Thursdays Angel Message of the Day
Category: Life

Thursdays Angel Message of the Day

Vulnerability

This is a message of strength, not weakness.  This is a time to finely tune your emotional sensitivity or enrich your feelings.

Be more aware than usual of outside negative energy and take the proper steps to protect yourself and your dreams.

Do not allow others, or negative thoughts to manipulate you.  Being aware of your vulnerabiltiy reduces your chance of being caught off guard. 

Find your center and balance yourself.  To feel aliveness in our hearts we must also allow vulnerability.  Can you afford to take a chance?  Can you afford not to?

As we begin to open our hearts, as we learn to trust ourselves, we learn to trust others.  By learning to love and trust ourselves, we can then learn to embrace vulnerabilities with passion, for this shows we are alive.  Granted this is not always an easy step to take. Some may call it "wearing your hearts on your sleeve"... tearing down the walls of protection that we've built up over the years, releases the hidden and once the hidden are exposed, then true healing begins!

With love and light

Tami

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Are You Being Manipulated?
Category: Life

How to Deal with Manipulation in Relationships
Manipulation in Relationships and How To Deal With It
by Harriet B. Braiker


We are all vulnerable to being manipulated in relationships, whether between romantic partners, friends, parents, children, employers, coworkers, or neighbors. When we allow another person to manipulate us, we are colluding with their desire to control our feelings, motives, and even our thoughts through deceptive, exploitative, and unfair means. A manipulative relationship is one-sided and unbalanced, advancing the goals of the manipulator at the expense of the person being manipulated. These relationships become troubled over time. If you want to change this kind of relationship, you must first recognize the features of manipulation and then look within to understand your contribution to the manipulation. There are effective ways to stand up to manipulation and bring balance back into the relationship.

Manipulation is not the same as influence. We all use influence with other people to advance our goals, and this is one of the hallmarks of healthy social functioning. Influence recognizes the rights and boundaries of other people, and it is based on direct, honest communication. Influence is one way we have of functioning effectively in the world. Influence recognizes the integrity of the other person, including the right not to go along with the attempted persuasion. Manipulation, on the other hand, depends on covert agendas and an attempt to coerce another person into giving in. Even though it may appear that the manipulator is strong and in control, there is usually insecurity under the facade. The tendency to exploit others and disregard their rights is a sign of unhealthy personality functioning. In fact, people who manipulate others have difficulty in maintaining good interpersonal relationships.

Those who manipulate other people are good at spotting people to control. If they feel unable to manipulate someone, they usually give up and move on to somebody else who is more likely to be receptive to the attempted manipulation. Once you recognize the features of the manipulation, the next step in correcting the situation is to discover your own contribution to the problem. (This statement may seem a bit difficult to accept. After all, it's the manipulator who has the problem, you might say. But realize that manipulation cannot occur in a vacuum. As is true of any relationship, it takes two people.) You can come to understand your contribution to the manipulative situation and then take steps to correct it.


Some common traits of those who are vulnerable to manipulators -

You feel useful and loved only when you can take care of the needs of other people. This goes beyond being nice to other people. Your sense of worth is tied up in doing things for other people. In fact, you take this so far that you please other people at the expense of your own well-being. For example, you might buy something especially nice for your partner or a friend when you would never spend that kind of money on yourself. Manipulators are drawn to this type of person and have no qualms about taking advantage of this particular personality trait.

You need to have the approval and acceptance of other people. Although most people appreciate being accepted, a problem occurs when you feel that you must be accepted by everyone at all times. The core problem here is the fear of being rejected or abandoned - and it is so strong that you would do anything to avoid the feelings associated with this fear. The manipulator works by giving you the acceptance that you need - and then threatening to withdraw it.

You fear expressing negative emotions. Although expressing anger and engaging in a conflict are never pleasant, some people will go to any length to avoid a confrontation. They want things to be pleasant at all times. They fear that they will fall apart in the face of negative emotions. Manipulators have an easy task in this kind of relationship - all they have to do is to threaten to raise their voice, and then they get their way.

