Coming Together: At Last
Category: Writing and Poetry

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One Week Left to Submit to Swing!
Current mood: relaxed
Category: Writing and Poetry

"No strings attached.  I want your body, not your heart."
 
("Get Mine, Get Yours" Christina Aguilera) 
 
There is one week left to submit to Swing!  The deadline is September 1, 2008.  For many of you, that's plenty of time to write a good erotica story.  (My most successful erotica was written in 45 minutes.  It has appeared in two American books and the Italians over at Mondadori asked to publish it in their book.)  So, I know you can do it!  Good stories come from your passion; it's not always about how long it took to write the story.
 
Also, I hate it when editors announce to the world that authors should not submit last minute stories.  SPEAK FOR YOURSELF!  Some editors, like me, don't have a problem with them.  As long as your story is in by MY DEADLINE - I'm cool.  I will not read ANY of the stories until after the deadline, anyway.  That's how *I* roll.    
 
Swinging or polyamory?  Yes, I know there are polyamory purists.  But I've been involved with both and I've got my own take on it. (I would never edit a swinging book if I didn't know A LOT about swinging and polyamory.)  As far as I'm concerned, in many situations, it's a fine line.  Swing! is a swinging book.  However, if your story has more of a polyamory feel, *I* will decide if it is appropriate for the book after I read it.  Jolie makes up her own mind.  She is not influenced by polyamory purists.
 
Okay, off my soapbox.  
 
Now, go here for my latest blog post with an excellent article by Dan and Jennifer of "Ask Dan and Jennifer" fame. 
 
Swinging vs. Polyamory - Am I Wrong to Want One Without the Other? 
 
One week left to submit to Swing!  The book is going to ROCK, so submit by the deadline of September 1!

 

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Swingers Guide to Finding the Man’s Erogenous Zones
Category: Life

(I'd like to thank the couple who wrote this article. There are two weeks left to submit to Swing! Go HERE for details.)

Swingers Guide to Finding the Man's Erogenous Zones

Author: Stewart

Although this article was written to help swingers and other liberated couples enjoy their sexual encounters, it contains information that will enhance any sexual relationship.

It is a fallacy to believe that a man's erogenous zones are mainly confined to his penis. By understanding more about what turns a man on, your sexual experiences will be greatly enhanced. Liberated women often demonstrate their ignorance of where to find a man's other erogenous zones by reaching out for his penis at very early stages of sexual encounters, rarely straying far from it throughout the experience.

Activating the other zones is best done when the man is relaxed. Proceeding in a gentle fashion, the stimulation of the other zones can promote intense feelings of pleasure that can rival the feelings of pleasure he experiences from his penis. It is even possible to make a man achieve orgasm without touching his penis at all.

A man's nipples are an important erogenous zone; sometimes on par with those of a woman. Even though his nipples are flatter and smaller than those of a woman, they have a similar capacity for erotic stimulation and actually harden and rise when fondled. The best way to start on the breast area is to use your whole hand to gently hold and brush over his breast. Then stimulate his nipples by massaging the immediate area around them with one of your fingers. Alternate this by squeezing the nipple between your fingers. Continue this action on one nipple for a while with differing intensities ranging from gentle to fairly strong pinching. Then move to his other breast and repeat the same kind of procedure there.

The area between the navel and the penis is an extremely erogenous zone for most men. Stick a finger into his navel and tickle it. Vary your movements between light tickling and heavier massaging. Also vary the speed of your movements. Tease him by following the grove right down to where the penis begins, lingering there for just a few seconds before working back up again to the navel.

For most men, the scrotum is probably the most sensitive erogenous zone. This can include the testicles but be sure to be gentle when fondling this particularly sensitive organ. Start by holding the scrotum in your hand, providing massage by applying gentle gripping pressure alternating with partial release. Fondling the scrotum in this way generates sensations throughout the whole genital region. It also increases the blood circulation so that all of the genital organs are engorged.

Treat the testicles with extra care, providing gentle movements with your fingers. The level of pressure should range from a light tickling to a soft fingertip massage. Find the hidden part of his penis by gently probing behind his scrotal sack, by probing with your finger tips between the testicles and then massaging it. Vary the pressure here. You can safely be less gentle in this area and a sudden, stronger movement with your fingertips will promote intense pleasure sensations to his hidden penis root.

Stimulation of the man's prostate region promotes intense pleasurable sensations. It is best stimulated by squeezing it between your fingers. Press down against the urethra or massage it up and down along the urethra. Alternating between gentle and less gentle pressure will usually promote slightly different sensations, increasing the man's pleasure.

