Sexual inequality
Current mood: horny
Category: Romance and Relationships

I watched Britney Spears new video on 20/20.  The title of the song is 'Womanizer'.  In the video, she's dressed sexily and sticking her butt in the guys face, pushing him down numerous times (on the couch, bed, etc.,) and he does nothing except try to grab her butt when she puts it in his face and later on gets a worried look on his face as she keeps on pushing him down and other women are touching him.  He is completely passive throughout the video.  She's calling him a womanizer while she's climbing on top of him, grabbing him by his time and pulling him around, etc.

What I thought while I watched this video?  A couple things...For one, the song doesn't appeal to me, her singing isn't anything to be impressed with.  But the main one was that if the roles were reversed, I don't think this video would have been made or made it to 20/20.  No matter how famous the guy, I don't think he could have sold this as a good video.

Which brought me to another thought...Something I did, about a year ago.  I was in a bar and there was a guy who was really good looking and he was wearing a pair of jeans with a hole the size of a quarter in the middle of his right butt cheek.  First, I talked to him and said 'you know, there are lots of women in here staring at the hole in your pants, right?'  He responded in a calm way, 'pretty much'.  In other words, he knew he would get attention and he went out with that conscious desire to get attention.  Just like many of us women do, me included.  We wear sexy clothes, fix our hair, etc.  We are trying to look sexually appealing, make people stare at our bare legs, etc.  Right?

Well, then the next part of the story is, that guy was playing pool and I was sitting at a table with my friends close by and he kept moving around the table to take his shots and bending down like people do naturally when they shoot pool and at least twice I watched his butt bent close to me before I did what I did.  About the third time I saw his skin poking out at me through the hole in his jeans, I poked it with my finger.

Shocking, right?  Not to me. It was fun.  I figured he was enjoying the attention and I enjoyed being bold.  He didn't seem to mind either.  When the night was over he asked for a hug and said he'd come back the next night if I wanted to dance. 

But if the story was turned around...if the roles were reversed...would the woman who got her butt poked or grabbed or whatever because she was dressed sexily be as calm about it?  Or would she call the cops and file a harrassment lawsuit?

I'm glad I don't have to be so uber sensitive about how the opposite sex is going to be about my fun, flirting, advances. 

What are your thoughts?

Currently listening : Jump Back: The Best of the Rolling Stones 1971-1993 By The Rolling Stones Release date: 2004-08-24

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It’s Only Temporary....addressing the financial panic
Current mood: optimistic
Category: Life

I am surprised by the number of people who I hear talking about the economic crisis and making such a big deal about it.  I've heard of talk shows addressing how to keep your money safe and news shows talking about mansions going up for sale and all the crazy stuff people are thinking.

I'm about to set this thing straight for anyone who wants to know.

The rich people are still rich.  They may have lost a few million in the stock market but they don't worry about that.  In fact, they probably are smart enough that they haven't pulled their investments out of the stocks. 

The poor people still struggle just like they always did.  They don't have stocks therefore they don't worry about them. They just try to get by, put food on the table and pay the bills.  They're happy that gas prices are going down and if they're smart, they're keeping their jobs or getting new ones at fast food joints or liquor stores in the meantime.

The middle class are the ones who are panicking.  They see big corporations failing and they have a few grand in the stock market so they can retire comfortably and since the economy is crunching and the stock brokerages are looking shaky, these people are pulling out fast.  They are losing money big time but it's what they think they should do. 

Let me tell ya...if I had stock in Kraft or AT&T or Coca Cola or any other long lasting company, I would not sell.  In fact, if I had extra money, I'd buy stock like crazy right now.

It's not going to stay this low.  Middle America needs to stop listening to the hype and realize that.  This is temporary.  Sure, stock prices are low.  That's the time to buy.

Remember that basic old line we've all heard?

Buy low.

Sell high.

Newsflash!  It's low right now.

It won't stay that way.