You are unable to say no. One of the characteristics of a healthy relationship is appropriate boundaries that clarify who you are and what you stand for. In order to maintain healthy boundaries, however, you must sometimes say no when someone attempts to push your limits. If you are afraid of the conflict that may arise when you say no, you play into the hands of the manipulator. Learning effective assertiveness techniques is a way to regain your sense of control in a manipulative relationship.

You lack a firm sense of your own self. A clear sense of self means that you know what your values are, who you are, what you stand for, and where you begin and the other person ends. If you have an unclear sense of self, it is difficult to trust your own judgment or to make decisions that work in your favor. Without a clear definition of your self, you may be an easy target for a manipulator.

If you are in a manipulative relationship, it is helpful to recognize the personal tendencies that allow the other person to assert control over you. You can come to understand and explore these safely with the support of a professionally trained therapist. While you may not be able to change the behavior of the manipulator, you can change your own responses to attempts at manipulation so that you achieve a firmer sense of your own integrity. The unhappiness resulting from a manipulative relationship can lead to life-changing experiences that generate insight and the ability to cope more effectively with the demands of everyday living.


The Manipulator's Tactics

Manipulation in a relationship usually progresses over a long period of time. Manipulators learn over time how far they can go. They are unlikely to attempt to manipulate the other person at the beginning of a relationship since this could bring things to an immediate end. They observe the other person's vulnerabilities and learn eventually how to exploit them for their own purposes.

There are two basic tactics that are used to exert control, and they usually go hand in hand. The first is a promise of gain. That is, the manipulator will promise to provide something if the partner goes along with what the manipulator wants. "I promise - no arguments for a week if you'll end your friendship with Pat." The other tactic is the promise of avoiding loss. In this case, the manipulator threatens the partner with the loss of something if the partner does not go along with the manipulator's desires. "I'm going to stay out with my friends late every night unless this house is cleaned spic and span by the time I get home." (Of course, these two examples are obvious manipulation attempts. Most manipulators use more subtle methods than we see in these examples.)

Manipulative people have a strong need to be in control. This may derive from underlying feelings of insecurity on their part, although they often compensate for these feelings with a show of strong self-confidence. Even though they may deny it, their motives are self-serving, and they pursue their aims regardless of the cost to other people. They have a strong need to feel superior and powerful in their relationships - and they find people who will validate these feelings by going along with their attempts at manipulation. They see power as finite. If you exert power over them, they will retaliate in order to gain back the control they feel they are losing. They cannot understand the idea that everyone can feel empowered or that everyone can gain. When they are not in control of themselves and over other people - they feel threatened. They have difficulty in showing vulnerable emotions because it might suggest they are not in control.

Those who are manipulative usually don't consciously plan their maneuvers. They emerge from the manipulator's underlying personality disorder, and are played out within the context of a victim who colludes with, and unwittingly encourages, the manipulation. There is a wide range of tactics used by manipulators ranging from verbal threats to subtle attempts to arrange situations to suit the manipulator. For example, one of the more common forms of manipulation is called splitting - turning two people against each other by talking to each one behind the back of the other, getting them to dislike or distrust each other, and leaving the manipulator in a position of control. They may use active techniques like becoming angry, lying, intimidating, shouting, name-calling or other bullying tactics. Or they may use more passive methods like pouting, sulking, ignoring you, or giving you the silent treatment.


Some Ground Rules for Dealing with Manipulation

Focus on changing yourself, not the manipulator. It is not helpful to try to outmanipulate a skillful manipulator - you are simply making yourself vulnerable to further manipulation. You will not change a manipulator by focusing on his or her imperfections and trying to work toward their achieving insight. You may think that it would be helpful to share with the manipulator how you feel and how his or her behavior has an impact on you - but this is generally not helpful since most manipulators are not capable of empathy and may use this information against you in the future. The only effective method of changing manipulative behavior is to disable it by making a change within yourself, thereby changing the dynamics of the manipulative relationship. If you cease to cooperate with the manipulative tactics, you will alter the nature of the relationship. If manipulators have to work hard to maintain control in the relationship, they usually give up - often by leaving the relationship and finding someone else to control.