Pay attention to the area between the buttocks. This is another very sensitive area. By sliding your fingers up and down from where the cleft starts at the base of the spine to the opposite end between the legs, intense erotic stimulation can easily be achieved. Linger in the region deep inside the cleft that is nearest to his anus and tickle around it. By stretching each buttock to the side and opening the rectal area highly erotic sensations are generated.

By stimulating the anal region area, you will spread waves of intense pleasure throughout the man's whole body, sending ecstatic signals to the genitals and up his spine up to the base of his neck. The best way to stimulate the rectal opening is by applying gentle circular movements with your fingertips. Carefully insert a finger into the anal opening and move it gently in and out. Add a little pressure but be careful to check that this is okay with your partner as people differ enormously with regards to how much insertion is pleasurable and at what stage it can become painful.

Article Source: http://www.articlesbase.com/sexuality-articles/swingers-guide-to-finding-the-mans-erogenous-zones-517187.html

About the Author:The authors are a couple who believe passionately in sexual freedom. Their articles with advice for swingers and other sexual libertines can be found at Club Aphrodite, swinger party club and adult dating service which has been in business since 1997

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Are the Neighbors Next Door Secretly Swinging?
Category: Life

(My thanks to Gin for this article. There are three weeks left to submit to my swinging erotica anthology - Swing! Some of the top authors in erotica have submitted. Information at the conclusion of this article.)

Are the Neighbors Next Door Secretly Swinging!

By Gin

The swinging lifestyle does not discriminate against race, body type,sexuality,social standing or financial stability. There are people successfully living the lifestyle from all walks of life.

Government and State officials as well as the unemployed enjoy the erotic pleasures of being on the swinging scene.

Choosing to live the lifestyle, is just that, a choice. A PERSONAL CHOICE just as choosing a religion or a political party to become affiliated with.

Although the swinging lifestyle has become more recognized and accepted by society, discretion among swingers is still of utmost importance. Employers as well as family and non lifestyle minded acquaintances seem to view swinging as immoral and threatening to the existence of the traditional marriage and male/female relationship.

Please allow me to say that the serious swinging couples, the couples with strong, loving marriages/relationships do not enter into the lifestyle looking for something better than what they have in their existing marriage/relationship.

Couples enter into the lifestyle seeking to fulfill fantasies and desires of which are nothing more than foreplay for their intimate encounters alone together. The lifestyle is an enhancement just as watching an erotic movie or reading an erotic story. A "mood setter" of sorts .

But, swinging IS NOT for everyone. If swinging is chosen as a lifestyle to fix a broken marriage/relationship, a damage control plan better be in place. Again, the swinging lifestyle is an enhancement, not a solution.

The lifestyle also IS NOT an arena for those who are single and looking for marriage or those who are married and cheating on their partners. YES, one may eventually find a soul mate or experience a swinging encounter as a cheater but, these instances are few and far between and can be very difficult to achieve.

I advise those who are looking for a long term traditional relationship to seek them through traditional methods.

Those who are married and trying to become active in the swinging lifestyle excluding your spouse, please ask yourself why! Your actions in the lifestyle will only cause problems in your marriage. Your spouse will eventually discover his/her exclusion of your actions. Seek professional help to discover what has gone astray in your marriage before even considering swinging as a lifestyle for you.

The most awesome benefit of the lifestyle is within the people who choose to live it. There are no set guidelines as to who one must be as a swinger. What one person or couple chooses to seek and accept, the next may choose the total opposite.

What is the swinging lifestyle one may ask? The lifestyle is what you make of it. Simply decide where YOU fit into it.

Call for submissions - Swing!

For more information concerning the Swinging lifestyle and Gin's latest book release visit http://www.ginsopinion.com and http://www.stlifestyle.com/go?jstusinsc4fun

About the author: Gin is a Syndicated Columnist and Author for The Lifestyle and is featured on news sites across the world. http://www.ginsopinion.com

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Swinger Couples Become More Versatile
Category: Life

(Thanks to Irene Thebeauty for this article. At the conclusion, check out the links to the Swing! call for submissions and an interview with me at Logical-Lust.)

Swinger Couples Become More Versatile

By Irene Thebeauty

Swinger couples used to be defined as a male and female who are married or in a very serious relationship, who changes their partners with another swinger couple . Today you don't have to be married or even in a serious relationship to fall under this category. You don't even have to be a traditional male and female couple. More and more gays, lesbians, bi's, transgender and transsexual adults are joining the swinger couples community.

