March For Babie
Category: Life

I'm joining my friend and her daughter this weekend to support the March of Dimes in their March for Babies.   Her daughter was born very premature weighing less than 12 oz.  You can help her and other young babies with a small (or large one too if you wish) of $5 or $10.  Or you can join us in the walk.  you MUST do one or the other or else suffter my wrath.

Hey don't laugh.  My wrath is nothing to scuff at. 

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HOw to behave after a breakup

Anyway that works for you, especially if you are the one that was betrayed.

I am writing this because I'm a bit miffed tonight that it seems that some people have opinions on how I should be behaving after a break up.  I don't think it's anyone on my reader list but I'm sure this will get back to the people who are.

Without getting into details, let me clarify first of all that I was very committed and thought that our relationship was going well when suddenly the rug got pulled out from underme.  I was blindsided by issues of distrust and lies that were kept for months. It doesn't always take cheating for trust to be betrayed.  Still, I loved the man and I was falling apart in the next couple weeks so 3 weeks later I tried again, only to be hit again wish some more lies.  Sure, the event happened during the breakup, but the lies were told when we were getting back together.  I am not writing this to hurt him, in fact, I still do care. 

What is getting me angry is that others are undermining what I did feel for him by pointing out how I am now.  I felt very confident and secure with him, and now it's gone, so excuse me if I am trying to seek out some attention and affirmations.   Excuse me if it feels good to be flirted with and to have others attracted to me.  I haven't dated, I certainly haven't slept with anyone, or even kissed anyone and I don't plan on it any time soon. 

I joined a new dating site because I someone showed it to me and I found some of the personality tests and other features interesting.  I wasn't going to put a full profile on it but then I thought why not. NOthing wrong with getting to know new friends.  Besides, it's over with my ex.  Too many things have happened, I am guessing with the help of some of the little birdies I'm talking about.  I see nothing wrong with me taking baby steps towards heeling.  I am far from ready for many reasons to get into a serious relationship again.  I want to be totally secure with myself before I do and I'm far from it right now. 

I know it's no one elses business but I still do care, and by filling his head full of crap it's only hurting him more.  If you really care about him you would stay out of something that you have no clue about. 

And just for the record, I'm not accusing anyone.  I just know that someone showed him my profile on the dating site.   ANd from some of the things that he has said  I believe there are those putting their own twist on my behavior.

Maybe this is a stupid or lame blog but I really don't care.  I have a cold and should be sleeping but I knew this was going to be on my mind so I needed to vent.  So once again, I'm not trying to hurt him, but I do have a right to heel in my own way as well.  If this continues you are only hurting him.  . 

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My Web Site

I've been working on my website when I can. Here it is so far. Paluszdreamz.com.  Think I'm going to take the bottom section off.  Be sure to click on the link to the right called Free Your Mind.  Think I'm going to change that to Rebuild Your Thoughts.  Makes sense with what I wrote there.

Just to let you know, it is an affiliate site so when you click on the links below my ramblings and to the right of them, it will take you to something you can purchase and I'll get a bit of money for it.  Anything in my actual text right  now it not an affiliate.  I will have a couple recommended things that I will have an affiliate link to.  I'll let you know who those are as they come up.

Let me know what you think.  I can use constructive criticism. 

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Review my site please.

I made my site today. It's not finished but I like how it looks.  Below is a copy of the text I'll be using with links to the web sites as well.  I will be adding more links on the side.

Here's a the link to my site.

Tell me what you think.  Is this too long, too boring?  Did you find it interesting at all?  I am thinking it is boring myself.  I'm too tired to fix it right

Here is the text content so far.  Don't be afraid to tell me what you really think.

Welcome to Palusz Dreamz

Thank you for stopping by.  I made this site with the single parent in mind.  We are so busy taking care of our families that it is easy to leave our other passions behind.  I want this to be a place where you will find the support, resources and inspiration manifest your own dreams into reality.  

The following quote that I orignally heard in the movie "Coach Carter" is thought provoking and made me see myself in another light.  I am hoping it may touch you in some way too.