This is a public service announcement.  I don't expect to gain anything by saying it.  I just hope some of you panicking people who have money to invest are listening and get in when the gettin's good.  Believe me...the gettin's good right now. :)

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Ten things I wish I could say to my exes.
Current mood: amused
Category: Romance and Relationships

I got this idea from Jimmy who decided not to tag people but it's a great game.

Visit Jimmy's Exes blog here

So...here's mine.

1.  Get the wax out of your ears, or corn cobs or whatever it is and LISTEN.  When I say I don't want you anymore, I really mean that.  It's over.  Stop stalking me. 

2.  "Start without me" and "I'm tired" are the lamest things I've ever heard.  If you don't want to have sex with me, tell me the truth.  Like you already had sex with someone else or you want a quickie where you don't have to work to get me off, you just want to get off quick and go to sleep.  Selfish bastards. 

3.  Your lying never got over on me.  I closed my eyes and didn't slap you because I was being tolerant of you.  I knew you were stupider than me. But when I said 'Stop lying." or 'If you take money from me again I'm going to leave you.' or 'Go to the program with me (that your child starred in)'...you really should have listened at least one of those times....LOSER!  You acted shocked when I left you, but surely you knew.

4.  Stalking and emailing and harrassing and all that crap really doesn't get me back.  You all did it and it never worked.  Please don't ever do it to another woman.  When we say it's over...that means it's really OVER.  Move on. Find a new sucker.

5.  If you promise something...do it..or apologize.  If you didn't ever mean to do it because you just wanted me to shut up, then don't promise.  Just say why you can't or won't.  I'll figure you out eventually anyway, so you might as well be honest up front. 

6.  The size of your penis doesn't matter, idiot!  I've seen pumps and other neurotic stuff from more than you and I promise you...if you're the biggest I've ever been with or your the smallest I've ever been with....you're all the same because I'm not with either of you.  When I look back on those I miss or want to see again, it's not about the size of their pecker...it's about their desire to listen.  Think on that for a bit.

7.  I'm really tired of the threesome fantasy.  If' that's all you got, you need to do something else or not say anything.  I realize that guys tend to want to please two women at one time but frankly, most of you can't please one woman completely at any time so you work on that.  I've worked on how to please you..listened to every bit of advice I could find...so just listen to me at least....and if you can do it all right and make me beg for back up..then I'll listen to your threesome idea.  Otherwise...I'll go first.  You got a guy friend in mind you want to volunteer?

8.  To D specifially, I hope one day you realize that you are not as hot as you think you are and being arrogant and superficial is not working for you.  That's why you're single.  Two words 'Grow Up.'

9.  To C specifically, When I told you that you don't listen, I was right.  Try to listen.  And be a little ambitious.  Getting a job that pays well enough that you can afford a car is a good thing.  A second job even might be a thought.  Just a thought...I know you won't listen.  But since I've worked two jobs for a year and a half I would think you should.  Feel free to ignore this just like everything else I ever said.

10.  Ahhh, the last one.  I guess I should make it poignant.  Either funnier than the others or more harsh or something.  Although I feel the harsh thing big time, I could do that easily.  My last ex...yep..got lots of harsh things for him....still I think I'm going for funny.  I have laughed a few times along the way of my enjoyable vent blog, so I want to laugh once more.

Here goes:

The top tenth thing I want to say to my exes.

10.  Here's a few things you could do to make your next relationship way better than the one you had with me:  Trim your pubic hairs.  I got turned off every time I got a long hair in my mouth.  That's why I quit sooner than  you wanted.  Thank me for stuff I do for you.  I thanked you for buying bread on your way home but you were too busy watching stuff on tv to thank me for cooking dinner.  That's why I wanted to smack you and wasn't interested in your pecker when you poked it in my back in the middle of the night.  Stop telling me what you don't like about what I cooked.  Eat it or cook yourself.  You're grown.  You can make food.  Be happy or shut up.  Stop being jealous.  If I wanted to leave you, I would.  There are always more guys who want the female goods out there so don't even ask if I'm cheating on you or accuse me of having a boyfriend because of that wrong number that called.  It's not making things better.  If you want me, do shit like wash the dishes and put the toilet seat down and run the washing machine....that's the way you can keep me...oh and all the other stuff in this blog too. :) 

Oh, and one last thing....because it's not that funny like the rest of it was to me, but it's true and it's important.