The reason for this shift is because traditional swinger couples are becoming more versatile and experimenting with adults from different backgrounds, cultures and sexes. Instead of a male/female couple changing partners with another couple, they would rather invite a sexy female to join them for a threesome. It's a win-win situation because not only is the man's fantasies fulfilled but the woman can experience her bi-sexuality and have orgasms that weren't possible before.

At swingers parties there are also more and more playrooms for activities like gangbangs where swinger couples and singles can all "play" together. We can see the same trend amongst dogging adults who likes to have sex in the outdoors. In the past a dogging couple (male and female) would go to a dogging spot and have sex in their car with the light on, so that others could watch. Today the couple is having sex on the bonnet of their car and they are inviting single males and other couples to have sex with them.

So how do you know if you are an open minded swinger couple? There are a few questions that you can ask yourself to help you realise if you are open minded enough or if you should try new sexual experiences. Have you ever had sex with someone from another race or culture? Have you ever done soft swinging with an adult who is the same sex as you? Do you always have sex with the lights off? Do you always have sex in the bedroom? Do you mind if people watch while you are having sex?

Most swinger couples in the UK, US, Europe and rest of the world will answer these questions and discover that they are more versatile than they thought. The trick to being an open minded swinger couple is to at least try everything once and if you don't like it you can leave it and move on to something else. The thing is - you won't know if you like it, unless you try. Happy swinging everyone!

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The Bisexual Woman’s Top 10 Favorite Fantasies
Category: Life

I'd like to thank Suzy Bauer for this article. At the conclusion of the article, check out the link for the Swing! call for submissions and an interview with me at Logical-Lust.

The Bisexual Woman's Top 10 Favorite Fantasies

 By Suzy Bauer

Recently, a swingers club in Europe surveyed 100 bisexual women asking them what their favorite fantasies were, these are the results:

1. Sex with (many) strangers.

Many women relish the idea of meeting a mystery man or woman and having a wild night of uninhibited sex. Sometimes women feel that the only people with whom they can truly let loose are strangers, simply because they won't be judged! And who cares anyway? They'll probably never see the "beautiful stranger" again.

2. Participating in a large orgy.

Group sex is a popular fantasy among ladies; "The freedom of being naked in front of a bunch of people who are equally exposed, allowing different men and women to touch and penetrate their bodies simultaneously was incredibly erotic."

3. Who is the Boss?

If there's one thing that women are dying to do it is to dominate a man and a woman at the same time!

4. A Sex Show.

In today's world of confident women, it's not surprising that many of them fantasize about having an audience while engaging in sexual activity... the idea of knowing that others are getting excited by their "performance" provides women with a feeling of empowerment!

5. Three's Rape.

Another popular fantasy is to have a couple "raping" her and just lie defenseless to enjoy their precious passion.

6. Three Girls Trio.

Virtually every woman wants or is willing to share her body with other women. Guys, are you jealous because you feel left out? Don't worry, most of these women think it's exiting to have their man watching them while they play!

7. Striptease for a group.

Many women get erotically charged to perform a strip for an audience, or to do a lap-dance for a guy and girl. Some even think it's sexy to get bills in their panties during their performance.

8. Two going down on her.

Girls also fantasize about a man and a woman going down on her at the same time. I find the logistics complicated but it sounds very exciting to me!

9. Strap on DP .

Two lovers penetrating her during an Adonis Trio (FFM) is also very erotic for most women. This fantasy scores very high!

10. Being seduced by a couple without her expecting it .

Bisexual women like attention! What better choice than having two lovers sweeping her off her feet? Bisexual women also recognize that couples working together are a lot of fun in bed. It's no wonder this fantasy scores so high!

Article Source: http://www.articlesbase.com/marriage-articles/the-bisexual-womans-top-10-favorite-fantasies-286952.html

About the Author: Suzy Bauer is the bestselling author of Threesome Sex Books. To find more information on how to make your threesome fantasy come true visit stepbystepthreesome.com.

Call for Submissions and interview with Jolie du Pre. HERE. 

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Gay and Lesbian Writing Conferences
Category: Writing and Poetry

Check out my recently published content on AC:
Gay and Lesbian Writing Conferences

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Choose A Lifestyle That Makes You Happy
Category: Life

I'd like to thank Dennis Harting for this article. At the conclusion of the article, check out the link for the Swing! call for submissions.