..StartFragment --> "Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness, that most frightens us. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine as children do. It's not just in some of us; it is in everyone. And as we let our own lights shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others. "  Orignally by Marianne Williamson and spoken by Nelson Mendella. 

It is a shame that so many of us end up diminishing our own lights as we care for others.  Let your light shine onto your children, family, friends and the rest of the world around you.  We can all help each other. 

What Inspired me to Create this Site? 

I have been feeling a shift in myself for several months now, or I should say several years.  I have always been someone who has looked into herself and read self help books for my own self inprovement.  I have changed a lot inwardly, I know it, even if others do not see it.  Yet I seemed to be stuck in so many ways until recently.

Last winter I saw The Secret Movie some of you may have heard about on Oprah, Ellen, Larry King or some other media.  For the most part The Secret didn't tell me anything new.  What it did do was confirm what I always believed.  The power of our minds are amazing and we really can accomplish anything we set our mind too.

Watching the movie was not enough though.  Recently I found this forum powerfulintentions of amazing people, many of which who have been using the principles of The Secret's Law of Attraction for many years to their benifit.  You will find valuable resources from books, tapes, web site and enlightened posts on the forum boards.  I will be reviewing some of the materials periodically as I get to read them.  

The third element in my inspiration was actually came first but it took the other two to realize where it fit in my life.  I had watch the TV Show, Starting Over, since it first started over 3 years ago.  It is a reality show where 6 women move into a house together in order to change their lives with the help of Coaches.  I loved the show and found the coaches tough, fair, wise and inspiring.  Rhonda Britten was the one I related to best so I found her website http://www.fearlessliving.com  and read two of her books, "Fearless Living" and Change Your Life in 30 Days.  I also always wanted to start a fearbuster study group through Rhonda's web site but never had the courage or inspiring idea in which to do so, until today.

Out of no where this morning a thought popped into my head on how I can help single parents get ahead without stressing themselves and their kids out.  It's an idea that I will talk about soon, it is my other idea that I wish to tell you about.  I will be starting a fearbuster group for single parents who are looking for a new career, business, or want to pursue their creative talents. The first group will start Thurseday, April 26 at 5:30 central.  For more information you can read about it on my myspace blog.

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fearless business
Current mood: ecstatic
Category: Goals, Plans, Hopes

I have decided on a direction for these fearbuster group sessions. Being a single mother myself I know how hard it is to scrape by working and caring for your family. It never seems that you can get ahead. I was lucky and more fortionate than most that I had a family business that allowed me lots flexibility and has taught me much. It was still a struggle for me as well.

I had been thinking a long time on how I could other single mothers and fathers out there and I am beginning to form a great vision. It starts with this; forming a group of individuals who have the same longing to make a life better for themselves and their children and be able to give them all the time and attention they need. I don't think anything can keep one in fear more than worrying about the wellfare of their children.

This is a group for anyone that has ever had the slightest inkling of starting their own business, writing a book, selling their art or persuing a career in music or acting. It's for the dreamers out there that have been living in fear of starting their dream because of what failing to do so or even succeeding to do so may do to their family. Although I'm specifically targeting single parents, no one will be excluded if they have the desire.

I am not a teacher or leader in this group. I am mearly a faciliator who is trying to fufill my own need of support in persuing a business as I come accross the roadblocks of fear.

I will be holding the groups on Thurseday evenings at 5:30 starting April 26th. I will initially run it for 6 weeks. If you are interested in the class let me know and I'll get you all the information you need.

These groups are only the beginning. I am also building a website that will have links that will be helpful to all the single parent families out there. I will be reviewing different books, cd's, dvd's, programs, and web sites that I believe will be helpful in overcoming your fear and blocks to persue your dream.

I have one more grand idea that I will be keeping hush hush for now. You'll just have to join the classes to find out.

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Overcoming fear.