Have real conversations where you listen and speak the truth and don't start off mad.  That'll help everyone.

Feel free to do this blog yourself and tell me you did it.  I look forward to reading some funny but true stuff.  Or just state your own thoughts here. Thanks in advance.  And thanks to Jimmy for the idea. :)

Currently listening : Bleeding Love By Leona Lewis Release date: 2008-01-14

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The real reason(s) why I can’t write
Current mood: hopeful
Category: Writing and Poetry

Or maybe it's all just excuses.  You can decide for yourself and let me know your honest opinion.  Maybe I'm just avoiding it.

First off...I learned about plotting and yet I can't seem to go the simple route.  I meander off or can't think of the part that should come next or something.  I start out with an idea and have an general ending in my head, but the middle is as hard to imagine as eating dirt for dinner.

Next...I am coming to realize that my life has dealt me some crazy blows in the past couple years.  Nothing I can't handle, but enough that fiction seems trivial compared to what real life has done to me.  When I write, I need to identify with my characters up front and if their issues are much more trivial than anything I've been through, it's hard to identify with them. When I first started writing seriously, I was in a stagnant, mundane place in my life and my fantasies flooded my thoughts.  Now, I can't even imagine opening up to someone on a romantic level because of the stuff I've dealt with that I can't seem to get into my characters head.

I suppose I could write a serious story..one that deals with tough issues, except that I don't think I can deal with dark stuff that much to write it.  It would be completely emotionally draining.

I prefer to write light, humurous, romantic mundane stuff.  That's my comfort zone. 

So...I'd really like to get excited about writing again.  Whether it's publishable or not, I don't care.  I just want to be inspired and see where it goes.  I'd like your thoughts.  Do you think I should try to write something dark and true to me?  A character that I could identify with and a story that matched them?  Or should I just force myself to put a certain amount of time aside each day to write and not worry about whether it had plot or I identified with the character or there was anything worth saving?  Just write.

What are your thoughts?  I look forward to any and all.  Thanks in advance. :)

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The movies
Current mood: amused
Category: Movies, TV, Celebrities

I watched two movies tonight and was surprised both times.

The first movie I watched was 'Baby Mama"

From what I'd heard and the trailors I thought it was going to be hilarious.

It was funny at times and it was true to plot but it just didn't give me anything to make me laugh too hard or think too much to forget about the story line.  I guess I might be too much a of a student to enjoy this kind of predicatable story.

It also didn't make me laugh as hard as I thought it would.

I enjoyed it, though...just not like I enjoyed the other one.

The title is 10,000 bc.

Ever heard of this movie? Although I watched it, I couldn't tell you the name of any of the stars.

It started out a little muddled and neither my son or I could recognize the protagonist or the story idea at times...............but then, something happened and we got into it.  The story took over, the plot and characters became clear and we watched with anticipation.

I think it's a good example of a movie I should watch again.  I'd learn more.

So what movies have you seen recentlly and what are your thoughts?  Any recommendations?

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I miss romance
Current mood: aroused
Category: Romance and Relationships

I've been mentally formulating this blog for days.  The title is the basic premise.  I miss having romance in my life.  To me...romance is smiling and kissing and laughing and doing stupid litle things for each other just because you want to or can't stand to be away from them, or care about them too much....

An example would be...If the woman wakes up and turns to the guy and says 'what do you want for breakfast?'  She wants to feed him because he worked so hard the night before to take care of her and she's feeling wonderful and imagines he's hungry.  He used a lot of energy!

He says 'Bacon.'  with enthusiasm.  His eyes don't open but he smiles at her as he answers.

