things to consider before getting married
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Category: Life

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***HERE'S THE UGLY TRUTH, people don't change when they get married! Getting married doesn't change your relationship or make it any better it only makes things more difficult and painful to get out of when things go wrong. If you're not happy with your dating relationship the way it is now, you're going to be just as unhappy when married to that person.


If the person you're currently dating is crazy, abusive, deceitful, and/or unfaithful now, what makes you think they'll change if you get married to them? If you've got problems having a healthy relationship now, you should take that as a warning sign and RUN!


Things to Consider Before Getting Married:
Getting legally married is easy, getting legally divorced is expensive, painful and can have life long effects on all involved. Here are some simple questions you should ask each other before taking this important step.


1.
Have you discussed whether or not you want to have children? If you do, who will be the primary caregiver?

2.
Do you have a clear idea of each other's financial obligations and goals? Do you agree on ideas about spending and savings?

3.
Have you discussed your expectations for how the household will be maintained? Are you in agreement on who will manage the chores? Do you both share the same definitions of cleanliness?

4.
Have you fully disclosed your health histories, both physical and mental?

5.
Is your partner affectionate to the degree you expect?

6.
Can you both comfortably and openly discuss your sexual needs, preferences and fears?

7.
Will there be a television in the bedroom? Who controls the set?

8.
Have you reached a clear understanding of each other's spiritual beliefs and needs? Have you discussed when and how your children will be exposed to moral/religious education?

9.
Do you truly listen to each other and fairly consider one another's ideas and complaints?

10.
Do you like and respect each other's friends? Have you discussed how often you will see your friends outside of the marriage?

11.
Do you value and respect each other's parents? Are either of you concerned about whether the parents will interfere in your marriage?

12.
Is there anything about each other's family that annoys you?

13.
Do you have a clear idea of how to divide holidays with your respective families?

14.
Are there some things that you are NOT prepared to give up in the marriage?

15.
If one of you were to be offered a career opportunity in a location far from the other's family, are you prepared to move?

16.
Do each of you feel fully confident in the other's commitment to the marriage and believe that bond can withstand whatever challenges you may face?

17.
Are you fully ready to take responsibility for your own part in this marriage, emotionally, spiritually and physically?

18.
Are you fully aware of the emotional, spiritual and intimate needs of your partner?

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None of that sissy shit!
Current mood: crunk
Category: Life

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Are you tired of those sissy 'friendship' poems that always sound good,

 but never actually come close to reality?

Well, here is a series of promises that actually speak of true friendship.

You will see no cutesy little smiley faces on this card-

Just the stone cold truth of our great friendship.

1. When you are sad --I will jump on the person who made you sad like a spider monkey jacked up on Mountain Dew!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

2. When you are blue -- I will try to dislodge whatever is choking you.

3. When you smile -- I will know you are plotting something that I must be involved in.

4. When you're scared -- we will high tail it out of here.

5. When you are worried -- I will tell you horrible stories about how much worse it could be until you quit whining, ya big baby!!!!

6. When you are confused -- I will use little words.

7. When you are sick --Stay away from me until you are well again. I don't want whatever you have.

8. When you fall -- I'll pick you up and dust you off.

9. This is my oath...I pledge it to the end. 'Why?' you may ask -- because you are my FRIEND!

Friendship is like peeing your pants,

everyone can see it,

but only you can feel the true warmth.

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Professional Resume
Current mood: contemplative
Category: Jobs, Work, Careers

Jessie L. Bernard

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Modeling Resume
Current mood: anxious
Category: Jobs, Work, Careers

Jessie L. Bernard

Age:21                                     DOB:01/24/1985

Height: 5ft 7in                        Weight: 135pds

Bust: 36-C (full)                     Waist: 26in

Hips: 36in

Dress Size: 5                            Shoe Size: 9

Ethnicity: Caucasian               Skin Color: Tanned

Hair Color: Blonde                 Hair Length: Long-25in 

Eye Color: Light Blue

Skills and Availability:

Fashion-  Runway-  Sport/Fitness-  Art-  Lingerie-  Casual-  Swimwear-  Print/Editorial-  Glamour

Additional Talents/Skills:

Film Acting-  Commercial Acting-  TV Acting-  Dancer

Additional Areas of Interest:

Web-  Advertising-  Magazine

Languages (Read, Write, and Speak):

English-  Spanish

Experience:

Promotional Model for: 

-Jagermeister

-Barenjager

-Tequila Corazon de Agave

-Michael Collins Irish Whiskey

-JC VSOP

Spokes Model for:

-Skyline America (automotive)

Additional Information:

www.onemodelplace.com

OMP ID: 284449

www.promomodels.com

www.myspace.com/jessieleemc

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When you KNOW that you've made it.....
Current mood: accomplished
Category: Goals, Plans, Hopes

My eyes finally opened the day after my 19th birthday. Up until then I was putting my parents through their worst nightmare. I was skipping school just about everyday, partying like a rock star, and really just headed down a really scarey path; one that leads to nothing but death, jail, or both.

