WHEN do I write these letters? LOL

10) I would like to "investigate" religion a little more and make a more definite decision on what I actually believe. I believe in God, but I question some of the ideas I have heard. At any rate, I'd like to "get right" with the Higher Power, because I think I'm a little "wrong" at the present moment!

While I'm at it, I was also tagged by Delightfully Insane with a ten random things, facts, goals, or habits blog. I'll be fair and do both. (I know, you guys are excited!) This is really harder than I thought. Here goes though....

1) Ungrateful people irritate me! When I go out of my way for someone else, I don't feel the person owes me anything or that he/she should kiss my ass. I really don't. I don't even expect a "thank you". I understand some people aren't comfortable accepting help from others, voicing appreciation, etc. Besides, actions and body language speak louder than words, so it is often quite obvious when someone appreciates what you have done. However, don't backstab me or treat me with disrespect after I've gone out of my way to help you. That's the quickest way to get your name erased from my "I like you" list.

2) I cannot return library books or rental movies on time. I don't know why. The mystery has never been solved, but obviously I am in a battle with the Late Fee Gods and they are winning!

3) I'm a sucker for men with dark hair and hazel/brown eyes with muscular bodies. I don't discriminate, but I find myself more attracted physically to these types of men. (I never said they were good for me...)

4) I get dizzy if I walk up stairs that have openings. I play it off well, but it freaks me out. I don't know why.
These stairs are ok:

THESE are not!

It's not funny.

5) I've decided if I have one more hangover my drinking days are over. The last two times I had too much to drink I felt like shit for a whole day. One more and that's it. I guess that is a part of my "three strikes you are out" rule. Maybe this is the first sign of old age. At any rate, I can't handle it. LOL

6) I grew up in tobacco country. My father owned 90+ acres of land and he chose tobacco to occupy most of it. So, from the tender age of FIVE he had me working in the HOT SUMMER SUN for him in some capacity. It was hard work, but in a way, I actually miss it.

7) I have a serious Southern accent. LOL

8) I loved the Rolling Stones when I was young and collected nearly everything I could related to them. I still love them...although I don't collect anything anymore.

9) I'm my own worst enemy. Most of the negative occurences in my life are my own fault when it comes down to it.

10) If I could be anything I wanted to be I would be a medical examiner.

Okay. That's it. Two tags in one blog. I'm good.

Stay tuned...
I plan to write a "real" blog in the next couple of days.

Meanwhile, I tag:

The Dissy
Jason (in SC)
Boogs
The Don Ska
Lost on the Coast
Tama is the Shiznit!
Katrina Brown
Hot Lover
Beautiful Broken
Oma
Buck the Fucks!
CherrieDragon
MaryB
~Stacy~Ho Claus
Christine (in OH)
Wayne
Pharaoh with the Vicious Tongue
Opiejudy
Loretta
Super Jenn

I would provide the links and all of that, but I have to get ready for work. You people know who you are! Choose whichever one you wish or do both. Just do it! :0)

Currently listening : Missundaztood By Pink Release date: 20 November, 2001

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Something That Disturbs Even Me!
Current mood: shocked
Category: Jobs, Work, Careers

As many of you know, I have more than one job. Two of my three jobs are at medical facilities...a hospital and a psychiatric hospital. Needless to say, I have been privy to some odd behaviors.

This past weekend I was working at the hospital and one of our patients decided he needed to pleasure himself. No big deal. It's not a crime. Who cares if you are on a critical care unit and not in the best health in the world, one is still human and has needs. Right? After all, when the staff has repeatedly turned you down for sexual favors, what other choice does one have?

So, this old man is going to town when the young nursing care partner approaches his door to take his vital signs. I guess she has never witnessed this behavior. Instead of closing the door, she goes to one of the nurses in a very serious manner asking what she should do. "Close the door! What can you do?" Meanwhile, I'm laughing my ass off at her reaction...and the man. This fool is masturbating with the sheet covering his head and the rest of himself exposed. Did he think we wouldn't know it was him? I still haven't figured that one out. It was pretty comical...depending on your sense of humor, I guess. The only NOT funny thing about it is the fact there were visitors in the room across the hall, one being a young female child. I guess they missed it, because no one said anything. Let's hope so anyway.