Assess the worth of this relationship to you. Depending on the severity of the manipulation and the damage it has done to your sense of happiness and integrity, you may need to consider whether it is worth it to continue the relationship. Of course, there are many situations (parent/child, for example) when you must stay in the relationship, so it is helpful at least to achieve some clarity about what you want in your life and assess how the relationship has the potential to lead you toward your personal goals.

Use assertiveness techniques to change the nature of the relationship. You might be so accustomed to complying with the manipulator's tactics that you automatically do his or her bidding without thinking about it. First, you need to stop your automatic compliance. You do this by buying time to think about each situation as it arises. "I'll get back to you on that when I have the time to think about it." At this point you are now in control of the situation. It is not helpful to let the manipulator ask you why you need time since this invites your loss of control. Simply repeat the same thing over and over again without explanation. "I need more time to think about it." Next, you need to confront the fear, anxiety or guilt that has driven you to comply in the past with the manipulator's demands. This requires a deep look within that may be achieved by working with a professional therapist. Exploring your own personal feelings, why you react as you do, and how to use alternate responses may be a challenge, but the benefits are far-reaching - and they may save your relationship, or at least prepare you for healthier relationships in the future.

Finally, you might label the manipulation for what it is. "When you threaten to leave me I feel afraid. If you would simply state your wishes and show me respect, I would be more able to listen to what you want." In a calm voice and with direct eye contact, it may be time to announce that the old manipulations have come to an end. "We both understand that you have a pattern of playing on my fears, and now you know how I feel about that. Your way of threatening me is not going to work any longer." In making these types of assertive statements, you are defining your boundaries. There is no need to make threats. Simply state that you will not participate any longer in manipulations. Make it clear that by setting limits and enhancing your own personal integrity, you expect a better relationship in the future. Learning to assert yourself in the face of a manipulative individual who feels threatened when not in control is a challenge, and doing this with the help of a professional therapist is recommended.

from: Who's Pulling Your Strings?
How to Break the Cycle of Manipulationand Regain Control of Your Life

This is a perfect post!  I am in the final stages of preparing course 1 titled "Setting the Stage Towards Empowerment" is the first in a series called Women's Spirituality.  This program teaches and empowers us as women. Initially, I designed this program to teach women who have been victims of domestic violence, rape, childhood molestation to heal and to grow spiritually, but it is shaping up to be so much more.

So finding this post was a gift from the Angels!

With love and light

Tami

WWW.HEALINGSOFTHEHEART.COM

Special Thanks goes out to the following:

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Wednesday’s Angel Message of the Day
Category: Life

Wednesday's Angel Message of the Day

Goals

What is your goal in the situation?  Think about it from all angles, be Honest with yourself.  You may be surprised with what you learn. It may help you to become more clear in your direction.

Great results can be achieved when positive effor is directed towards your goals; focus on them.

What do you truly want in your life? What are you aiming for?  Can you see or feel yourself being led in a new direction? Follow that lead!

There is a need to stretch.  Follow your intuition, your inner guidance.  The time is right to get things up and going.  Perhaps it is time to re-define old goals that you have set.  Maybe what you need is a good hard kick, aimed at getting you moving in a positive direction.  Move forward.

As you sit in quiet contemplation, ask what you need to become clear about. Learning to be completely honest with yourself, your true feelings, then trust your feelings.  Trust yourself.

One of the hardest things to accomplish is KNOWING what it is you want... most of use wander aimlessly through life.  We have an idea of what we think we want, but our vision, our clarity, has not come into focus.. Did you know that the majority of people who are unhappy or discontent with their current situation in life, are this way because they Lack Clarity. Therefore, how can you possible set goals to accomplish tasks when you don't even know what these are!!