Choose A Lifestyle That Makes You Happy

 By Dennis Harting

It is always interesting to watch how society attempts to make people conform. Social conditioning is one of the most powerful motivators we encounter. The fact that most of it occurs without our knowledge is what makes it so effective. People will fight to defend their beliefs without even being aware of where those ideas came from. Unfortunately, the majority of us are nothing more than "products of our environment". We rarely become something that we consciously chose. Rather, those who we spent the most time with influenced us into believing what we do.

When it comes to relationships and sex, society is clear on what it's belief is. Heterosexual marriage is the accepted model. This is the best way to maintain order while ensuring the reproduction of the "village". People who enter this state end up raising a family which carries the population forward. Also, married couples provide an overall stability to the community. They tend to settle down in an area while establishing some roots. The focus often shifts away from individual fulfillment to that of the family. It is a wonderful concept and appropriate in most situations.

However, there are a large number of people who are not designed for this lifestyle. Yet society fails to deliver the message that it is alright for one to find a lifestyle that is suitable to him or her. Many believe that if someone is not of this mold, then there must be something wrong. Yet, there are many different lifestyles for people to choose from. Of course, there is the choice of staying single. For a lot of people, this is the ideal way to live life. Some people are homosexual or bisexual. Their preference strays a bit from the norm. Then there are those who prefer the "swinging" lifestyle. Monogamy is not something that works for them. These are just a few of the choices people can make when deciding what they want in life.

Part of living a rich life is making the choices that make you happy. Too many people allow others to make the decisions for them and wonder why they are not fulfilled. You are the only one who has to live your life. It is imperative that you select those things that coincide with your true nature.

Attempting to live a lifestyle that is not true to us will result in failure. We have heard of the man who leaves his wife for another man. He comes "out of the closet". Afterwards, people wonder why he would do such a thing. The answer is that he simply was trying to live a lifestyle that did not fit him. Certainly he may not have known his sexual preference when he got married. Nevertheless, the pressures of our culture deter the investigation into what fits this individual. He was trained from a young age that he should get married and raise a family. That is the conditioning of society.

Naturally, this is not to imply that there is anything wrong with marriage or family. The point is that basically they are not for everyone. However, the judgments of others is another powerful weapon. People who fail to obey the cultural norm are belittled. For example, what is the opinion of people who engage in group sex. The majority of society looks down upon those people. They call them all kinds of names. Individuals who claim to be "open-minded" judge the daylights out of these people. Since they do not fit into the proper model, weapons are brought out in an attempt to make them conform. Naturally, violence is outlawed in the era so other tactics are utilized. The biggest is to let people know they "do not fit in". This carries considerable pressure. We all want to be a part of something. Our humanness dictates this. Man (in the species sense) is a social animal. We are designed to interact with other people.

When seeking personal happiness, it is important that we choose a sexual/romantic situation that accommodates us. We need to give ourselves the freedom to make the proper choice. If being married and living in a monogamous relationship works for you, follow that path. However, if something else is more to your nature, it is best to follow that. A word of caution: it is often difficult to be true to your decision. There will be a number of people who will attempt to influence you. This will be done with the claim that they want you to be happy. Of course, they operate under the presumption that they know what is best for you. You are the only one who can make this decision.

Here's is a common example. I once worked with a guy who knew that he was cut out for the swinger lifestyle. Throughout his dating career, he was in numerous long-term, monogamous relationships. He told me that he was not happy in those situations even though the women were wonderful. They were ideal candidates for married life. Unfortunately for them, he was not. After some research, he realized that another lifestyle fit him better. He consciously chose to pursue it. Until he met that "special" someone. She was ideal in all manners except that she was not interested in swinging. As you can guess, issues arose. We talked on a number of different occasions about this. In the end, he had to let her go. Neither of them would enjoy happiness engaging in the other's lifestyle. Ultimately he did find someone who was pursuing the same interests as him. Today, they are very happy together.

In summary, be mindful of the choices you make with your life. Understand there was a lot of conditioning that influenced you. Society has a way of training us to behave in certain ways. Resist the temptation to go against your core. If another path sits better with you, follow it. Your happiness rests upon the decisions that you make. Even though those closest to you will have their opinions and judgments, they do not live your life. It is your responsibility to make live a rich and full life.