This little event brought on a conversation about some of the things we have witnessed at work. I have seen MANY things at the psych hospital I could have lived without ever seeing. I mean, is it really necessary to have to be in a room with a doctor trying to retrieve a prosthetic eye out of a vagina? WHY would you want to place your fake eye in your vagina? I mean, are you trying to see what it looks like on the inside?!? Who knows......

One of the nurses and I were talking and she asked me if I remembered "Mr. Doe" who had been on the unit quite a few times. This guy was a quadriplegic who resided at a long term care hospital. We would get him periodically for various reasons. Apparently, I either missed him or just SOMEHOW missed what I'm about to tell you guys.

As I said, this guy was a resident of a long term care hospital. When he came in for the first time, his mother asked the staff at our hospital if it was standard practice that we "relieve" his.....I guess you could say.....sexual tension.

WTF?!?

She stated that the care partners at the other hospital did. Once again....

WTF?!?

I'm sorry, I just don't think that is in anyone's job description. I just can't see it being "appropriate".

Currently reading : Sexual Options for Paraplegics and Quadriplegics By Thomas O. Mooney Release date: September, 1975

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When Is The Right Time?
Current mood: lazy
Category: Romance and Relationships

I have recently read several excellent blogs written by fellow Myspacers. Yes, I do read blogs written by others even if I don't always comment...and even if I am a day or two behind on them.

Two that stand out because of their differing opinions are Quit Having Sex written by Stephanie and To Bang? Or Not To Bang? written by Super Jabs.

As many of you know, both of them are Top Ten Bloggers here on Myspace. I'm sure most of you have already read both of these posts. If not, check them out. They are equally interesting; right along with the comments left by the readers.

What is the subject of these blogs you wonder? Sex. Of course. Sex and when it should be had in a relationship. Both of them state their opinions admirably. I feel both of them, despite their differences of opinion, are speaking truths. Sounds crazy, I'm sure, but it's how I feel.

Let's look at what each one thinks. Of course, I'm paraphrasing.

The way I understand it, Stephanie feels that jumping in the sack and doing the wild thing too quickly will end in regret on the woman's part. She feels women get more emotionally involved after having sex than men do. She feels that at the beginning of any relationship both parties are on their best behavior and as the relationship progresses those little personality traits or behaviors that aren't so desirable tend to come out. When this happens, there can be a parting of ways and the woman can be left wondering why she wasted her time having sex with such a loser. She believes holding off on sex is a self-protective measure. She believes in savoring each step in a relationship and not rushing to do everything at the beginning. "Maybe, if you realize how valuable you are, he'll realize it to and maybe then he'll think you're worth the wait..."

Super Jabs believes a little differently. From what I gather, he understands the bugaboo women often find themselves in. He agrees that women seem to form more of an emotional bond after sex than men do. He acknowledges that having sex with a man to try to develop a stronger bond with him is ineffectual. The ironic thing is he also believes holding out is equally as useless. He believes you simply have a connection with a person or you don't. His advice is: "If you aren't connecting with a guy, don't not sleep with him because of it... Just stop seeing him period. If you are connecting, don't limit yourself with stupid rules and time frames, live life, and let the chips fall where they may. To hold out on someone you have a strong connectin with is living scared... That's no way to live."

First of all, I agree with both of their statements regarding women and the emotional bond the majority (or what seems like the majority) of women form after having sex. What seems like a good old fashioned roll in the hay to the man may very well be the woman's life dream of what it's like to make love with her knight in shining armor. Amazing how one act can mean such different things to the only two people involved in it.

I think it is important to understand why this may be the case. I feel part of the cause of this is what we all have been told over the years. Good girls wait and sluts don't. It's okay for boys to try to sleep with every female they come across, but girls just simply can't do it. Girls shouldn't have the sexual desire that boys do. It's just not the way it is suppose to be. I feel an unhealthy amount of guilt and shame have been placed on the female population when it comes to sex. I do believe, in general, men think about sex more and they probably put more emphasis on sex than most women do. However, I don't think women are as uninterested in sex as they often act. Reputation is an important thing. Are women holding out for themselves or for their reputations' sakes? I mean, who wants to be known as a slut, right? If they are holding out just for reputation's sake, is that a good thing or is it a way of letting others dictate their lives?