She's excited to cook him bacon..but she goes one or two further and makes eggs and toast..and is working on coffee or juice when he walks up behind her out of nowhere, wraps his big, strong arm around her waist gently and whispers in her ear...'you smell soooo good'.

She laughs and asks, 'Me?  or breakfast?'

In his still half asleep sexy voice.."Both...which one do you want me to eat first?"

Yep...I'm cheesy as hell which is why I enjoy romance books to a degree.  But I'm also aloof to romantic things at inappropriate moments.  If some guy I gave my number to three weeks ago hasn't called me but now it's three weeks later and he sees me across the room with my girlfriends and calls me instead of approaching me...I am the definition of aloof. 

I am not in favor of dressing alike or being ridiculously affectionate in public and I don't like lots of 'sweetie pie, sugar muffin' kind of names..I don't do poems or other gag stuff.

But I still miss romance in my life.  It's been a long freakin time since I felt that and although I've had some sex along the way, and there has been some good sex, I haven't had the romance.  I didn't expect it...in fact I have avoided it...I don't want the complications...but now...I am finding I miss it.

To clarify...I have been kissed, wonderfully. I have been held and had multiple orgasms and kept up all night and called on Valentines day by a guy just to say 'happy valentines day.'

So, those things are on the edge of romance.  But not real romance as I see it.  If tomorrow was my birthday, I promise you no guy would remember it and call me.  If I had a horrible day tomorrow and called all the guys I know crying and asking them to drop everything and just hold me while I cried...no one would do it.  In a real romance...the guy would know that this kind of thing is a once every five year thing for me and he would drop everything and rush to me.

So....what's your idea of romance and do you have it?  Do you miss it?  Do you want it in your life? 

Tell me your story...I'll enjoy them immensley. :)  I also think I'll learn something so consider this my education. :)

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What did I miss?
Current mood: curious
Category: News and Politics

I worked tonight and therefore missed the vp candidate debate.  What the late night show spoofs and the news and the internet has told me isn't much of what I really wanted to know.

Here's what I believe out of what I heard/read.  Palin talked her hometown talk using slang like 'gonna' instead of going to.

Both candidates spent more time slamming the others running mate than really making any new statements.

I actually find it odd that I care about things like this as usually I don't find anything interesting about Presidential or VP debates.  I have an opinion already, I know they are going to keep on saying the same things they've been saying over and over again and they're going to act like it's more important to quote a couple statistics and twist them into negativity about the other side than to really get down to straight talk.

It sounds like this went the same way...except maybe worse for Palin.  She's being labeled as too dumb and pretty, basically....and that label is not going to change if she can't be a bit more pitbullish.  And the only way she's going to use her 'I'm not a politican' trait to her advantage is to focus on the basics of the issues, enunciate like she surely can (proper word usage/spelling and enunciation make people think intelligence), and show that she's tough enough to deal with Washington like Washington won't know what hit it when she gets there.

In your opinion, did she do that?

In your opinion did Biden say anything that you appreciated?  Did either candidate make a comment that stuck out to you as sincere and right? 

I guess, what I'm essentially saying is....did I miss something?  Or was the whole thing pretty much a waste of time?  Did you change your mind, even a little about anything?  If so, what?

Currently listening : Oh Sheila! Ready for the World's Greatest Hits By Ready for the World Release date: 1993-09-28

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What’s the real purpose?
Current mood: enlightened
Category: MySpace

There are some people who have their profile set to where you can't send them a message unless you are on their friend list. (Not even to say hi or I saw your blog, or anything.)

There are some people who have their pages set to private. I understand if they're kids but I don't get why adults do it.

There are some who have comments set to where your comment has to be approved before it posts.  Why?  Can't they just delete the comment if they don't like it?

There are some who delete their pages without even saying bye.

As for me....I don't subscribe to any of that.  I lost friends but that's because they blocked me, not the other way around.  I can't see some people's blogs or profiles but that's them, not me.  In fact, I had an issue recently that caused me to feel that being private for a bit was the right thing to do but I couldn't do it for long. 