So as you sit in meditation....or as you walk through the woods... begin taking inventory, you'll be surprised at the results you receive.

With love and light

Tami

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International Women’s Day
Category: Life

From: Lotus/Melissa Fem Mag
Date: Feb 27, 2008 1:34 AM


Respect,Chapinas Unidas



The first women's march in Los Angeles since 1994. What is that about?

Its time we make this permanent. Are you ready for this year?!?!?!

March 8th is International Women's Day. Womyn across Los Angeles are gathering in downtown on Olympic and Broadways at 10:30 AM to march and represent our voice in opposition to war. It is not just about Iraq, we know that womyn are fihting a war against violence, silence, and femicide on every continent. On Saturday, March 8th, womyn in L.A. are taking a stand together as one, to show our strength and support for one another as sisters, mothers, friends, partners, cousins, granddaughters...



Chapinas Unidas: Tea and Banner Making Party

On Wednesday Evening, March 5th, Chapinas Unidas is hosting a tea and banner making evening to prepare and represent our presence at the March 8th Womyn's March.

We will be creating a dress/es representing Guatemala for the programming of the march that will highlight 12 war torn countries around the world. It is a special part of the march, since it takes time to present, and learn the struggles that we share with our sisters around the world. We are emphasizing the struggle against femicide and impunity that plagues Guatemalan Womyn from finding peace and justice.

Bring (markers, crayons, posters, paint, spray paint, fabric, construction paper, tea, etc) ideas, creativity, and energy so we can share time to make banners, posters, dresses, and build on our movement. This is not limited to Chapinas, it's an invitation to womyn from Central America, Mexico, South America and beyond. Come through and represent!

***Contact: MUSE (Ana) on the Chapinas Unidas top friends list for address and directions.

(Help repost and spread the word, also set flyer as your default picture. peace. CU

This is exciting for me as we begin to see more and more women begin their Awakening process... please anyone who is near Los Angels or can make the time, please join in this celebration!

With love and light

Tami

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Tuesdays Angel Message of the Day
Category: Life

Tuesdays Angel Message of the Day

Gratitude

The time has come to take a moment and really appreciate all you have in your life.  Why do some people find it difficult to say thank you?  And why do others find it so difficult to accept?

A Change in Attitude changes lives!!! A great attitude creates Miracles in your life.  Don't forget to say "Thank You"

Is your response, in general postive or negative??

Little things may irritate you. Often these annoying effects push you out of your comfort zone and give you the opportunity to really grow...Be grateful for all life's lessons. Respond with kindness for beneficial outcomes.

It may not always seem so, but it is a great priviledge to be on this planet at this time. Acknowledge the rightness of where you are. You are exactly where you need to be, right here, right now. Be Present in the Moment!

When this message came, I found how fitting it was with my other post... when we can be grateful for ALL things in our life, even the not so great things, we can learn the lessons for which they teach, This brings Empowerment....choices, possilibities...and can move us from the "poor me syndrome" or out of the "victim" role.....

May your life be filled with many blessings

With love and light

Tami

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Path Clearing Intentions
Category: Life

From: TheGaianDragon.com
Date: Feb 25, 2008 6:42 PM


Ezeki Code Idioms (write in Kucinich)
Date: Feb 25, 2008 6:20 PM

My life has changed so beautifully and powerfully since I began doing the work on Miki Poko's profile. These path clearings are life changing. You really can feel it! God bless you :)

Thank you so much miki poko-5d vibes-read my blogs!miracleskucinich!!!
Date: Feb 25, 2008 5:25 PM


PATH CLEARING... This time through prayer...

***These will change your entire life the minute you finish all of them.***

YOU WILL FEEL IT...

Make sure you give thanks when you're done or through it... these are huge blessings!!! I hope that's known...