Fortunatly, I didn't die (even though I came real close a few times,) but jail is what woke me up. I've always been the kind-of person that can adapt to every situation I get in, so it wasn't really the "jail" part that got me. It was the feeling I got right before my one phone call.

Never before then did I care that my parents knew about all the horrible stuff I was doing. The difference this time was that I realized that as soon as they picked up the phone, the way they thought about their daughter would never be the same..... They would not only be disappointed, but forever ashamed. Well, long story short, we got through it.

When I did get out of jail (a day later,) I knew that it was going to be real hard to make it up to them. For about a year I tried soooo hard to do anything and everything to impress my parents so that I wouldn't feel like they were still ashamed. I settled down, set goals, and just plain worked at it, but when would I know when I've made it?? When would I know that I've done all I could do?? When would my life be a success??

Well, I tought about it real hard. I knew that if I was going to try to make up for all I put them through raising me that I was going to have to prove some things. First I thought I needed a job, then I realized that I wasn't going to have a job that they could be proud of unless I went to school 1st.

 So I started school and luckly found a REALLY good paying job (that I wasn't qualified for) and the business owner was willing to give me a chance. But, I still felt as though I hadn't directly contributed anything back to my parents. Sure, they could tell people what I was doing and that they were proud, but how could they SHOW people? I wanted people to be able to look at my parents and correctly assume that they must have done a good job raising their kids b/c their children are successful enough to take care of them in return.

My husbad and I have a really nice 3-story condo in one of the most pricey cities in lower Alabama,  and it's full of what would be considered luxury furnishings, but my parents friends have no reason to come to my house. My husband and I both only wear expensive clothes, but my parents care nothing about Dior or Armani (which I know only from experience). What could I do then?

I'm a person of action you see, words are worth nothing without action in my mind. So, I started buying my parents really expensive presents for holidays and giving them cash "just because." One xmas my mom told me that she needed a wallet. Any old $5.00 wallet would have been fine with her and that was all she was exspecting... so I got her a $300.00 wallet, but I still felt like I wasn't doing enough. Awhile back I had decided that I would know when I've come close to doing enough when my parents can ask me for money (any reasonable amount) and I could give it to them, no problem. Well, I was already doing that. What else could I do?

I totaled my dad's new car 2 months after I turned 16. I had already totaled the car I had gotten for my 16th bday AND gotten exspelled from school for a 2nd time. So, among other things I REALLY needed to replace my dad's car. It wouldn't be making up for everything, but it would be a really good start. I decided that it couldn't just be any car though; I was going to have to save some major money over a long period of time. I personally have always wanted a porsche, but I knew my dad always wanted a Jaguar. :)

Well, I got my porsche first.... haha, I REALLY couldn't help myself. I came across a good deal and at a good time, and I knew that I wasn't going to get that lucky twice. The good thing about that was, when my parents saw my car, I could really tell that they were amazed...... and proud. They liked to tell their friends about the fancy car that their 20 year old daughter just bought, and I LOVED IT.

Well, now I'm 21years old, I've finished school, I've got a job pending my state licesure and I'm still working the 1st job I started (and will NEVER quit; it pays too good and isn't demanding), and today.........................

I bought my daddy a Jaguar xj6.

While I am extremely happy that I finally did it, this also causes a huge dilemma. What do I do now? I'm only 21 years old, I'm married, I'm done with college, I've got a great job and another one on the way, and now I have gone above and beyond my parents wildest dreams for them. Is it only down hill from here?

Really, what else can I do? I haven't made them grandparents yet, but that's already being planned....... This is a huge question! What next? 

Well, I guess I can buy them both REALLY big houses.  :) haha, it will never end and I don't care if it doesn't...... There is no way that any of us can ever pay our parents back for all that they have done for us. They were there when no one else was. They compromised their entire lives to give us what we wanted and needed..... Guys, it's time, time to pay them back.

I'll try to keep ya'll up dated. :)

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