So...I wanna ask you all..if you are blocking messages from people not on your friends list, if you are blocking comments from those same people, if you are afraid of the world, why are you on myspace?

There are some that I have a simple message for, so I'm going to say them here since they don't take private messages.:

To A the name of the mouse....I miss talking to you sometimes but when I realize you don't want messages from me, it cures me completely.  Hope things are well with you.

To P the name of the frog....you aren't around much anymore but I still appreciate you when you are.

To Nate, the other one, the one who put his hand on the small of my back, if you are reading this, please let me know.  Send a message or call or something.  I wonder about you and worry but I try not too. I care.

Yep, I feel better now just getting that off my chest. Woo hoo.  I doubt I'll get any response from it but just putting it out there helps me.  I'm not big on burning bridges so I have a hard time dealing with bridges someone else burns. ;)

Anything you wish to say to anyone you might or might not think will read it?  Go ahead..spill.  I'll listen.  Is there anyone you have any message for that you can't talk to in any other way?  Here's your chance.  Go for it.

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Democrat versus Republican...the basics and the importance of voting
Current mood: curious
Category: News and Politics

I hear so many people talking about the upcoming election, about the candidates, who they want to vote for, vote against and why.  But it's usually emotional and random.

I, for one, am a mixture of idealist and realist.  I have ideals (the way I would love to see things go) and realism (how I think things are really going to go, even with a best case scenario).  What bothers me most about the average person's attitude/thoughts about who they're going to vote for is that most of us don't have the big picture.  We look at what we want to look at, or what's presented to us.  For instance, if my biggest concern is gas prices, then I look for the candidate that talks about gas prices in a way that convinces me that they have that same concern and ideas about how to fix it.

But when I look at our political system, how it works and what people understand, I see a gap in so many areas.  So...I want to start with something basic.  I want to explain what it's taken me years to get and I want to explain it in a way that anyone can understand it.  If nothing else helps you understand how you want to vote, maybe this will.

A democrat is someone who wants democracy 'of the people, by the people'.  Basically, that means every person, every citizen who has the right to vote (an adult and not a criminal) has the equal vote to every other person.  That means, anyone who works at McDonald's for ten years flipping burgers and living in their parents basement where they don't ever watch the news but they spend lots of time playing ninetendo, has the same and equal vote to the science geek or the farmer or the entrepreneur who made millions of their invention or Sara Palin or Barack Obama.  Completely equal votes.

A republican supports a republic where the people support or pick those who vote for them.  Like our congress does for us.  You vote for your local congressman and he then is supposed to vote like the majority of his constituants would vote.  But he doesn't really know how everyone would vote, he just has a general idea and he puts that together with how his party votes and his own feelings and his supporters and therefore it may or may not be accurate but there it is...his vote.  He might have been half asleep the day of the vote, but he represented hundreds or hundreds of thousands.

We currently have a republic, for the most part.  Even when we vote for president, our vote only counts for the percentage of the state count.  It's not a literal vote count.  But I don't know that it should be.  I know plenty of egotistical, moronic, prejudiced, and downright crazy people that I don't think I want their vote to count as much as mine.

But ya know what...fair is fair.  If we have more stupid people in our country than logical thinking people, then maybe we deserve to have stupid laws and stupid bills passed and stupid presidents and lawmakers.

So...when you vote, instead of voting your party, maybe you should vote for whoever represents the person you are most identified with.  Someone said to me that Palin is less corrupted by Washington than those in Washington.  I agree although I wonder how she would be a good Republican if she couldn't vote like more people would vote.  What's ironic is that my friend is Republican as is Palin. ;)  I've even confused myself. lol

Go ahead and spout your thoughts.  I'll listen.  I always listen. I look forward to learning something. :)

Thanks to my friend for the help in inspiring this blog. :)

Currently listening : Far From Over By Edwin McCain Release date: 2001-06-19

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stuff..just random stuff. I can’t promise you’ll care.
Category: Life

I'm sorry, but the only way I'm going to be at ease with you as someone running my country, is if you don't have something to hide.  So...thisbothers me.