God bless you with all you truely need!!



CLEARING THE PATHS OF YOUR LIFE


YOUR PRESENT, YOUR FUTURE ~
"Thank you for blessing all the paths in my life with being exactly and only as you will them to be as of right now and forever."

"Thank you for blessing all the paths that I'm standing on right now with being exactly and only as you will them to be as of right now and forever."

"Thank you for blessing all the paths directly in front of me with being exactly and only as you will them to be as of right now and forever."

"Thank you for blessing all the paths in front of me with being exactly and only as you will them to be as of right now and forever."

"Thank you for blessing all the paths of my near future being exactly and only as you will them to be as of right now and forever."

"Thank you for blessing all the paths in my future being exactly and only as you will them to be as of right now and forever."

TRUTH, OPTIMAL, ENLIGHTENMENT, LIFE, CAREER, PURPOSE ~
"Thank you for blessing all the paths in my life that hold all the truth I need to know for my purpose being exactly and only as you will them to be as of right now and forever."

"Thank you for blessing all the paths to me being my optimal self with being exactly and only as you will them to be as of right now and forever."

"Thank you for blessing all the paths to my optimal health with being exactly and only as you will them to be as of right now and forever."

"Thank you for blessing all the paths to my optimal enlightenment with being exactly and only as you will them to be as of right now and forever."

"Thank you for blessing all the paths to me living my life, working in my career and fulfilling my purpose as you will with being exactly and only as you will them to be as of right now and forever."

"Thank you for blessing all the paths to fulfilling my purpose beyond its optimal level being exactly and only as you will them to be as of right now and forever."

"Thank you for blessing all the paths to me communicating with all the people you will me to communicate with, with being exactly and only as you will them to be as of right now and forever."

"Thank you for blessing all the paths to me changing my life and the lives of others for the better all day, every day, for all eternity with being exactly and only as you will them to be as of right now and forever."


YOUR FAMILY AND LOVED ONES ~
"Thank you for blessing all the paths of my loved ones with being exactly and only as you will them to be as of right now and forever."

"Thank you for blessing all my parents paths with being exactly and only as you will them to be as of right now and forever."

"Thank you for blessing all my siblings paths with being exactly and only as you will them to be as of right now and forever."

"Thank you for blessing all the paths of everyone in my immediate family with being exactly and only as you will them to be as of right now and forever."

"Thank you for blessing all the paths of everyone in my family with being exactly and only as you will them to be as of right now and forever."

"Thank you for blessing all the paths of communication for everyone in my family and amongst my family with being exactly and only as you will them to be as of right now and forever."

"Thank you for blessing all the paths to me having the perfect communication with everyone in my family with being exactly and only as you will them to be as of right now and forever."


YOUR WEALTH ~ (There's a reason for saying them this way.)
"Thank you for blessing all the paths to me receiving all the financial abundance that you will me to have and with all of those paths being exactly and only as you will them to be as of right now and forever."

"Thank you for blessing all the paths to me receiving millions of dollars of my own money easily and effortlessly every day with being exactly and only as you will them to be as of right now and forever."

"Thank you for blessing all the paths to me receiving millions of dollars of my own money in expected and unexpected ways with being exactly and only as you will them to be as of right now and forever."

"Thank you for blessing all the paths to me receiving answers to receiving millions of dollars of my own money all day, every day with being exactly and only as you will them to be as of right now and forever."

"Thank you for blessing all the paths to me receiving millions of dollars of my own money all day, every day with being exactly and only as you will them to be as of right now and forever."

"Thank you for blessing all the paths to me communicating with all the people that will help me in receiving millions of dollars of my own money all day, every day with being exactly and only as you will them to be as of right now and forever."

"Thank you for blessing all the paths to me having the perfect communication with all the people that will help me in receiving millions of dollars of my own money all day, every day with being exactly and only as you will them to be as of right now and forever."