Dennis Harting is the Head Coach at Your Rich Life. He is an acclaimed speaker, trainer, and author. His books include the international best sellers Your Easiest Million and The Ultimate Procrastination Handbook. His programs and more information can be found at http://www.yourrichlifeinc.com.

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Ten Reasons Why You Should Consider Swinging and a Call for Submissions
Category: Life

(Thanks to Janet Sheridan for this article.  Articlebase does not allow me to correct for spelling, punctuation, grammar, etc., so just focus on the content - which is the most important in this case.)

10 Reasons Why you Should Consider Swinging

10 reasons why you should consider swinging

Swinging can be a really great experience for a couple but , why? , why to consider swinging? Here is a top ten that might help you to jump into the lifestyle and then , from soft swinging to full swinging.

Swinging is called "recreational sex" but , it is , in fact , responsible non-monogamy. Lots of swinger couples and singles get together for wife swapping and group sex.

Reason to swing 1

Swingers are the kind of exciting and fun company to be with. Swingers are transparent , active , honest and very open to new friendships. Swingers really enjoy their life style all the time a swinger will always be a swinger and like it. Environment at their clubs is usually free but they really know how to have fun at parties , picnics , etc.It is a good experience to share with swingers since they are wonderful people.

Reason to swing 2

Health. Swingers must have a healthy life style.The majority of swinger clubs and scenes discourage excessive alcohol consumption, do not allow drug use and always try to provide good exercise.To stay healthy is a good practice in lifestyle since there are events all the time. Swinging will occupy you out of your home .

Reason to swing 3

Swinger life style is an environment that gives opportunity to anyone to dress daring dresses and lingerie.You can now show off those things you use to buy at sex shops or by catalog. Nobody will laugh or anything.Most swingers enjoy dressing up and being watched.

Reason to swing 4

Fantasies. Have you ever dreamed of two women ? or wanted one of your same sex ? may be sharing yourself with a stranger ? some one to watch you? on watching others for a turn on? lots and lots of flesh to pick up from? If you can think of it , you'll find it in the life style. Swinging is all about fantasies.

Reason to swing 5

Performance. A couple may be adept lovers but some things need to be seen and practiced, not just read about.

Reason to swing 6

Being attractive is good to anyone. This is a good reason to go into swinger lifestyle since you'll need to stay on a diet and exercising to be "selectable" in a swinger party .Many times people stop maintaining their attractiveness when they "settle down"You don't have to look like a 10 but attractiveness is about the attitude of a "10".

Reason to swing 7

Menu. Swingers are not hungry of variety.Your partner may be delicious but why having a limit to yourself? Nice muscles, big boobs , middle and/or big penises , you want some red heads huh ? no problem , you choose , there are red heads , brunettes , blondes and whatever you want , positions ??? anyone you want , you just need to go in .It's all there in swinger life style.

Reason to swing 8

New and good friendships.If you're lucky , you have a couple of really good friends.If you start meeting swingers you probably get several more.In swinger life style , you can meet other couples that share your interests and are willing to share to an intimate level.

Reason to swing 9

Not only more but, better friends.It is sad that jealousy and other issues break so many friendships and couples. Swinging can bring many good things to frirnships.In the lifestyle you need no to hide anything , if you desire your best friend's wife or husband just go and take it into your bed.It is better to watch your partner and join him/her to have sex with another person that not having him/her because of it.

The top reason to consider swinging is:

Playing along with your partner. Arriving to a party , having lots of sex and non-monogamous fun and then leaving as a couple.It is what makes swinger lifestyle different from other lifestyles;couples do this together.

You don't usually see partners together but , in the sexual sharing of swinging lifestyle it is almost necessary.It's not about sharing your partner with someone else is sharing your couple with somebody else . It's about enjoying yourselves while at the same time opening to receive someone else into your fun. Sharing experiences build a solid relationship. Sharing, that's what swinging is about in the end.

Article Source: http://www.articlesbase.com/sexuality-articles/10-reasons-why-you-should-consider-swinging-226841.html

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I am editing a new swinging anthology with the publisher Logical-Lust. The call for submissions can be found at logical-lust.com/swingcall.html. Deadline - September 1.

Go to logical-lust.com/joliedupre.html for a Logical-Lust interview with me as I discuss my plans for Swing!

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365 Days with Jolie
Current mood: hopeful
Category: Life

I'm in a bad place, so I've started a new blog to record my road back to health and happiness. Visit my entry over at LiveJournal.

Currently listening : Steel Pulse: Ultimate Collection By Steel Pulse Release date: 2000-05-09

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