I went to court before..and the last time was the worst time.  I had to testify even though I wasn't the defendant or the victim of the defendant.  I was not coaxed or even expected to be put on the stand.  But, the surprise call to the stand made me nervous as hell, but I went and I answered honestly and afterward I was told I did well. In fact, the team I was on won the verdict.

So...why are people told to refuse to go to court, accept the legal process of this country and take the risk they will be jailed unless they have something bad to hide?

Football...OMG I love football right now.  My Cowboys are riding high and my son is not only on the varsity football team, he's a huge part of it and they were undefeated until tonight when they got tromped.  4 and 0 went to 4 and 1.  It hurts, but I know they tried.  Heck, I saw my son (two separate tv stations even) on the sports update for the first time ever.  I just wish they'd have shown some of the routings this team has given out. :~

Is anyone here heartbroken about the drama that the buyout crap is causing?  I mean, come on...everyone of the regular people know that corporations are full of crap.  The top exec's keep getting richer and richer and their secretaries make minimum wage.  We know how things are.  We were around when Enron went down and we weren't surprised.

What I am surprised about?  Is that so many of them are coming around at the same time.  I expect it's about more greed.  The CEO's really want a huge severance package and the fake 'economy crash' seems like the right time to get bailed out.  In fact, I heard about the ceo of Washington Mutual being in position for three whole weeks before this happens and he gets to keep his sign on millions and his severance millions.  Whatever...I'm not shocked.  I know how different it is to be a regular person who wonders about how high their electric bill is going to be compared to these guys who don't work much and make way more than they need.

And then..to top it off, I see about a multi million dollar house in Beverly Hills up for sale and the realtor doesn't think the economy will change how easy it will be to sell this house.  Heck, I agree with him.  The rich get richer and the middle class get to take the brunt of it in taxes.

Oh, and I heard today from Paul Harvey on the radio that there's an tax calcuator on the web that you can go to and see which candidates tax 'reforms' pay you more back.

I don't care.  I didn't remember the website because it's not the real issue.  I'm thinking the real issue is having a president smart enough and brave enough to stand up for truth.  I don't want them to be like Biden and make up stuff about their first wife just to get sympathy.  I don't want them to be like Palin and look for a sympathy vote because of their kids. I want real, honest people, that might even seem hard asses at times because they're being truthful.

I'm a hard ass at times.  Heck, there are people who have a love/hate relationship with me right now. lol

I'm not worried about the economy any more than I was last week. I gotta pay my bills as ridiculous as they've become the past few years.  I'm not worried about Washington Mutual.  In fact, I don't give a crap about them.  I'm looking for sales on hamburger patties and what pump has lower gas prices and how to stretch my dollars by turning down my a/c.

Do either of these candidates get this?  I'm thinking no.

Oh, and you know what else is bothering me right now?  That my daughter came to the game with her son(first time this year) and my friend came to the game (or said she would|) and I didn't see my friend at all or my daughter for more than seconds, but I went to the game to scream for my son and that's what I did.  So, I don't know when my daughter left, never saw my friend, but I did see every play my son was in (99 percent) and watched him get frustrated, taped up and so forth.  Therefore, I apologize to my daughter and my friend...but the game was about my son.  And he worked his ass off to make that game good. 

My last thought is going to be completely superficial and egotistical but here it is.

I see a lot of women...many of them are half my age...many of them are twice my size...many of them are not even aware about what's happening on the field, they just want money to buy food or their too busy being kissed by their boyfriends who are too wimpy to play sports or they are too busy flirting with someone twice their age...

If females would just grow up and think about what a football game is about (football perhaps?) and...oh never mind.  I give up.

So...now that I've vented properly..and I have....what's on your mind?  What do you want to vent about?  What do you have to say about my many venting issues?

Just don't talk crap about my football teams and we'll be okay. ;)

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