PEOPLE WHO BRING OPPORTUNITIES INTO YOUR LIFE ~
"Thank you for blessing all the paths of the people that will bring opportunities into my life with being exactly and only as you will them to be as of right now and forever."

"Thank you for blessing all the paths of the people who affect myself and my purpose withbeing exactly and only as you will them to be as of right now and forever."

"Thank you for blessing all the paths of the people who affect me in fulfilling my purpose to the 999 gazillionth power with being exactly and only as you will them to be as of right now and forever."

"Thank you for blessing all the paths to me communicating with all the people that will bring opportunities into my life with being exactly and only as you will them to be as of right now and forever."

"Thank you for blessing all the paths to me having the perfect communication with all the people that will bring opportunities into my life with being exactly and only as you will them to be as of right now and forever."

This is one of the most inspiring pieces of Truths I have read in quite some time... if you follow these directions, if you stay faithful to yourself daily with these thoughts, your life WILL change....

With love and light

Tami

WWW.HEALINGSOFTHEHEART.COM

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Mondays Angel Message of the Day
Category: Life

Mondays Angel Message of the Day

Growth

If you have recently experienced challenges in your life, congrats to you for working through them and if you have not, then challenges may appear in your life which offer opportunities to grow. 

This pushes us out of our comfort zones and into an Awakening of sorts, into Action..Energies are aligned to allow you to stretch, to turn stumbling stones into stepping zones.

Challenges push you forward, reach out and be open to change. Let go of your tendency to struggle and use this time as a springboard to bigger and better things ahead..

Situations will present themselves that will allow you to grow. Remember you have a choice how you handle them. There are NO mistakes, just opportunities to learn and to grow.

Having the courage to keep questioning when the answers make you uncomfortable, not only allow for great growth, but also aids in moving you from the Awakening stage of the dance to one of Discovery!  This is where true Empowerment begins....

Sometimes this message stirs a sense of fear, dread, of doom and gloom on the horizon....for those of you....I might suggest working with some positive affirmations and some quiet meditation....for others, this message signals and exciting time of growth....far too long, we have sat idle within our lives...hoping, wishing, dreaming of better, brighter days....this message is here to tell you that that time is NOW.....get up off your butts, if you're unhappy with yourself or your life, begin asking yourself the question of WHY this is so.....write it down, look at it...and then ask yourself HOW you can begin right here, right now, Today, to make some necessary plans, a course of action and allow growth, change and opportunity to arise.....

This is a very powerful wake up message from the Angels...we all have a specific purpose for incarnating at this time...be true to yourself, allow your message to come through....stand up, take control and watch the real you, the authentic you, the True Self flourish as she begins this initial stage of Discovery and Growth.

With love and light

Tami

WWW.HEALINGSOFTHEHEART.COM

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Sundays Angel Message of the Day
Category: Life

Sundays Angel Message of the Day

Simplicity

Keep it Simple! Not a time to make a big deal out of it.... Don't complicate things and most importantly, learn to keep your ego in check and not to be carried away by over reacting emotions...Remember, it's not What happens to you, it's how YOU React to what happens.

Form your choices or opinions on what you know, not on what you think you know. Don't let situations confuse you. Do not be mislead by foolish complications. Be alert and sincere...when appropriate, learn to say No when you mean No and Yes, when you mean Yes!

Peel away the illusion, and cut to the bottom line. What are the simple facts? Be Clear. Why are you attracting situations that complicate your life? Does the drama keep you too diestreacted to think about your goals? What happened to all of your beautiful dreams? Are you living them or are they long forgotten? Why have you allowed your dreams to fade away?

Simply take a moment and focus on what you truly want in your life. When you have done that you've taken the first step in creating it. The time has come for many to sit back and re-evaluate your lives. Are you living the life you want, the one which you desire? If not, try this simple exercise.

Sit down and write out your story....the one of your life,....does it match the one you dreamed of? If not, then sit down and write out what is different. Compare the two...are they close? Do they match? If not, then ask yourself why not!