I agree with Stephanie 100%. We ALL are on our best behavior when we first start dating a new person. It's just a fact of life. Eventually, those not-so-desirable characteristics and behaviors will come out. It's going to happen if the relationship lasts any amount of time. Let's say that happens. Honestly...Will you be hurt if you find out the man's bad habits four months down the road and you have NOT slept with him? I would be! If it is something I can't deal with, well, I just wasted four precious months of my life. AND, I'm STILL sexually frustrated! Maybe it's just me, but I think it will be irritating either way. Wasting time is wasting time, regardless of the activities involved. Although, I do concur, it is a little more "serious" if sex is involved.

I believe that holding out on sex CAN be a self-protective measure in some cases. If you are head over heels with a guy and you know BEFORE sex he doesn't feel the same way you do, then for goodness sakes, DON'T DO IT! You are only asking for trouble. And, maybe that relationship shouldn't even be happening if you guys are on two different pages in two different books anyway. Dunno.

I can buy into the savoring each step theory. I just believe there is more than one way to do that and it all depends on the two people involved.

"Maybe, if you realize how valuable you are, he'll realize it to and maybe then he'll think you're worth the wait..."

I agree that each one of us, male or female, needs to realize our self-worth and value as a human being. We have to love ourselves and accept ourselves before we can love or accept anyone else. However, I find that statement a tad bit condescending. Not that I think Stephanie meant it that way; I don't think she did at all. It just insinuates that maybe a girl who decides to play Naked Twister on the fifth date may not be as valuable or "wife material" as one who doesn't for a few months. I don't necessarily think that is the case. A woman's self-worth isn't entirely dependent on her sexual escapades. In some cases, yes, low self-esteem does go hand-in-hand with promiscuity. It's a fact, but not in every case.

I will agree with Super Jabs. Neither having sex with a man nor holding off will make him love you. Love is so much more than sex. Anyone can have sex. So, holding off won't make him love you, just like having sex won't make him love you either.

"If you aren't connecting with a guy, don't not sleep with him because of it... Just stop seeing him period."

What a wise statement! I can't believe it came from a man. LOL

To sum it up, this is how I feel. Sex is a personal issue. The most important thing is to be safe and responsible. If you want to sleep with a man after only five dates, go for it...IF you feel you can handle the worse case scenario, because it could happen...but just as it could happen five months down the road. Sex early in a relationship doesn't necessarily mean it is not going to last. I know a lot of people who are still in relationships where they had sex early on. I know a lot of people who waited an "acceptable" amount of time and the relationships didn't last. You can never be sure what will happen in any relationship. Just don't let the fact you had sex with the person make you try to hang on to the relationship when it isn't good for you. Chalk that up as a mistake, move on, and try to learn from it.

And, accept that at times, some people just need the physical act of sex and it doesn't make them horrible heathens. It makes them human.What makes them assholes is when they LIE to get it. Just be honest. There is SOMEBODY out there with the same need you have and who only wants the same thing you do. BE HONEST! It's truly unnecessary to hurt another's feelings. And, the LIES are what causes 95% of the unnecessary drama in the first place!

And, yes, I have been down both roads. If you are going to get hurt, it will happen no matter what. And, personally, I have found I get more pissed off and hurt the longer I am with a person. So, if I decide I want to sleep with a guy on the fifth date and he ends up an ass that may very well be easier to deal with than if I had waited three months to sleep with him and he ends up an ass. It just depends on the circumstances. Sometimes there is nothing any of us can do to protect ourselves from a failed relationship or hurt feelings...even if we luck up and do everything "right".

Great job, Stephanie and Super Jabs!

So...

What do you guys think?

Currently listening : Loose By Nelly Furtado Release date: 20 June, 2006

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Just A FEW Of My Reasons For Being Single
Current mood: contemplative
Category: Romance and Relationships

As many of you know, I am single. I have been for a looooong time. My married and "in-a-relationship" friends have a habit of trying to set me up with someone or at the very least are always telling me I need to find someone. They have good intentions, so it doesn't bother me. Maybe I'm a little odd, but I like being single. Sure, it gets a little lonely on occasion (I mean, after all, one can only afford to purchase so many batteries), but in general, I can't complain.

Currently listening : Far Behind - Candlebox (Cassette Single) By Candlebox

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