As some of you know fear has been detremental to my life and I have been doing my best to overcome it for a while. I have made progress but that progress is not enough for what I want to accomplish. I'm in place in my life where it's do or die time. Since dying (or giving up) is not an option I decided to help myself by starting a fearbuster group with Rhonda Britten's Fearless Living books. Not sure I want to use Fearless Living or another of her books, Change your life in 30 days. If you are all interested or curious read the excerpt from the Fearless Living web site below and read the introduction to fearbuster groups.



These classes will be using a tele conference phone number and will be free except for long distance charges. Let me know if you are interested and we can discuss the best days and times for this. I look forward to learning how to live fearlessly along with you.

Join a Fearbuster Study Group

• Stretch past your comfort zone.
• Integrate the concepts and Fearbuster exercises.
• Work through one of Rhonda's books, Fearless Living, Change Your Life in 30 Days, or Fearless Loving.
• Stick with your intentions by holding you accountable.

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Breaking through

March 26, 2007

This week has been very challenging and rewarding for me. It's been rewarding because I have made some huge strides in overcoming my biggest challenges, mainly fear, procrastination and disorganization. 

I was feeling scared stuck again early in the week, unable to do what needed to be done so I took some time to get myself orgagnized and developed a game plan.  This helped me eliviate some of my fears but what mainly needed to be done is to go out and visit businesses.  I did just that again. 
 
I also developed a schedule with solid yellow lines for the most important things.  It's to easy for me to procrastinate if I do not have a schedule.  This was not an easy thing for me to do.  I have always been very adverse to schedules and routines thinking that it will intfere in my freedom.  But I feel so much more productive and alive and free after this week.  So much so that I am planning on giving myself a very rare treat if I can  keep this up for 2 more months.  Something that represents the ultimate in breaking through fear to freedom, something that I have always wanted to do.  I am going skydiving, and with my sister.  I know this is something she has always wanted to do as well.  But the only way I'm going to be able to do this is to make the money, and the only way I'm going to do that is to make this venture work.  I got off to a great start last week, my goal for this week is to keep the momentum going. 

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Goodbye

Finally my first goodbye letter. This is dated on the day I will be leaving for good. You'll see what I mean when you read it.


June 1, 2007

You have been a wonderful friend and partner for the last 19 years. You came at a time in my life when I needed stability. I raised my family with you thanks to your patience and understanding. You have given me a lot. I have learned so much in business skills and in life skills. I have made many mistakes but have learned from them over time. It has not always been easy on either of us at times, but we stuck together for most of that 19 years and given to each other.

I know the last few years I have not been as enthused with our relationship and have been taking, giving little in return. I want you to know that this was never my intention. I just knew the time had come and passed where we had anything to give to each other. I have learned all I could from you, and it is with all that I learned that I know I can move on and prosper.

There was a time that I thought my dream could be with you and that we could grow together. That is the time I will remember the most fondly. It was exciting for all of us. But I think we all knew I did not belong with you forever. Our dreams did not coincide as I thought. You were the right path for a while though. And even though I stayed on the path too long I leave now with fond memories and with gratitude for all we have given each other.

Thank you family business. I could not have been able to make it as comfortably without you.

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My appologies

I recently looked at my reader list and realized that my little experiment generated almost double my readership.  (could mean I have two instead of one now but you'll never know).  Then I stopped blogging.  How horrible of me. 

I will blog again.  I can't promise daily blogs but what I will do is weekly blogs. 

I do have a question though.  WHy do all my best ideas happen in the shower when I'm getting ready to go somewhere and don't have time to blog.  I had a thought this morning I intended to blog about but now it's gone.  Anyway. I let you know how next week went sometime this weekend. If you know the experiment I'm talking about that should make sense. 

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UP IN SMOKE - maybe
Category: Life

I just read a Goodbye letter from Dan, The Gentleman of Leisure and this inspired me to write my own goodbye letters to the year 2006, my job at the family company, "I can't", and other bad habbits and negative thinking I have. I was going to post them here but I think I have other plans for them, such as burning them or sending them off on a balloon. Didn't decide yet.

I'm also working on making long term goals so I have something I'm working towards in my daily life. I will continue my daily blogs outlining my intentions for the day but I need to work on them so they have feeling behind them and are not just a what I did list.

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