Next, sit back, take a deep breath and ask the Angels what you need to do to bring your dreams back into focus....then open your heart enough to see the signs that will be presented to you....and they will, they will come, but it is up to you as to how you respond when they appear.

With love and light

Tami

WWW.HEALINGSOFTHEHEART.COM

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Be True to Yourself!
Category: Life

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Our Yes Must Be Total
by Alan H. Cohen
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If your lips say yes when your heart says no, you are driving with your foot on the gas and brake at the same time. You will either nullify your efforts or lurch foward in jerking fits and starts. You would do far better to utter a full yes or a full no than to live at cross-purpose.

Do not settle for half-hearted living. BE TOTAL. Be a compelling creator. If you act without your spirit fully engaged, you sabotage your results before you even begin. When you are fully present, you are powerful indeed! Successful people throw themselves into the task at hand. They know what they are here to do, capitalize on opportunities, and do not abandon their dreams when faced with a challenge. If you wish to attain that kind of mastery, your yes must be total, so must your no.

If you sell yourself out to get approval, you will miss what you really want: AUTHENTICITY, PASSION, and ALIVENESS. When you say no to what does not match your intentions, you are saying yes to what you really want and you are one step closer to it. People with integrity will respect you more, not less, for following your truth. If people criticize or reject you for being authentic, do you really want to be with them?

When you stand in your truth, you will find out who your friends are. It is far better to have a few good friends who accept you for who you are than a lot of 'friends' who accept you because you are doing the dance they expect. The only thing more important than people liking you is liking yourself. If you can 'sleep in your own skin' at night, your life is a huge success

excerpts from 'Why Your Life Sucks'

alancohen.com

This message has such a powerful message that I felt compelled to share with you all....a special thanks to Lightworker who posted this message!!!....Being Authentic, being ourselves is such an important message....too many of us have lived our lives to make others happy and we usually do so at our OWN expense...

How many times have you done something for someone you didn't want to do?  How many times did you do for others not to upset the "status quo"?  These are all learned emotions and behaviors which strip away our own personal power...sometimes it's difficult to say NO to someone out of fear of rejection or fear of loss of love or acceptance, but in reality....we are the only ones who suffer.

What is needed, is to learn to become Self-Empowered!!  It starts with you...if you truly want to say NO, then say NO, and say it with love in your hearts....try it...practice it, and you'll be surprised with the results!!

With love and light

Tami

WWW.HEALINGSOFTHEHEART.COM

 

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Saturdays Angel Message of the Day
Category: Life

Saturdays Angel Message of the Day

Enthusiasm

Know that new energy and motivation are coming your way. 

EXPECT POSITIVE OUTCOMES!

However, don't force things with you own will....sit back and allow things to happen in their proper time.  If we push, we meet with resistence, if we Allow, we receive....

Renew your interest in life.  A change in attitude starts things moving. Look on the bright side, feel the joy and get turned on to life.

There is a shift in energy. Take an eager interest. SMILE. The energy is right for innovative ideas to come to mind.  Prepare for changes for the better.  It's a great time to begin new projects!

If you've been sluggish with chill of winter maybe it's time that you begin yourself, go outside and take a walk, begin an exercise routine, or take kickboxing class, sometime to give yourself a little kick start to Spring.

A gentle reminder is also needed here as to not allow yourself to become over enthusiastic, obsessive..the objective is to remain in balance ...Don't allow yourself to get pulled in to a situation that is not in harmony with your goals!

As Springtime is just around the corner, we are beginning to awaken from our slumbers....it's time now to stretch your muscles, stretch your mind, and open yourself to Spirit.....spend some time in contemplation...what do you want? where do you want to be? what have you been putting off? explore the depths of your mind...sit in silence....and Allow yourself to feel enthusiasm for life

With love and light

Tami

WWW.HEALINGSOFTHEHEART.COM

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